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the shark infested waters of the dating pool.

 

good defining.

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If my boyfriends faviourite supermodel or celebrity came along and wanted to shag my boyfriend - I would want him to GO FOR IT!! Cmon, how often does your dream girl come along, and want no strings attached sex?

I can deal with a one off, no strings attached, once in a life time sexual encounter - you know, as a lottery ticket winner sort of situation.

On the other hand, if my boyfriends dream girl met my boyfriend, they had chemistry, and she wanted to get to know him better................... - It would just not happen.

My boyfriend knows better than to let himself fall for beautiful girls, with good personalities. He has me, and because neither of us want to lose what we have, he would just not hang out with highly attractive girls, who he gets along smashingly with.

 

A super hot girl in your boyfriends eyes + a personality he loves and could fall for easily = recipe for disaster.

............... Most guys who are invested in staying with the girlfriends, would simply not allow themselves to hang out with a girl who was SUPER< SUPER, model hot, and who also really clicked with them... it is ASKING FOR TROUBLE.

Most guys in love would not put himself in a position where he would WANT to leave his girlfriend.

 

Most men will always have fantasies about the best looking girls in the world - it is natural to desire physical beaitiful specimens.

It is not worth losing a partner, who you dearly love, over though. A fantasy based on physical appeal, would NOT outweight true love.

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I think that both of my exes would have cheated under the right circumstances. But wouldn't just about everyone? There's the reflexive 'no, I wouldn't' that some might issue out of fear. But I think that if the perfect woman comes along, in ALL aspects for him, and he's very certain he wouldn't get caught...I'm convinced that most people would do it. Women too, for that matter. Then again, I've generally got a low opinion of people.

 

I'm also the ugly duckling guys typically date because they're afraid of being alone, they don't want family/friends to think they're gay, they're hung up on an ex who's too far away, they're desperate, or I'm the only woman around, so they might as well choose me. Sad thing is, I still think I'm the most attractive woman either of my exes ever dated. DEFINITELY more attractive than my ex's others. And definitely more attractive than all the women who came after me for my first ex.

 

My ex was hung up on one of his exes for AGES. So, I'm going to rip on the theory that beauty is all that matters. Oftentimes it seems to be the consensus that when men cheat, they typically cheat with women who are LESS attractive than their wives or girlfriends. There are plenty of media representations of this (assuming we're talking about conventional standards of beauty, which most of us do).

 

The ex my ex was hung up on? She was much more overweight than I am (probably at least 100 pounds overweight). She had a mannish face. When she smiled, she was ALL teeth. She would shave her head every then and again or get a mohawk, and it didn't fit her. During the course of that whole fiasco with him, I was very insecure about myself. When my friends saw pictures of his ex, they would fall over laughing, asking how I could POSSIBLY feel insecure and how I could *possibly* think that she was better-looking than me.

 

Then I realized it's not all about appearances. Sometimes, attraction develops through getting to know somebody. I don't think MOST folks would cheat just because someone's physically hot. But if they went for drinks and got to know the person a bit, and it jived...watch out.

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If my boyfriends faviourite supermodel or celebrity came along and wanted to shag my boyfriend - I would want him to GO FOR IT!! Cmon, how often does your dream girl come along, and want no strings attached sex?

I can deal with a one off, no strings attached, once in a life time sexual encounter - you know, as a lottery ticket winner sort of situation.

On the other hand, if my boyfriends dream girl met my boyfriend, they had chemistry, and she wanted to get to know him better................... - It would just not happen.

My boyfriend knows better than to let himself fall for beautiful girls, with good personalities. He has me, and because neither of us want to lose what we have, he would just not hang out with highly attractive girls, who he gets along smashingly with.

 

A super hot girl in your boyfriends eyes + a personality he loves and could fall for easily = recipe for disaster.

............... Most guys who are invested in staying with the girlfriends, would simply not allow themselves to hang out with a girl who was SUPER< SUPER, model hot, and who also really clicked with them... it is ASKING FOR TROUBLE.

Most guys in love would not put himself in a position where he would WANT to leave his girlfriend.

 

Most men will always have fantasies about the best looking girls in the world - it is natural to desire physical beaitiful specimens.

It is not worth losing a partner, who you dearly love, over though. A fantasy based on physical appeal, would NOT outweight true love.

 

makes sense.

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As I get older, I have been learning quite well the two urban myths of the sexes:

1) Women are generally more attuned to looks than men, despite social programming to make people think it's the opposite.

2) Women cheat just as often, if not more, than men.

 

Women are constantly concerned with their appearance. Why else is there so much make-up, fashion, shoes, surgeries, exercise equipment, etc. etc. for women vs. men? And you would be an idiot to think they only have this insane obsession for themselves.

 

I've found more handsome, good-looking men more likely to 'date down' with lesser attractive women than the other way around. I've also known way too many women that if a guy's looks and build isn't up to her specifications, she just will simply not be sexual with them at all vs. guys that will generally have sex with a wide range of women, body types, and looks.

 

The sooner men start learning this, the sooner we can get past the lies and nonsense of our society.

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The perfect girl is the one you love, but perfect for you not everyone. The girl i like i think is the most beautiful girl in world, not just looks wise, but yet someone else might think she is not all that special.

 

your question is too subjective, and not really answerable.

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As I get older, I have been learning quite well the two urban myths of the sexes:

1) Women are generally more attuned to looks than men, despite social programming to make people think it's the opposite.

2) Women cheat just as often, if not more, than men.

So wait - from your narrative, it sounds like you believe those are realities, not myths... Am I misunderstanding you?

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Nop the most perfect woman in the world could ask me to bed however if I'm in a loving relationship at the time I would say no purely because the person I would be with may not be a stunning page 3 model and I wouldn't care it would be the person inside that I fell in love with. Beauty is only skin deep as they say.

 

With me its 30% looks the rest is them there personality there behaviour there little quirks :)

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show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a guy that's tired of sleeping with her... men are genetically programmed to stick and move... it's what has kept the human race going.

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show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a guy that's tired of sleeping with her... men are genetically programmed to stick and move... it's what has kept the human race going.

 

so you mean they cheat on everyone?

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men cheat with less attractive women too.

 

About 20% (studies vary between 15% and 25%) of paternity is mis-attributed. Cheating has never been just for men, but we don't typically trick women into supporting kids that are not theirs. Go us.

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Really? No girl, if their guy ran into their favourite actress or super model - would let them have a one nigth stand?

 

 

I just deparate sex from the emotional and loving connection and attachment side of things. To be, it would just be sex. A really enjoyable thing, while they really want to be with you, almost every day, in love.

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From what I can tell of cheating and non-cheating men, cheating almost never has anything to do with how hot or perfect the OW is.

 

It's either:

 

1.) The guy is a cheater. He's the type that cheats and looks around for new women. That's just who he is.

 

2.) The guy is unhappy in his R.

 

In either case, men cheat with ugly women too, as someone said upthread. Plenty of OWs are less attractive than the gal the man is cheating on! Happens all the time. It's misplaced jealousy and energy to worry about hot women taking your man away. Has nothing to do with that, but rather with the quality of man you picked AND the level of happiness in the relationship.

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As a betrayed husband I find this thread to be pretty sexist. I wouldn't put myself in a situation where I'd be tempted by this "perfect woman". I've never cheated, ever. Faithful husband for 14 years, faithful boyfriend for a total of 4.5 years of dating.

 

It's taking a lot for me to not view all women as sneaky justified feeling cheaters. At least men recognize they will have urges and work to consciously battle them throughout a marriage. From what I've learned most women don't even expect themselves to desire anyone else...and when they do it's their husbands fault for not being good enough. Then they feel it's their right to make a move outside of the marriage instead of..I dunno...clearly communicating with their husband??? They seem to think we are mind readers and should pick up on their subtle hints, or just know already what they are thinking. So I know not all women are like this, but wow have I seen a lot of stories of self-justified unremorseful women since I started researching this topic.

 

Cheating usually comes from one or more of these things:

1) lack of boundaries

2) lack of morales

3) lack of self esteem

4) lack of communication

5) conflict avoidance

6) Narcissism

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you know my ex cheated on me 5 times then broke up with me even though he knew I treated him like a KING... I mean everyday he comes home I'll have dinner ready, when he's tired, I'll massage him from head to toe.... when I have money I'll buy him all the video games he wants... and in return what does he do... he cheated one me, and with who... HIS COUSIN! seriously!?

 

lol... now I just laugh at the situation... I'm happy with who I have right now... he's my Hubby.... but guys will take things for granted

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This is going to sound like a cliche but how can I cheat with a perfect girl when I'm already with the perfect girl? :)

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Really? No girl, if their guy ran into their favourite actress or super model - would let them have a one nigth stand?

 

 

I just deparate sex from the emotional and loving connection and attachment side of things. To be, it would just be sex. A really enjoyable thing, while they really want to be with you, almost every day, in love.

 

Nope, never would even consider this. Not for anything. I value my relationship to much to "let" my boyfriend cheat on me. Yes, while I do agree it would just be "sex". I just think that if my boyfriend is really in love with me, he wouldn't have a one night stand with his favorite actress, even if I said it was ok.

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I rather date normal cute girls! From what you discribed. The perfect girl is a supermodel type? Doesn't hold my interest because they come with FAR TOO MUCH BAGGAGE!! Especially if they're hot and they KNOW that they're hot. It would be a damned nightmare.

 

I saw one of those motivational poster gag things on the net and it was titled reality check. It showed one supermodel "perfect" girl in a tiny bikini. Banging body, bedroom eyes, tanned and flawless skin. The caption said, "Reality check. Somewhere on this planet, there's a guy that is sick and tired of her BS."

 

 

 

men are pigs. they will cheat sooner or later, maybe after 25 years of marriage. they get bored, you can be the hottest thing, treat them good... but they just get fkin bored.

 

 

FYI the ones who don't end up cheating or claim up and down that they'd never cheat are the ones who have a hard time with women in the first place, (ugly, no game ect) they would be lucky to have one girl give them the time of day. but if the opportunity came for them to cheat they would jump on that so fast.

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Look at his character not his looks. Good looking people are attractive and have a higher tendency to cheat because of the law of attraction. If someone has a sketchy past then will probably have sketchy future.

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I'm blessed to be in a dedicated, committed relationship with the love of my life. I've been married before with a woman who cheated on me--and didn't know whether the child she was carrying (my son) was mine or another man's.

 

I remember the betrayal I felt and the testing I had to pay for (to finally discover he was my son after all). Sure, I was tempted. But two wrongs don't make a right--as the old cliche' grows.

 

My cheating ex accused me of cheating on her. I never did, but--yes--it was tempting. Funny, but those who cheat often accuse the other of "stepping out on them". Over the years, I've dated women who've cheated on their spouses who accused me of cheating because their paranoid minds believed everyone cheats.

 

So...to answer your question: I wouldn't cheat with a "perfect" girl or woman. Besides, if she was so "perfect", why would she be cheating herself with an unavailable man?

 

"Perfect" looks only goes so far in this quite imperfect world. Besides, how would you feel if your partner cheated on you?

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UH, no... I wouldn't cheat on my wife. (unless she cheated on me, then all bets and vows are off).

 

Ok, with one exception. If Nicole Kidman said she just had to have me.. Sorry honey.... There is only so much resistance a guy can put up.

 

As to porn, my favorite is not the typical porn star but the average housewife next door....

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Some people will cheat. Others won't. It has nothing to do with perceived perfection of external opportunities. It has to do with what's broken inside of the cheater.

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im starting to think men care about looks more than anything in the world.

i mean a normal cute girl isnt just enough.

 

they always stare at nude women, porn..

 

Like I said the " plain Jane next door porn" is more of a turn on for me. One of the sexiest woman is Cher. (ok she is not the typical woman next door, but bear with me) Why? Not because she was the best figure or face, but because of her attitude. Her "If I could turn back time" video with her "sexy outfit" .... Anyone that could wear that is just screaming "I'm sexy and you know it". Sexiness is more your mental attitude about yourself. Sexy is as sexy does. It is not just looks!!!!

 

I'm sure a "cute girl" can be super sexy, very attractive and desirable. If you think of yourself that way, you can be. Maybe you wear a skirt a little shorter than your comfortable with, you'll have lots of guys looking.... Looks don't matter as much as a willingness to show off what you've got.... So no matter what you've got or thing you lack if you show off what you have guys will love it, provided they aren't totally gay. :)

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