hurting1982 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I've gone against no contact again n met up with my ex to get closure on why things didn't work out. We both agreed that we'd got in a rut and because of boredom and not doing anything every night the spark went. We've said that we've got no reason to fall out and were gonna give each other some space and just keep in touch from time to time and try be friends in the ling run. The thing playing on my mind now tho is why the hell didn't I fight for my ex when he finished it. I should of tried to make him see things weren't bad n worked on things. Now I just feel like I let him go when I shouldn't of. If that's the only reason we split then I feel like I should of put up a fight for him. Have I been stupid?
refreshed Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 But then what if you had fought for him and he had turned you down? That would have made you feel even worse. You cannot force a man to be with you that does not want to be with you. It would never have worked. At least you walked away with your dignity and self respect intact. You need to take the focus of your ex and direct all that energy and time towards yourself. Get a diary and get yourself planning! What would you like to achieve for yourself? What are your goals and ambitions? But in essence you do need to move on....I know its difficult but what other choice do you have. There's no point in having regrets...Its not healthy and its not constructive. If he wanted to stay with you, he would have. Its time for you to dust yourself off and get back up..life is wonderful...open it up And don't be so hard on yourself. Live in the moment not in the past. Hope you start to feel better soon :-)
Philosoraptor Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 You can't fight for someone who has made a choice to leave. The decision to come back has to come from him internally. Anything other reason to come back is coming back for the wrong reasons, and it usually ends again as that person knows they didn't come back by choice.
Frank13 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 You were both bored with the relationship. What is there to fight for? Just to go back to a boring relationship?
Author hurting1982 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Not at all. Fight to make things right. We both made bad choices towards the end. It wasn't always boring. We just got in a rut. We were both really happy and couldn't get enough of each other and then the spark went because we didn't talk about our problems and just left it bottled up
Tree_Salmon Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Not at all. Fight to make things right. We both made bad choices towards the end. It wasn't always boring. We just got in a rut. We were both really happy and couldn't get enough of each other and then the spark went because we didn't talk about our problems and just left it bottled up Same thing happened to me but it takes two people to fight for it. Both have to want it. Why should you be the only one who fights? When people truly love you they express their true feelings and show you.
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