Sagittariusgirl88 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Ok. First of all my boyfriend and I live together. We have been together for 4yrs. We were in a longdistance relationship for 2 yrs. Last summer I cheated on him and I told him and we moved on. I moved in with him in November. 2 days ago I looked at his phone and he left his facebook open. I went to his messages and I saw that he messaged some women that are his "friends" on facebook. One was a women he had sec with 5 years ago. Saying that she is beautiful even after having a baby. The weird thing is that he calls her a cow and ugly to me. She is married now. Another message he wrote to another girl he said that she really needs to change her fb pic cuz its too cute. She said sorry she cant help it. Then he said if he were single that he would flirt more. She replied I thought u guys broke up; then he wrote we are having one more try...this was last month. We were fine and getting along then. Another message to someone else he asked what's new. She said good and that she lives on 130th now. My bf wrote back when my other half isn't in town. Maybe ill come visit. Another message he said that he has to comment here because his ff will flip but her picture is really attractive. Anyway j know it was wrong and immature to look at his facebook and phone. But I did. And it doesn't change the fact that he messaged them. I did confront him and he got mad. First he told me he was joking to them...riiiight. We faught. The rest of that day. He said sorry and he wont do it again. I cant just assume that. I mean I was assuming he wouldn't do anything like that but he was. He told me to forget about it. I cant! He gets upset if I ask him why he did it. He said he cant even remember what he said. He told me it didn't mean anything. Idk...opinions?
FryFish Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Last summer I cheated on him and I told him and we moved on.Just posting to say I lolled at this part... you moved on... he hasnt/couldnt have by now... anyways, reading on now.
FryFish Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I mean I was assuming he wouldn't do anything like that but he was. HAHAHAHAHA! Oh the irony... see my last post... I bet he assumed you wouldnt do anything like that either. He told me to forget about it. I cant!And you think he could so easily move on from you ACTUALLY cheating... Either he was bad before you cheated or your cheating ruined him... either way, your RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED!!! MUAHAHAHAHAHA
Leigh 87 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Fryfish sounds like a troll - ignore them. I agree though - I do not think you should continue a relationship - your boyfriend told another girl that he wanted to visit her when YOU were not in town.. There are some things in relationship, that are just plain wrong. Certain things are really black and white; for example, a guy who sleeps in the same bed as a female friend of his: another example, are girls who are friendly with guys who hit on them... the guys will send them messages telling the girl they like them, can they hang out... the girls will not explain they have a boyfriend and therefore it is not appropriate to hang out with guys that lie them... Certain behaviour inr elationships is just WRONG - it should not feel right.... it is NOT something that a guy who is really into you would do! Telling girls he will see them when his girlfriend is out of town is one of the " wrong" things in a relaitonship.. It should not feel right, or sit well with you - you should/would instinctively know it is wrong. A guy who is really loyal and crazy about their girlfriend, and is in a happy loving relaitonship with her - will NOT tell girls he will go and see them when their girlfriend is away. Something is not right! You need to tell your boyfriend that " look, what you said to that one girl, about meeting her when I am out of town... I do not think we should bother in this relationship if that is how u feel about me, it does not show that you are totally into me or the relationship" Please do not overlook that huge red flag. No one on here can tell you accurately what is truly going through his head, though; he could be terribly hurt by your cheating ways, and be trying to get back at you; although he may have been truly into you before the cheating, perhaps he is too attached to leave you, but lacks the depth of feelings that a true , loving, healthy relationships lack... but he is too attached to leave, so he stays, all the while not being satisfied with you, and thinking about other girls. Honestly though, even without knowing the guy, something is wrong with his feelings towards you and the relationship, if he is telling grils he wants to vissit them alone, behind your back.
FryFish Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Fryfish sounds like a troll - ignore them. I agree thoughNot a troll... Just a realist... That is why you AGREE WITH ME.
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