J_weik Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Ok, i realy love this women. Alot. What is the reason for N/C in the first place. If i love her like i do, why am i just letting go and not trying? Also, I still work for her uncle, and she calls me up there. What should i say when i answer the phone? (she knows im not busy at all up there.) Shes also been inviting me to go out with her and her friends, why? I Don't understand. When we were together, we did nothing. All we did was sit around in my room, or hers and do nothing but watch TV. She broke up with me because "She wanted to have fun and not just sit around anymore." I understand that part, but why is she inviting me to go out with her friends if she doesn't want to be with me?
Author J_weik Posted June 28, 2004 Author Posted June 28, 2004 Also, should i email her letting her know that i won't be contacting her anymore? sort of a good-bye i guess you would say?
UCFKevin Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Contacting her to tell her you won't be contacting her anymore is kind of silly, I think. Just end it if you're gonna end it. Personally, I don't believe in the no contact thing. I think it sucks. I think it's BS. You're either together or not. F*ck breaks. F*ck no contact. You wanna know what no contact is? It's great and convenient for one person, and complete and utter HELL for the other. And guess which one you are in this situation? Regardless, your GF sounds confused but perhaps she's just trying to get you out, although I dunno, it seems convaluted to me. She doesn't want to see you anymore but wants you to go out with her and her friends. Curious.
Starnette83 Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 if she wants to hang out then maybe she misses u...u should go out with her maybe u guys can get back together..if after a few dates she doesnt seem to wanna get back then do the no contact for sure!!
SingleInTheCity Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 I'm with UCFKevin - N/C is a joke. If you are breaking up with someone you break up with them. If you aren't being treated the way you want or feel you should be treated then you discuss this with your partner and they either make a change or they don't. In the event they fail to change then you have the right to leave that relationship, however if you stay you have to understand that people change when and if THEY think they need to or want to make a change, manipulation only leads to resentment and disconnection. Ultimately you'll be unhappy and so will your love. Shoot from the hip and keep it real - Honesty is the greatest policy and communication is the best tool. good luck.
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