Ninja'sHusband Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Pretty simple question, what's the difference? Boundary setting is recommended to protect yourself, threats are view as emotional abuse...but what's the difference? One article I read suggested that boundary setting happens when an action is already taking place. Thinking more, I guess a threat would be more inclusive, like "I'm GOING TO PUNCH YOU!"...but boundary setting is less aggressive, like "I'm going to hang up now" or "I'm going to walk away now." or even "I'm going to divorce you now." So...to focus in, maybe take the more extreme example that could be more controversial. "If you don't stop ____, I'm going to divorce you". Is that abuse? Maybe it depends on the ____? If it's "leaving the toilet lid up" it's abuse, but if it's "seeing your former affair partner" it's boundary setting? More thoughts on boundary setting vs threats\abuse?
denise_xo Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I think it is about a) the context of the demand, b) how it is communicated, and c) the consistency/integrity of the person setting the boundary. Do you have an example with a bit more context?
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