edwards99 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I love her n miss her..like many who post here, im having a real hard time..the thought of none of our dreams coming true..listening for footsteps..wanting to know what she is doing..memories..omg....i cannot get out of the emotional pot im in..at any moment i can cry...i miss her so much.. any ideas....
Philosoraptor Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Take a breath and realize that in time things will get easier. For now just take care of yourself and foster your own growth.
Author edwards99 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 i read alot about its going to get better..but why doesnt it ever seem like thats possible
xxSRMxx Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Ive been an emotional train wreck for two months, experiencing severe lows when ive felt like there will never be a way out....one day though, you start to see a glimmer of light almost! it takes time though! trust me when I say this, take it slowly, when somebody breaks our hearts, we want to fix it straight away! but that doesnt happen. Im still broken hearted and at times experience anger, fustration, confusion, sadness....but them moments are becoming less and less frequent. Look after number one, Be your own best friend, the only person who is going to pull you out of this is YOU.
coltsfan1 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 You have to establish a life with out your ex. These things take time and don't happen over night. It took me 18 months to heal after my EX left me. Hopefully it won't take you that long, but if it does don't worry. These thing just take time.
CopingGal Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 i read alot about its going to get better..but why doesnt it ever seem like thats possible Maybe it's too soon to feel that way. I felt that I wasn't going to survive when my bf betrayed me...twice. I felt like I was literally going to die because the pain was so bad. But I did not.
Philosoraptor Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 i read alot about its going to get better..but why doesnt it ever seem like thats possible Right now just let life happen and try to enjoy the moment, not live in the past or future. Things will get better in their own time but worrying about it will only hinder your healing. Easier said than done, I know. Just work on focusing on what is happening right now and let life take its course.
Author edwards99 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 thank you all....i just want to feel better..stop the crying...n whats worse is it feels like its only me whi is upset here..i dunno on a side note i too was a colts fan when i lived in barrie.lol
Mr Scorpio Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 thank you all....i just want to feel better..stop the crying...n whats worse is it feels like its only me whi is upset here..i dunno Sadly, that is all too common of an occurrence. Both times my ex left me, she had me replaced before she even ended out relationship.
ToyWithMe812 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 i read alot about its going to get better..but why doesnt it ever seem like thats possible Yes to quote Coping, possibly too soon. You must be familiar with the expression that a watched pot never boils. Well. You can't sit around waiting for it to magically happen. It is going to take time, probably a lot of it, and it is not going to mail you a postcard saying "Ok, you are free to go now!"...It is going to occur without your awareness, and one day you will just realize, "Hey, I really am better off without that venomous c**t." I am not there yet myself, but have been through it before and have achieved it before. Trust me, focus your energy elsewhere as much as you can. It will come in time.
Exit Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I've been this heartbroken before and I know I lived through it and found happiness again, but sometimes even knowing that I always recover from this still doesn't help. My mind can still trick me into thinking this time is different, this time I'll never heal, but I'm sure I've said that to myself before. I'm 7 months into it and still need more time. It takes a lot of time when you really loved someone. I actually feel a sense of calm come over me when I just accept that it is going to take a while, instead of bothering myself with questions like why am I not better yet, or worrying about how long it's been already. I think I'll probably need a full year this time, even the person who said it took them 18 months above doesn't sound that far-fetched. Actually I had a family member tell me they were reading some article that mentioned that exact same time frame, that for a relationship of a couple years or more it can take up to 18 months to feel better. It's all relative, some people can probably get over a serious relationship in a few days and others take a long time. Respect it for the painful wound that it really is, and realize things take time to heal. I'd imagine like an actual physical wound, even after it closes up, the area stays tender, and day by day it heals a little bit but it might go so slow that you feel like it's doing nothing. But some day all of a sudden you won't notice it anymore.
ToyWithMe812 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I've been this heartbroken before and I know I lived through it and found happiness again, but sometimes even knowing that I always recover from this still doesn't help. My mind can still trick me into thinking this time is different, this time I'll never heal, but I'm sure I've said that to myself before. I'm 7 months into it and still need more time. It takes a lot of time when you really loved someone. I actually feel a sense of calm come over me when I just accept that it is going to take a while, instead of bothering myself with questions like why am I not better yet, or worrying about how long it's been already. I think I'll probably need a full year this time, even the person who said it took them 18 months above doesn't sound that far-fetched. Actually I had a family member tell me they were reading some article that mentioned that exact same time frame, that for a relationship of a couple years or more it can take up to 18 months to feel better. It's all relative, some people can probably get over a serious relationship in a few days and others take a long time. Respect it for the painful wound that it really is, and realize things take time to heal. I'd imagine like an actual physical wound, even after it closes up, the area stays tender, and day by day it heals a little bit but it might go so slow that you feel like it's doing nothing. But some day all of a sudden you won't notice it anymore. You're still a rooke grom
Author edwards99 Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 i just wanna die..i see her n hear her voice everywhere...im really scared..im not a strong petson here
darkmoon Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 get some anti-depressants, speak to a doctor, the recurring thoughts are typical post-traumatic stress disorder, impossible to bounce back just yet, poor you
caligirl23 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 I was on the floor, at age 31, crying for my mother after a break-up, so you're not abnormal in any way. You're experiencing pain and there are going to be some good days and some bad. The bad seem the most obvious right now, but it does get easier. Time is not your best friend by any means, but there WILL come a time where you will look back and it won't hurt so much. Be prepared, there will be times where you have those moments of pain when something reminds you of her or the two of you, but right now...baby steps. Try to get out of the house and go for a walk, go to the gym, or even try to get some free couseling, just to get it out. I promise you, it will get better!!
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