hiimgerman Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Girls like guys that listen and pay attention to them because it shows they care.Girls don't like nice guys; they like guys they can't get.The Cat String theory - disinterest promotes attraction So how do these all compute?????
Author hiimgerman Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 60 views and no reply? Any feedback would be appreciated =)
Nohbody Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 "Theory" is probably too strong a word. What we have are hypotheses that are constructed based on the experience of some individuals. A hypothesis doesn't become a theory until it can be reconstructed under laboratory conditions and found to reproduce statistically similar results time and time again. So start testing!
pteromom Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Girls like guys that listen and pay attention to them because it shows they care.Girls don't like nice guys; they like guys they can't get.The Cat String theory - disinterest promotes attraction So how do these all compute????? They are all true, but it depends on the type of girl, the age of the girl, the type of guy, and the type of relationship desired. 2
oaks Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 60 views and no reply? Any feedback would be appreciated =) Since you asked nicely... If we accept the assertions of your first two bullet points then the logical flaw is in assuming that the "Girls" of the first is the same set as the "Girls" of the second.
irin Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 i think the whole thing that girls dont like nice guys they want bad boys is a bit mis-understood, someone explained to me once. they want a bad-boy who is secretly nice to them.
Author hiimgerman Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 i think the whole thing that girls dont like nice guys they want bad boys is a bit mis-understood, someone explained to me once. they want a bad-boy who is secretly nice to them. So you are doomed if you are not subtle enough??
Author hiimgerman Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 They are all true, but it depends on the type of girl, the age of the girl, the type of guy, and the type of relationship desired. So we gotta wait till they are 30-ish?? By we I mean nice guys
Els Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 'Everyone is different', perhaps? Seriously, if there was a provable theory on 'what girls like', forums like LS wouldn't even need to exist. Women are humans, not objects, and therefore have free will and are each unique. 1
Philosoraptor Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 People like people who are just themselves. If everyone just acted normal and not trying to play games, or let the world's pressure tell them how they are supposed to act, everyone would have the opportunity to find someone they truly connect with. Just be yourself and do what feels natural. It's the best way to find a compatible partner. If someone doesn't like you for just being yourself you know they're not the one in a hurry rather than wasting time playing games. 1
zengirl Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Girls like guys that listen and pay attention to them because it shows they care.Girls don't like nice guys; they like guys they can't get.The Cat String theory - disinterest promotes attraction So how do these all compute????? Emotionally unavailable people (to varying degrees) like people they can't get or the push/pull. Emotionally available people like people who appear available and attentive. Not all people know if they are emotionally available or not, themselves, and many people go through both phases. The ONLY good time to start a R is when both people are emotionally available -- way less drama that way and better chance of success.
irin Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 So you are doomed if you are not subtle enough?? i dont know sorry mate, i dont get this whole thing, i just want someone normal and respectful.
insertnamehere Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 To the OP: you've just discovered that a lot of the advice you're given is beyond useless. That's a big step forward. A lot of guys suffer from the delusion that there's some kind of paint-by-numbers solution to women. At some point you have to face facts, grow up and accept it isn't that simple. Frankly, it's an entitled attitude to think "well, I did X, Y and Z, so now this girl should screw me!" in the first place. If you're not having success with women, the best move is to focus on improvement. Get in better shape. Get a better education. Get a better job. Go out and focus on getting better at socializing. Work on becoming a better BSer (in the good conversationalist way, not the evil con artist way). Like a lot of things, if you want to be good at it you have to put in time and reps. You have to be prepared to fail -- repeatedly -- and keep coming back and trying to improve. Truth is, be glad you're a guy. At least guys have a lot of room to improve no matter how wimpy and ugly and poor they are. Women get a much crappier deal than we get, because there are limits to what they can do to improve themselves for dating. My advice is stop whining and start focusing on improvement. Make yourself a man that women would want to be with. Because clearly that's not the case right now. The fact is the more attractive you are the less you have to actually do right. And that's an ideal target.
pteromom Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So we gotta wait till they are 30-ish?? By we I mean nice guys Not necessarily. My point was a woman who likes bad boys or guys who aren't available at 21 could grow out of it by 25. Or not. It is highly individual and depends on a woman's experiences. In general, "nice guys" have better luck the older they get (and the older the women get). But there are always exceptions.
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