smellybelly Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Hi Ladies, any success stories from when you asked out the guy? How did you do it ? What did you do? Did it turn into anything long term...
Sugarkane Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Never worked for me. Guys say you like it but i find it doesn't work. 1
zengirl Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I've asked out loads of men, some in person and some online. Out of the guys I've been in LTRs with, I've asked out about half, including Hubby, first. Hubby was easy. I asked him out via OLD, which has been my most successful mode for dating. But I've asked guys out in person too -- sometimes they said no, sometimes they said yes, I didn't notice it hindering me any certainly to be the 'asker.'
kaylan Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Never worked for me. Guys say you like it but i find it doesn't work. ^It just means the guys you approached werent into you. Happens to men to when they approach girls. Gotta approach the dudes who are open to you. Cant wait for everything to fall in your lap.
lso802 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 finally, women actually not telling other women to "wait for the guy to ask you out." 1
CarrieT Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I asked my current BF out - via OLD. First time I've ever approached a guy online... I commented on how much in his profile was similar to mine and that I was shocked he referenced a lot of the same interests as mine (we have eclectic tastes). I actually tried to dismiss him because of the physical distance -- a little over 100 miles -- and he persuaded me to at least meet considering. That was eight months ago and things are moving along swimmingly...
Lil1 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 The longest relationship I've had was with my ex HS sweety and I asked him out. Well... to be honest, his friend asked me out and I told him I couldn't because I was into his friend (my ex) not him:o My ex talked to his friend and they were able to squash it. Then my ex called me and I told him that yes, I liked him and not his friend. We were together for the next 7 years, then 3 more but they were long distance. The long distance and the time elapsed killed us in the end. I do consider it a successful relationship though!
newmoon Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 (edited) ^It just means the guys you approached werent into you. Happens to men to when they approach girls. Gotta approach the dudes who are open to you. Cant wait for everything to fall in your lap. i disagree. i think a majority of men, despite what they say and what women read, are pretty traditional and want to be the man. when a female takes over and asks a man out or plans dates, etc. it doesn't go so well for her, even when she's highly attractive. in fact, i would bet it's actually the attractive women that most often make the first move towards guys b/c they are rarely approached. i have made approaches to men and, being an attractive woman, the men were receptive, but these relationships never lasted as long as when the man was the initiator. in my current relationship i also was the one who initiated everything, including the first kiss, and it has been going for over a year now. but, i immediately pulled back after i 'had' him and let him completely take over the relationship so that he could be the man and feel in control, and that is why it has, in my opinion, lasted longer than other times Edited May 30, 2012 by newmoon
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