Pink122723 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Okay folks so this is kind of a long story but I'll try to keep it short. So my ex dumped me like a week ago. Said he felt like something was missing blah blah blah. I flipped of course, but have since calmed down. I saw him this past weekend because we have literally ALL the same friends so not much choice there. He tried to act kind of like nothing happened but at the same time insisted upon hugging me when I arrived and left whenever we saw each other, kept asking how I was doing etc. this guy has a lot of emotional scars from previous relationships (married a girl after being with her like 4 years then she left like 3 months after the wedding and took her kid that he had essentially raised) but he swears up and down that none of this has to do with being scared. His divorce was finalized last August but they had been apart longer than that. I was his first girlfriend after his divorce went through and we were together 6 months. Everything was really good. He was the one who said I love you first, had asked me to move in with him, said I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he didn't deserve me. Etc. then dumped me, and was kind of vague on the reasons why. Something didn't feel right, etc. still swearing the whole time that none of this has to do with his past experiences and the fears attached to them. I saw him at our friends house the other day very briefly and after I left he was asking my friend why I left? For me I'm like...why do you care? Then this morning I posted on my facebook just keep swimming from finding nemo and he texts me almost instantly are you ok? I said yeah...and you? He then proceeded with a long text saying his decision hasn't gotten easier and he wishes his feelings were different but that he wanted to end it sooner rather than later because it didnt feel right and he didn't want it to hurt me more by prolonging it. My thing is this-my response in no way suggested that he needed to send me a text with that much information. All I said was yeah...and you? That makes me feel like that text was almost him trying to convince himself that he didn't make a mistake. He admits it hasnt gotten easier. I know it hasn't been long but still. That combined with asking our friends about me and tagging along with us when we do stuff he wouldn't normally be interested in? He then posted a quote on FB a few hours later saying "you can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel." I posted an hour or so later a Hemingway quote saying "cowardice is almost always simply a lack of the ability to suspend ones imagination." I also changed my FB relationship status to single around then. After I posted the quote he almost immediately texted me saying how come you posted the definition of cowardice? Haven't responded. Working on NC because I really do want him back. I think he has a lot of issues from previous relationships (abandonment etc) that contriubuted to this. I think he basically dumped me so I couldn't leave him and hurt him. Now he is responding to all of my FB stuff and asking about it, posting his sad quotes etc. I am trying to stick to NC for at least a few weeks until his birthday party and then maybe go to that. I guess my question to everyone is...what do they make of all of this? Does it seem that he is maybe regretting his choice? Has NC worked for you when you wanted someone back? Should I just not respond to any more of his texts? Etc. any advice greatly appreciated and feel free to ask for more details.
Author Pink122723 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Oh and one of our friends who didn't know he dumped me just noticed my changed relationship status on FB and said whattttt? Not sure if I should reply or tell her to ask him? Let the insanity begin :/
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