Gulf-Delta Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 At least for me. I'm a musician, so music has played a large part in my life. And my life with my ex. We bonded over our similar taste in music. Just when I think I'm having a great day, emotionally, one of "our songs" comes on, and I' in tears. This just happened a couple days ago. One song came on, from one of her favorite musicians, and I just broke down. Didn't help that the lyrics were about regretting a lost love. I can't even listen to music I liked before I met her. Stevie Wonder for example. One of my favorites, but I can't even listen to it anymore, because in our apartment, we slow danced to a song of his, and said how it would be our wedding song. One of the first times we slept together was to one of his albums.... Does anyone else have this much of a problem with certain songs or music?
shayla Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I do, that is why I only play angry music after a break up.
Coffee20 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I usually change my music taste for a while and listen to completely different and new music. And when I am over I can return to my favourites.
g450 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Yeah I hear ya. The one time I broke up with my Fiancee about a year ago I went to our club alone and wouldnt you know it the sadistic bastard DJ saw me and started playing OUR song. He knew it was our song. I had to leave. I couldnt stand it any more.
alp-24 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Totally. We pretty much listen to ALL the same music. We started because we jammed together and now even playing guitar/bass makes me feel sad.
dicky_fish Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 1 year on since my break up and there are still certain songs, a even whole albums I still can't listen to
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Totally. We pretty much listen to ALL the same music. We started because we jammed together and now even playing guitar/bass makes me feel sad. Hear ya there. She was supposed to sing on some of my songs. I changed all of the titles and subjects after she left.
M30USA Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Gosh, my STBXW and I couldn't be any farther apart in musical taste! Won't have a problem with that here.
Headintheclouds Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I do, that is why I only play angry music after a break up. I'm with ya there Shayla. I'd say 90% of the music I've listened to post breakup has been angry. There are many artists that I can't listen to anymore. Certain styles of music too. Her and I went to so many shows and concerts. Our musical tastes were almost identical. It sucks.
Eddie Edirol Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Dont worry Gulf, you will get over that. You will be able to listen to Stevie again soon enough, you just have to come back to it in a couple years when youre totally over her. It happened to me, but I was eventually able to listen to that music again. So what I do now, next time I'm "in love" with a woman, I will mostly listen to her music. Not for myself, just when Im with her. That way, if we break up, I dont have to associate any of my music with her, and I'll never have to listen to her music again. Ha!
esteem-jam Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Listen to some detroit techno and classic hip-hop. I think I could not take a lot of Stevie Wonder in any scenario, once in a while yes, but not too much. Just remembered - my mom asked to burn a CD from A-HA (band) for her "boyfriend", as a gift, they also went to their concert. So I compiled what I thought was their best songs, in what I thought good order. So my mom pre-listens to this CD. And she absolutely gets hooked, addicted. Thing is- they all are sad, breakup, unhappy ending love songs. She listens to the CD all the time, and I have to "endure" it. Luckily this CD had to go as a gift. Later she begged me to make one exactly the same, but I so refused - said I cant take these sad songs. Phew. Just listen to their stuff- makes you want to cut yourself ;p In the long term- other music is better.
Renard99 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 The problem i have is that, sharing the same taste in music and a love of live music, we both turn up to the same gigs. Can get quite awkward at times when you bump into each other at the bar. It's the main reason i haven't been to a gig since November!
Mr Scorpio Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I certainly face this issue. Heck, I faced it even before the breakup. My ex is a huge Dave Matthews fan, so even before we dated I hated hearing Dave Matthews because it made be yearn for her. We also had very similar taste in music, so I've avoided some stuff that I used to listen to since the breakup. The worst though, happened about a month ago. I walked into my bank while Stevie Wonder's "I just called to say I love you" was playing. My ex once left me a voicemail that was just her singing the chorus. Took all my constitution to hold back the tears on that one.
thavens10 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Definitely dude. My ex gf and I used to watch The Town and True Grit, quoting both movies frequently. For our one-year anniversary I made her a sideshow chronicling our time together, complete with pictures of us, our parents, placed we went, and our favorite foods. I used the slow piano music from True Grit during the slide show. I was very proud of it and she cried happy tears after watching it. But now I have no one to watch or quote those movies with. She's gone, and just hearing the piano music from either movie (even in my head) just DEVASTATES me! Especially since the way both movies end either show or imply that some of the characters will never see each other again. I hope that in time you will be healed, I along with you.
Jingle14 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I didn't listen to music for about 4 months, everything had meaning and Adele was on the radio constantly. 'Our' song came on in a club and I went from laughing and joking (forcing myself) to sobbing in floods of tears in my friends arms in 2 seconds flat. I listen to selected songs now, mainly rock to get my anger out but I was floored in the car once when Nerina Pallot's 'All Bets Are Off' came on the radio. Ironically, this song was playing when I bumped into 'him' in a shop a couple of months back - I expect the words were lost on him, he would not have noticed 'this is how it feels when my heart breaks' being sung as we stood there together.
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