loveisagame Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 So, after almost three months of no contact, my ex contacts me out of nowhere, just to say he's "really sorry about the way he treated me an that it was messed up." I just replied "it's alright, its the past, no problem." The conversation ended with him just saying "ok". We were together for almost a year, and were each other's first love. The break up was really ugly. I initiated "no contact" because I knew I needed to move on, Eventhough, he still wanted to remain "friends". On top of that, he got into a new relationship just a month and a half after our breakup. Since I've iniated no contact, I have been feeling way better, my recovery has been good. My question now is: "Why apologize now? What's his deal?" (I'm saying that coz if I were him, Eventhough I felt guilty about something, I wouldn't have contacted him after almost 3 months of no contact, especially if I was in a new relationship) Any thought anyone?
mephisto Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Thats why he did it, cause you already in a new relationship. He knew he messed up and now he regrets seeing you happy with somebody else. He didnt feel guilty, he was jealous and his ego got hit. Dont ever reply to him, let him die in his guilt...he earned it! So, after almost three months of no contact, my ex contacts me out of nowhere, just to say he's "really sorry about the way he treated me an that it was messed up." I just replied "it's alright, its the past, no problem." The conversation ended with him just saying "ok". We were together for almost a year, and were each other's first love. The break up was really ugly. I initiated "no contact" because I knew I needed to move on, Eventhough, he still wanted to remain "friends". On top of that, he got into a new relationship just a month and a half after our breakup. Since I've iniated no contact, I have been feeling way better, my recovery has been good. My question now is: "Why apologize now? What's his deal?" (I'm saying that coz if I were him, Eventhough I felt guilty about something, I wouldn't have contacted him after almost 3 months of no contact, especially if I was in a new relationship) Any thought anyone?
Author loveisagame Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Thats why he did it, cause you already in a new relationship. He knew he messed up and now he regrets seeing you happy with somebody else. He didnt feel guilty, he was jealous and his ego got hit. Dont ever reply to him, let him die in his guilt...he earned it! He is the one who's currently in a new relationship. Which is why I'm wondering why would he contact to say such things... (I'm single and working on bettering myself, like im suppose to.)
mephisto Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Obviously he is not that happe where he is now to have contacted you. Can be anything but nothing suggesting wanting another try. Dont read much into it and keep your healing. Bet you he will be back for more. He is the one who's currently in a new relationship. Which is why I'm wondering why would he contact to say such things... (I'm single and working on bettering myself, like im suppose to.)
Author loveisagame Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Obviously he is not that happe where he is now to have contacted you. Can be anything but nothing suggesting wanting another try. Dont read much into it and keep your healing. Bet you he will be back for more. From what I've gathered he looks/seems pretty happy with his new partner. Personally, I think he may really feel guilty about the way he treated me, but I dont really buy the "guilt" thingy. OR he just looking for a reaction from me (I was pretty desperate after the breakup and did everything a dumpee should not do) But thank you for your reply.
shayla Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Maybe I'm wrong, but sometimes an ex will contact out of nowhere in order to see if you are pining away for him. Especially when they have someone else. Doesn't seem like any guilt from him, more breadcrumbs than anything else. The lack of your negative reaction didn't give him the ego boost he wanted, hence the "ok" reply.
Almond_Joy Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 So, after almost three months of no contact, my ex contacts me out of nowhere, just to say he's "really sorry about the way he treated me an that it was messed up." I just replied "it's alright, its the past, no problem." The conversation ended with him just saying "ok". We were together for almost a year, and were each other's first love. The break up was really ugly. I initiated "no contact" because I knew I needed to move on, Eventhough, he still wanted to remain "friends". On top of that, he got into a new relationship just a month and a half after our breakup. Since I've iniated no contact, I have been feeling way better, my recovery has been good. My question now is: "Why apologize now? What's his deal?" (I'm saying that coz if I were him, Eventhough I felt guilty about something, I wouldn't have contacted him after almost 3 months of no contact, especially if I was in a new relationship) Any thought anyone? I think sometimes dumpers realize way down the line that how they acted was ugly (if that's applicable - I mean, some dumpers can breakup decently and don't really have anything to feel sorry about). People reflect on their past and they feel differently about some of the things they did. This sounds to me, like that may be the case here. Your ex just thought about how things went down and realized he could've handled it better, and wanted to tell you that.
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