Stanza Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I met with my ex, it's 6 weeks since he made the decision. It was 100% his decision. We were together 7 years and the only reason he left was he lost the 'relationship feeling' (no fights etc). Upon leaving he said maybe we'd get it back and he cried a lot. 3 weeks after leaving he started up with a new girl. She's very different from me. When I met him, he seemed confident, we chated about practicalities and then normal stuff for about two and a half hours. He hasn't talked yet about collecting his things. 98% of it is still in the flat we own. He hugged me the same way as the day he left. I think his feelings from that day are the same but he's using the rebound to push through. I have the feeling he's sort of sat on the fence but using the rebound to push through. Thoughts??
jennisfora Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 i just got back from meeting with mine. im a wreck right now, even though i knew going in reconciliation wasn't on his mind. somehow it still hurts, and i met him because he wanted to meet up. i guess i was hoping we could put a happy ending on things, but, i just ended up feeling sad that he is gone and isn't coming back, which i knew all ready. he also hugged me, and i could tell he still had feelings for me, but claims he just can't do it, be with someone. he apologized and felt bad, and tried to make me understand but it just made me feel worse. i wish i hadnt gone. i dont know why they want to meet up when they dont want to rekindle things. i guess they want to feel better and get reassurance that they made the right decision. some of the feelings never go away, but if they truly loved you, they would be with you. no one wants to put someone through this unless they are a sociopath. the guilt is immense because they do still care, just not enough to be with you. it sucks.
Author Stanza Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 I felt like that after took took about 3 hours but was devastated, was like this massive fall out as I still have all the feelings. I didn't bring up reconciliation though. I think he knows that I'm still somewhere there so didn't mention it. Sorry you felt like that too, I know how bad it was. It took me about 24 hours to feel more human again, make sure you meet with some people.
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