C_ aguilar1980 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Ive caught my husband engaging in cybersex and webcamming. He said he would stop and a few months went by until I caught him doing it again. I even posed as an anonymous person online to talk to him and convinced me to meet him - which he did and much to his surprise it was me. He apologized, said he wasnt thinking right, swore up and down again he would not do it again, and gave up his webcam this time. By looking back on his online conversations, he never really talked about meeting any of these people, but he did the one time I set him up. He and I agreed to both go online and be inappropriate, and after about 2 weeks he said he was going to give up his camming - and gave the cam to me. He says he is addicted to doing that online and really truly wanted to stop because it was ruining our marriage. Things have been ok since (its been about 2.5 weeks now) but I have lingering thoughts in my head, such as what if he does it again, what if he is hiding another cam somewhere, what if he realyl did meet others online, etc etc. I really want to make things work, but its hard. I went to one counselor but it wasnt helpful and he refuses to go. Has anyone else had an experience like this?
Woggle Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Flirt with people while hosting The Voice on national tv. That will get him to stop. I am sorry I just had to do it.
geegirl Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Ive caught my husband engaging in cybersex and webcamming. He said he would stop and a few months went by until I caught him doing it again. I even posed as an anonymous person online to talk to him and convinced me to meet him - which he did and much to his surprise it was me. He apologized, said he wasnt thinking right, swore up and down again he would not do it again, and gave up his webcam this time. By looking back on his online conversations, he never really talked about meeting any of these people, but he did the one time I set him up. He and I agreed to both go online and be inappropriate, and after about 2 weeks he said he was going to give up his camming - and gave the cam to me. He says he is addicted to doing that online and really truly wanted to stop because it was ruining our marriage. Things have been ok since (its been about 2.5 weeks now) but I have lingering thoughts in my head, such as what if he does it again, what if he is hiding another cam somewhere, what if he realyl did meet others online, etc etc. I really want to make things work, but its hard. I went to one counselor but it wasnt helpful and he refuses to go. Has anyone else had an experience like this? You'll never have the security and guarantee that he'll never do it again. It's a risk you take when deciding to give a cheater a second chance. You live with the doubts and you accept that what you see is what you get. He states he's addicted, yet is adamant about not seeking help for his issues or to work on the marriage. Speaks of his commitment. He swore "up and down" that he would never do it again, only when you caught him. And if you didn't? Would he have met these online people? At what lengths would he have gone to with his addiction? It's one thing to be remorseful voluntarily, but it's meaningless to do it only when you're caught, and twice might I add.
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