StellaA Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It's been three weeks now that we have been on NC, it si so strange after knowing him for 10 years to get over not knowing what he is doing, how is is, is he happy? I will always love him, he will always have a piece of my heart. He was the one I pictured my future with, the father of my children. He was by best friend. Has anyone else got positive advice about getting over your first love
Philosoraptor Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 You don't get over it in a few weeks. But yes, it does get better. You never forget them, or anyone you truly loved, but you learn to love again and better. 1
geegirl Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It took me more than two years to emotionally get over my first love. You get past it like how you would do any other break-up. It just takes time, whether first love or not. That timeline depends on your emotional and mental make. Even now, after more than 15 years, I still think of him fondly but not with hurt and pain. I do wonder what would have happened if we stayed together but I am more so grateful for having the chance to have had that kind of love cross my path.
Derevko Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It took me a little over a year for the pain to truly subside. And as the other posters said, you don't forget them. I think about her from time to time (happy thoughts). I'm thankful for what we had and ultimately became a better person for having known her.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Of course you get over it; you never forget them, but you can become indifferent. Time truly helps. I still talk to mine; he has a lot of issues and he was my first----back then I thought it was love. He was my first boyfriend. It took a little time to get over and moved on to a new boyfriend.
Author StellaA Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Thanks guys, you are right. I will always have good memories of our time together. He has a lot of problems, including bipolar which he is not being treated for and wont admit he has. I could not live my life like this and have taken myself out of the relationship as my own health was deteriorating. I miss him so much and love him still but Im hoping I have made the right decision and will look back like you have all said, without the pain. I'm hoping it will make me a stronger person. I will always think about him and hope he is doing ok, but I also hope one day I will find love again and have learnt from this relationship.
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