ddlovexx Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Hey loveshack, You guys always have the best things to say and I'm at a loss... I was talking to this guy for a little over a month, (I made another post about it but doesn't matter now). Long story short at first he was wonderful and talked to me all the time, now doesn't really talk to me at all and is even ignoring me half of the time. I know I need to just let it go, but I'm having a really hard time. I haven't done anything to push him away, I don't nag him or anything, and since he's started talking to me less I don't really push or talk either, I figure if he wants to talk to me he will- but of course turns out he's not talking to me. We had plans this weekend but I know for sure he's not gonna give me a shout to hang out anymore, not after he's been acting like this. A part of me wants to turn around and say "What the deal with you? Why are you being like this?" but I know that'd just make me look foolish in the end. Any tips to getting over it? I'm just having a hard time because I really like him and things seemed to be going well for a while. I kinda miss him and it's bothering me a lot that he's being this way towards me for no real reason. Changing your mind is fine, being an ******* isn't. You know? Any input would be appreciated, I've been feeling really down about it.
Philosoraptor Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It does suck when a potential flame burns out. Just count yourself lucky you didn't end up with someone who is obviously immature enough to pull this kind of stuff rather than being an actual adult about things. An adult would have been honest about their fading interest.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Make other plans. This guy is not the be all end all of your life. If you dwell on a guy who doesn't have the respect to call about plans you shouldn't give them any chances. Remember, you have control over how you should be treated. 1
LittlePrince Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 You can confront him but it won't change anything about him or the two of you and you'll find it unsatisfying.
Author ddlovexx Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Yeah, you're right. And I'm not sitting around moping and not living life but it really does have me down, I wish it wasn't bothering me so much.
jakelongot Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It sounds like he is playing the "game" very well and has you sweating. I would say you should call him because that is what he wants. No shame in that. Alternatively, if he was calling you all the time and always asking you to hang out, you probably wouldn't be as interested in him.
Author ddlovexx Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 I would still be interested for sure, and no, I've done the whole calling thing... like I said, lately he's been ignoring me so it's not worth the chase.
Lobouspo Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Effing sucks I'm so sorry....we've all been through this at some point in our lives with someone. At the end of the day we cant make someone love and care about us no matter how hard we try. Go strict NC at this point. Never allow someone to diminish you because of the feelings you have for them...good luck, and just know there are plenty of other prospects for you 1
Princess71 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Have you tried writing him an email asking him what's going on? It might be easier for him to be honest in an email and eve though you probably already know the answer, at least you won't be kept wondering. I think the whole "mystery" of what happened is the worst.
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