justagirl64 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I never thought that breaking up with my boyfriend, whom I've only been dating for a few months could be so devasting! Especially since I'm a supposed be a mature person and have been through this before a few times and its mainly long distance relationship and for so many other reasons!!! But unfortunately it seems this person got under my skin and shot and arrow through my heart big time!!! I just feel like I have to write about it, so sorry if I'm sort of dumping on this site but just need to get it out. I met this guy whilst on a mini holiday on my own. Went to a pub trivia, I knew someone else there, and we hooked up. It was not love at first sight but I thought he was attractive, he called a few times when I returned home, and we became long distance 'friends' before our relationship really started. So in the few months I've been dating him, we've hooked up every few weeks and in between these visits, amazing text and phone conversations every day or at least every other day. And the type of messages that leave you warm and fuzzy all day, caring messages and calls. The type that when you dont hear from them, feels like a warm blanket ripped from you. You can get the picture I'm getting hooked on this guy. Then when we meet up for 2-3 days at a time, its full on, emotinally and physically intense, passionate but also fiery cause we are getting to know each other, and being in such close proximity for weekends at a time brings out all our faults as well. So we suffered a few major hiccups but managed to stay intact for 4 months. Then just as we are warming up for real intimacy and closeness he shuts down and its over. So I'm here left wondering what did I do wrong, or what went wrong. Our last date was odd, he came unprepared for the visit and seemed to be testing me on everything! Then he comes out with "I cant make you happy" seriously, that's so not the truth. I was totally over the moon about this guy. So here I am, I realise it was probably a long shot him being interstate, we both families and it would take so much effort. Also, I know and he also admitted he had a few issues (likes his alcohol!) that seemed to make our arguments much worse than they should have been. I could see, I knew, but still I fell for this guy, I really really liked him and how we clicked. So now, here I am, beyond my own belief and any self help, completely crashed over this guy. And I have no idea how to get myself out of this hole of not thinking about him every hour of the day! Its not like its my first love either, this is what gets to me! How long does it take to get over someone, and am I kidding myself he just needs a break to work it out??
Philosoraptor Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I've found that chemistry and passion is harder to let go of than compatibility. That last date sounds like he had already decided he was done and was fishing for a reason to relieve his own guilt. I think you are kidding yourself sadly. Just give yourself time and continue to foster your own growth.
Author justagirl64 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 Thanks that's a very nice message Philosoraptor! and one that inspires me.
foolishlover Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Heartbreak truly is one of the most panful things one goes through in life. A broken heart doesnt kill us, but we sometimes wish it did. Think of it as a blessing that it did end only after a few months. The longer you stayed in the relationship, the harder the heartbreak would have been.
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