exoduse22 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 On a table with friends, I have to act so interested all the time so that I won't seem boring and unsociable. I see some of my friends rest their heads on the table and not talk much for a while and my other friends like them more than they like me. I really feel that my facial expression gives me off and I know I am better than this. I can sometimes be very funny, but then sometimes when they add me in their joke I react inappropriately and sometimes it just really makes an awkward atmosphere which is just so bad. I really do not want to lose these set of friend's because they are the best I have ever had. Can you guys give me any tips?
january2011 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Find better friends who are more comfortable to be around and who appreciate you for who you are rather than feeling awkward around you. I suspect that your 'acting' interested may not be coming across as genuinely and sincerely as you'd like and thus the reason for the awkwardness. They can tell you're not really interested. If you have to pretend to be interested and faking it is not working out for you, then you need to try something else. Thus, we return to finding better friends with whom you are interested and don't have to put on an act. I'd definitely consider it a warning sign that you feel that they don't like you as much as they like the other people - it may be that they can sense your insecurity and it makes them feel uncomfortable. 3
Author exoduse22 Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 Find better friends who are more comfortable to be around and who appreciate you for who you are rather than feeling awkward around you. I suspect that your 'acting' interested may not be coming across as genuinely and sincerely as you'd like and thus the reason for the awkwardness. They can tell you're not really interested. If you have to pretend to be interested and faking it is not working out for you, then you need to try something else. Thus, we return to finding better friends with whom you are interested and don't have to put on an act. I'd definitely consider it a warning sign that you feel that they don't like you as much as they like the other people - it may be that they can sense your insecurity and it makes them feel uncomfortable. I get awkward with anybody in the world. Even my family. My awkwardness will disappear if im in a good mood or if I talk with people who aren't too sociable.
graciestlou Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I get awkward with anybody in the world. Even my family. My awkwardness will disappear if im in a good mood or if I talk with people who aren't too sociable. you're thinking about it too much...to worried you'll say the wrong thing or act the wrong way based on what u think THEY want to hear or see. stop it...just be yourself...after all if they didn't like u in the first place u wouldn't have been invited.
MissBee Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 On a table with friends, I have to act so interested all the time so that I won't seem boring and unsociable. I see some of my friends rest their heads on the table and not talk much for a while and my other friends like them more than they like me. I really feel that my facial expression gives me off and I know I am better than this. I can sometimes be very funny, but then sometimes when they add me in their joke I react inappropriately and sometimes it just really makes an awkward atmosphere which is just so bad. I really do not want to lose these set of friend's because they are the best I have ever had. Can you guys give me any tips? Have you ever been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome? I ask because when I read what you said it reminded me of that. Asperger syndrome (AS), also known as Asperger's syndrome or Asperger disorder, is an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) that is characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction, alongside restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior and interests. It differs from other autism spectrum disorders by its relative preservation of linguistic and cognitive development. Although not required for diagnosis, physical clumsiness and atypical use of language are frequently reported.[1][2]
Author exoduse22 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 you're thinking about it too much...to worried you'll say the wrong thing or act the wrong way based on what u think THEY want to hear or see. stop it...just be yourself...after all if they didn't like u in the first place u wouldn't have been invited. Yeah. I think you are right.
Author exoduse22 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 Have you ever been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome? I ask because when I read what you said it reminded me of that. I don't think so.
daisy love Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Google Social Anxiety Disorder. I used to have that and Paxil helped a whole lot. I had to get off it because it made me not want to have sex, tho. So if you have a SO, it might not be so good. Look it up tho, ok? Maybe there's something else you can take for it.
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