blutoj Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Okay, so he broke up with me. We went out for 2 years, had a great relationship for a year and a half. 7 months before the breakup, something happened in my family life that sent me into horrible depression. He tried to cheer me up, he tried to help me, but I shut him out. I was unhappy around him, which in turn made him unhappy. I was a horrible girlfriend for the longest time. After months of trying to help me, he finally gave up. He said it was breaking his heart not feeling as if he matters to me, or that anything he did was making a difference. Now, three months later, I am finally better. I can say that I've pulled myself up and am a whole new person. Breaking up with him finally gave me the push I needed to reclaim my happiness and find the good in my life. I've made many chances, which includes expelling what had made me unhappy in the first place. I've come to realize just how incredible he was, and how stupid I was to let it go. I'm not dating anyone else, and neither is he. He said he would be open to the possibility of getting back together. He's not mean. The breakup was hard, I was left broken. But we still talk on occasion. I know my faults, and I know why the relationship fell apart. And in knowing this, I know how to fix it. I didn't wallow in self pity after being dumped, but instead took it as an incentive to make myself better. Should I ask for another chance? He really is a sweet guy. I know he'd listen. What should I say? I know I'll be okay either way. I do love him, but I know that he wont be the only one out there. I'm just at a conflict of letting it go, spending more time wondering what would have happened if I had only asked, or asking and learning if there really is a chance, or if I really need to move on. I know it's never a good idea for a girl to ask for another chance from a man she was dumped by. It's a horrible blow to her self respect. But I'm not sure if that is the case with him, because even though he dumped me, I still gave him reason to. What should I do? Ask, take responsibility, swallow my pride and admit my fault? Or just go on, and leave any aspect of a relationship with him up to chance?
gmoore Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Hell yes! Tell him how you feel, either way you'll know you tried! Screw pride, be true to your feelings. Talk through what went wrong with your previous relationship & vow to make it better and right the wrongs. I have been in cyclical relationships before & it was awful BUT I truly believe that sometimes people really love each other & are compatible but the timing is off or people have **** they need to go through making the relationship at that time impossible can and often do make second chances work. Maybe I'm optimistic but I believe second chances can work if both parties want it to work. I say go for it but what do I know.
graciestlou Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Go for it. Rejection or it not working is better then spending ANY time on "what ifs"...
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