dragged out break up - he wants us back almost straightaway

[Nancy B]

I have recently posted about my feelings of rejection, dragged out break up and eventual moving out of my boyfriend over a week ago.

 

Heres a link if you want backstory.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/325284-its-over

 

This is his third attempt at ending it. I told him fine, move out. He has left and within a day he was regretting his decision. He said he wants to come back. He wants us to get a place together again for a second year lease.

 

I find it hard to believe. I accused him of just being worried about missing the comfort of a relationship. He denies this and says he made a mistake.

 

I was strong at first, but now I'm really starting to miss him. Still, he said a lot of things about how we'd fizzled out/became just friends etc etc that makes starting up a relationship again difficult.

 

Do I give him another chance or what?

 

It's like after months of pushing me away he has made me so confused.

[Tiera D]

there will be a 4th breakup attempt unless u punish him being so inconsiderate..make him understand that its very hard to reconcile with u,and u have to be treated much better

 

TD

[Gulf-Delta]

I have recently posted about my feelings of rejection, dragged out break up and eventual moving out of my boyfriend over a week ago.

 

Heres a link if you want backstory.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/325284-its-over

 

This is his third attempt at ending it. I told him fine, move out. He has left and within a day he was regretting his decision. He said he wants to come back. He wants us to get a place together again for a second year lease.

 

I find it hard to believe. I accused him of just being worried about missing the comfort of a relationship. He denies this and says he made a mistake.

 

I was strong at first, but now I'm really starting to miss him. Still, he said a lot of things about how we'd fizzled out/became just friends etc etc that makes starting up a relationship again difficult.

 

Do I give him another chance or what?

 

It's like after months of pushing me away he has made me so confused.

 

Only you can decide what you do. IF you decide to forgive him again, SET YOUR BOUNDARIES/RULES and STICK TO THEM. Let him know that after hurting you so many times, he needs to EARN your respect and love back. Let him know all is not forgiven, and you are not giving HIM another chance, but rather giving him another change to redeem/prove himself that he is worth your time.

[Philosoraptor]

I generally see this when there is passion but a lack of compatibility that leads to unhappiness.

 

This is a person you need to sit down and figure out why the relationship is ending and what they are unhappy with.