Hopelessromanticgurl Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Hello I have been in a relationship for over 4 years with my boyfriend. This last month we got in an argument and took time off(3 days) all in which he ignored me half of the time during our break he was a different guy. We have been together sense 16&17 years old and talked/texted everyday. During our break I found it odd he was able to ignore me not even a phone call. Needless to say I went to his house to demand closure,we ended up getting back together. I was the one that told him to have time off but realized my love for him was too strong for that. I found out that after we got back together that he has been liking his co workers pictures on a site, she is a pretty girl but he is her boss. I told him about how unprofessional it was. He told me that he thought she was pretty and would never do anything.he later took her off the site. I was botherd by it but that is in the past.now that we are ok it just seems like he always wants to be with his friends. He works so much that his only days off are Sunday's. During the week he sees his friends once or twice. I only see him friday- Sunday twice a week usually. Even those days he wants to hang out with his friends and they contact him so we hardly get alone time. He doesn't stick to the plans we make. He told me one day that we were going to hang then cancelled that night because his friend called. He knew I was mad and apologized and went to see me instead. Now one of his friends brings his girl that is just a friend to him over to hang out and it just seems my boyfriend is into pleasing others rather than me lately? Am I wrong to feel this way?..He tells me that he loves me and wants to have a family someday.
Leigh 87 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Most guys in love and who have spent years with a girl, want to see her more than once or twice a week.... My boyfriend is an independant guy, LOVES his time alone with his mates - and yet, we miss each other if we go even 2 days apart........... The problem with this website, is that no one on here can REALLY know how your boyfriend feels. SOME people will say that after 4 years, if he was truly into you, he would wanted to have married you by now.. Where as other people do not believe that marriage has to happen JUST because your deaply in love. No one knows what your boyfriend truly thinks; we can only share our own, personal experiences. With me - I would not be satisfied with seeing my boyfriend twice a week. I could make do with 3 days a week I suppose, but I would miss him al ot and we would text and call each other every day apart. Some people are not clingy and prefer a lot of alone time and/or time with their mates - when they are in relationships. That is just who they are, and they do not change no matter HOW much they are into a girl. Where as other guys, like your boyfriend, might need to meet the " right girl", that MAKES them want to spend more time with them. It could be that you do not compell him to spend more time with you, and he does not truly love you... or he would truly love you and yet just like his own time in a relaitonship. Who knows. What's important, is that your happy -a nd your clearly not happy with the time you spend together. You feel like second best. You feel like you love him a whole lot, but he is not acting like he feels the same way about you ( which confuses you, because he SAYS he loves you).
LittlePrince Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 How is he suppose to have quality time with his real girlfriend from the office while showing her off to friends with you around? Seriously you are so selfish.
jakelongot Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Probably not what you want to hear, but I think the best thing you can do at your age is to spend some time apart. You have been together through some pretty formative years. This is the time you should be learning about yourself and what you want individually. In some cases you might think you know what you want, but it might be a product of your relationship. People grow up and change a lot from 16-18, 18-23 and 23-28...i know I did. It might hurt to hear, but your situation would be much different if you were together from 28-32 or even 25-29. You really know nothing of the yourselves, relationships and the world.
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