jobaba Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 It's been quite an exciting ride. Not looking to get off either. To each their own. But I really can't see anyone not seeing this girl as beautiful. She's such a wonderful person too. Disclaimer: I could be horribly biased right now Good for you man.
Author Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Good for you man. Thank you I've never had trouble attracting guys (not that I'm interested ) but I'm sure it's going to get more interesting the way I've been floating around.
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 So happy for you that it's been going well, raptor! Well thank you, sorry I missed it before. So my update is that I know without a doubt that I have fallen in love with her. Such a fantastic but terrifying feeling. She's on my mind pretty much 24/7. First thing I think about when I wake and the last thing on my mind when I eventually fall asleep (it takes quite awhile lately). Now it comes down to how long can I keep my mouth shut as I feel I'd look much crazier than usual if I said it now. Not sure how long I'll make it though as I've been completely unable to hold anything back. I'm generally more open than most but with her it's like I have this unquenchable desire to say absoultely everything about how I'm feeling. It's funny now that when I'm wrapped up behind her that I'm mouthing those three words without letting any sound come out. Anyone want in on the pool of when sound finally exits my mouth and I put myself even more out there? I still don't know what's so different though. I was in a relationship for almost 5 years and it never felt quite like this. I'm not sure what it is or why I've been so crazy about this girl since I met her. I just find every little thing about her to be completely amazing. Everyone in my life can tell too. My wonderful mother sat me down and pretty much told me everything I was feeling because I'm apparently pretty obvious. 2
todreaminblue Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I guess patience pays off because I've met an amazing woman. Beautiful, smart, kind, strong morals, a good head on her shoulders, etc. It feels like more than the above though as I haven't had these kind of butterflies in like 4 years. I dunno what it means and it's such an exciting but nerve wracking, thrilling but paralyzing feeling. Right now I just have a huge smile on my face but also have such a jumpy nervous feeling inside. I feel giddy like a kid again. We seem to have great chemistry and spend our time together smiling and laughing and not really having much of a break in conversation. I know it's ridiculous but after the first date all I thought was "this is the kind of girl I could marry". We've been out a more times now and have more planned for the future. I don't know what else to write. Just kind of bubbly right now is all. Let the bubbles roll....congratulations.....best wishes.....deb
iambookworm Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Well thank you, sorry I missed it before. So my update is that I know without a doubt that I have fallen in love with her. Such a fantastic but terrifying feeling. She's on my mind pretty much 24/7. First thing I think about when I wake and the last thing on my mind when I eventually fall asleep (it takes quite awhile lately). Now it comes down to how long can I keep my mouth shut as I feel I'd look much crazier than usual if I said it now. Not sure how long I'll make it though as I've been completely unable to hold anything back. I'm generally more open than most but with her it's like I have this unquenchable desire to say absoultely everything about how I'm feeling. It's funny now that when I'm wrapped up behind her that I'm mouthing those three words without letting any sound come out. Anyone want in on the pool of when sound finally exits my mouth and I put myself even more out there? I still don't know what's so different though. I was in a relationship for almost 5 years and it never felt quite like this. I'm not sure what it is or why I've been so crazy about this girl since I met her. I just find every little thing about her to be completely amazing. Everyone in my life can tell too. My wonderful mother sat me down and pretty much told me everything I was feeling because I'm apparently pretty obvious. Happy for you
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Let the bubbles roll....congratulations.....best wishes.....deb I have but they drive me nuts. Thank you though Happy for you Thank you Anyone wanna give me a few slaps or sew my lips shut so I don't just start blurting out more than I have?
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I vote for: TELL HER. Girls dig that kind of thing. I can tell you it will bring you even closer together
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) I vote for: TELL HER. Girls dig that kind of thing. I can tell you it will bring you even closer together Well I don't want to put any sort of pressure on her. She (and I doubt many at all) is not nearly as open as I am. She has opened more and more every time we see one another but I don't want to rock the boat here. Things have gone really well and we seem to connect. She seems to really like how different I am than other guys (her words) and is shocked by how open and caring I am. But I feel like there is a piece of her waiting for this veil to lift off and for me to turn into a bad guy or something. I understand it which is why I'm not sure that I shouldn't just continue to eat the words and be patient. But so much of me just wants to go for it because I'm all in as it is anyways. I'm like someone who bet it all on one hand and I've got no poker face. How long have you been dating? Haha well now theres the issue. Not much longer than when this thread was started. I trust my heart and myself, but feel that it might be too early. Though everyone else in my life seems to read right through me and know I'm in love. Edited July 9, 2012 by Philosoraptor 1
Emilia Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It's been 6 weeks I'm guessing, that's long enough for you to know when you are in love I think. With my last love I knew within a month
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 It's been 6 weeks I'm guessing, that's long enough for you to know when you are in love I think. With my last love I knew within a month Well I'm sure of myself, just not so sure about expressing it. I guess I've been sure of myself for a couple weeks now. It's just now getting really hard to bite my tongue. Just staring into her eyes it tries so hard to come out and I keep stuffing it down. I've had so many perfect times to say it yet I keep pushing it back worried that it will scare her away. Yet the other side of me feels like it could help her get rid of that fear that I'm picking up about me suddenly pulling a bait and switch. She could also take saying it to be going further into the bait and switch... ugh I think way too much.
Emilia Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Haha very cute. Must admit it's easier for me because I don't feel the need to express it so much, not unless the other person is that way inclined. Does she look at you the way sometimes that makes you think she melts when she is with you?
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Haha very cute. Must admit it's easier for me because I don't feel the need to express it so much, not unless the other person is that way inclined. Does she look at you the way sometimes that makes you think she melts when she is with you? Yep, sometimes. Other times she tries to cover it but I can read her eyes, they light up. She seems to smile (or tries to cover it) the vast majority of the time were together. I'm usually much more reserved for as open of a person as I am. But it's like all the filters are gone. If it wasn't for my irrational fear of scaring her away I'm sure I'd have let the words slip by now. I know I've mouthed them enough. I've gone 100% crazy. Do they allow you to check yourself into the nut house?
Emilia Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I've gone 100% crazy. Do they allow you to check yourself into the nut house? I'm sure they will make an exception for you
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I'm sure they will make an exception for you Fantastic. On my way. Maybe I'll just hold onto those three words until I can't hold them back anymore. My luck my switch will flip in a horribly inappropriate setting.
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Awww, what a sweet thread. I say go for it I swear I came here expecting a different response. Someone to tell me I'm crazy if I think telling her that I'm in love with her this early on is a good idea. Instead I'm being encouraged to keep on my no filter approach and dive in deeper. I guess there's no stopping me now So a more interesting question is how does one approach this when they don't know what the response will be? I assume if I don't get it back I shouldn't say it again until she says it? I don't want to put any pressure on her. Blah I should have just went with it last night. Instead I sat there speechless. I just caught this glimmer in her eyes, my heart started beating an additional million miles an hour (added to the million or so miles it was already racing), I melted, then I bit my tongue.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 So a more interesting question is how does one approach this when they don't know what the response will be? I assume if I don't get it back I shouldn't say it again until she says it? I don't want to put any pressure on her. Blah I should have just went with it last night. Instead I sat there speechless. I just caught this glimmer in her eyes, my heart started beating an additional million miles an hour (added to the million or so miles it was already racing), I melted, then I bit my tongue. Just say it when you're ready. State the truth freely, without expecting anything in return. If she says it right back, wonderful. If not, that's fine, too. She might want to wait to say it when she feels really moved to say it, not just in response to you. I can understand that it's scary, but I think you'll have a good outcome if you take the leap. 1
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Just say it when you're ready. State the truth freely, without expecting anything in return. If she says it right back, wonderful. If not, that's fine, too. She might want to wait to say it when she feels really moved to say it, not just in response to you. I can understand that it's scary, but I think you'll have a good outcome if you take the leap. Well that's how I try to do pretty much everything, no expectations. I'm more worried about an awkward moment or making her feel pressure. Not really scared to put my heart out there though as it's well out of my control at this point anyways. I guess everything I've done has worked thus far so I might as well continue to just trust and follow my heart and see what happens. There will be no "what if" or regrets anyways. Once again, I'm all in Let's see what happens. As often as those melting moments happen I don't give myself more than a week. 3
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 So beautiful. You're not crazy, you're just in love (although some would say that makes you crazy by default). Haha anyway, I agree that you should keep letting this ride just as you are... Roll down the windows and just glide with it, and wherever the journey takes you, just go with it. these moments will be some of the most beautiful of your life. My only comment: if you say you love her and she doesn't say it back, I would wait until she says it before repeating it. I say this based on experience. In my last relationship the guy said it first and I wasn't ready, but he kept saying it.. And every time he said it after that I felt a little bad and almost weirdly pressured. Other than that, go with your heart.
Author Philosoraptor Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 So beautiful. You're not crazy, you're just in love (although some would say that makes you crazy by default). Haha anyway, I agree that you should keep letting this ride just as you are... Roll down the windows and just glide with it, and wherever the journey takes you, just go with it. these moments will be some of the most beautiful of your life. My only comment: if you say you love her and she doesn't say it back, I would wait until she says it before repeating it. I say this based on experience. In my last relationship the guy said it first and I wasn't ready, but he kept saying it.. And every time he said it after that I felt a little bad and almost weirdly pressured. Other than that, go with your heart. That's the plan. I'm just going to be patient like I have been and let life happen. I trust that when it's the right moment that my heart will let me know. Until then I'll just enjoy all of the crazy feelings. 1
without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Wow, I wish you two a life long happiness together!!!
Emilia Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 trust that when it's the right moment that my heart will let me know. Probably one of those movie moments when you shout 'I LOVE YOU' when the music stops suddenly and everyone looks at you on the dance floor
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Enjoy it, this part is one of my favorites! Hope everything works out!
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