rd1978 Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 well she broke up with me 5 year relationship,,and she is hanging out w/ someone else,,,, didnt specifically tell me that but ive seen them out and people have told me they have seen them togethor,, so anyway,, i started responding to her im's or phone calls,,, after ignoring her attempts for a month,,, and she was estatic to talk to me,, so she has been contacting me quite often,, this kid has never come up, we talk about genereal issues, i dont put any feelings in i just joke around with her and what not,, just like i would with a friend we make each other laugh,, let me say this girl is really insecure,,,,,, ok so i dont tell her what im up to sometimes ,,,, she has no clue if im seeing anyone, all she knows is im taking her calls now,,,,, But like when i tell her i went out { just in talking i havent triend to make her jelious or anything} she ask's with who,, if i get a phone call when im talking to her , she asks who it was....she is trying to pick at me and get info...BUT she BROKE up with me and she is wiht someone else, i never ask her questions because its none of my buisness,, yeah and sometimes i lie if im hanging out with a girl i wont tell her that, {maybe i should} OUR biggest problem in our relationship was communication so i feel i dont want to beat around the bush when she asks me questions ,, But then again some things really arent her business I havent initiated any contact in the 2 months we have been split,, but if i broke up with her that means i dont want to be with her anymore and i would not be contacting her at all! out of the past 13 days she has contacted me 10 of them .... but yet im pretty sure she is still hanging out with this kid .....
Ms_Sweetness Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 It sorta sounds like she wants to "have her cake and eat it too", meaning that even though she is seeing someone else, she still wants to have you there and available in case she wants to come running back.
Author rd1978 Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 YES i totally understand,, and i have said that to her in the beginign,, i said there is no way your going to have your cake and eat it to,, not with a boyfriend of 5 years ,, so i think im going to distance myself off of the computer to find out if thats the reason or not,, I think she may be wondering if im with anyone,, because even though it would sound fair if we were bolth with other people she would take it alot harder than me ,, like i said she is very insecure and very jelious... i just dont know why she contacts me so much,,, im sure she misses me but she also jumped right in with this other kid after we broke up,, but im assuming since he always asked her to hang out that he took her mind off of it ,, But i think it will come back to haunt her,,, because she never took the time to get over me.... i dont know what to do i think im going to slightly distance myself for a while ,, she has gotten in the routine of talking to me every day,, so i think disturbing that would do some good,,,,,I really dont know who the hell she thinks she is
dazednconfuzed Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 My situation is kinda similar. Right after she kicked me to the curb, she insisted on being friends. She'd call every day to tell me about her new "friend" and how they had so much in common. Finally I couldn't take anymore and told her to lose my phone number. Now after 2 months of absolutely no contact, she writes me an e-mail wondering how I'm doing ... and letting me now that she met someone, went out with that person and is getting together with that person again. Really classy. Like your ex, I think she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She either is trying to hurt me, or she wants me to be jealous and chase her again ... just in case things with this new date don't work out.
Author rd1978 Posted June 28, 2004 Author Posted June 28, 2004 yeah thats fu*ked up,, i dont know what my ex is up to ,, i know she still loves me and i know she is wondering her nice little ass of if she made a huge mistake,,, But i also know she is hanging out with someone and talked to them before we broke up,, i almost think she started hanging out with him in spite ,, and because that was the only possible way she could get away from me,,,,, But now since the dust has settled i dont know whats going on,, she had been trying to contact me from day 1 after we broke up,, and i figured there is nothing to talk about,, BUT after a couple of weeks ive awnsered and have been talking to her for almost everyday for the past 2 weeks,, she contacts me i havent done a damn thing to contact her since we broke up..... she hasnt said anything about this other guy,, and i havent said anything about any girls,,, im just sick of the bull****,, i think im going to make myself very unavailaible and see what happens ,, see if she gets a little taste of reality when she only has her man of 2 months ,, and her man of 5 years leaves the picture for good..... ITs bull**** because if i broke up with someone i would NOT be contacting them,, she hasnt said a thing about being friends,, but if she found out i was seeing someone else she wouldnt be able to handle it,, no matter how happy she is,,, she seems to have a problem with accepting the fairness of things,, like it seems ok for her to do something... but not ok for me to do the same
dazednconfuzed Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I think that it's really tough to be friends with your ex because I'm not sure the friendship is sincere. I think it's about making the other person hurt, jealous, infuriated, crazy ... I'm not sure. For example, my ex has been hounding me to be friends on and off for years. For one reason or another, I have always broken contact with her. For her, it is not about friendship ... it is about control. She likes to brag about her love interests, but worse than that, she likes to belittle me. She tells me she only dates "gorgeous" people and tries to send me pics of those people. Up until now, she has been on ignore on instant messenger and one day I had to reload my YAHOO so she was taken off the ignore list. That was enough time for her to get her jabs in ... She wants me to chase after her ... even when she's with somebody new ... even though I've told her I have somebody special in my life. She wants to make me feel like I'm not gorgeous enough for her to date. And I think she must really be controlling ... a jerk ... or a very miserable human being.
LuvBite Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Hey dude you need to tell her straight how you feel and what you know, then tell her that if she's not willing to get back together then she should grow up or go away. I've been there and they usually just go away lol. LB
queenie01 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 You know whats funny about this is that only girls do this crap...email you and tell you about their new love interest. If they are so damn happy they shouldnt care to email you right??? I dont think most guys would email their ex to tell them they have met someone new. They could careless, if they have met someone new then they wouldnt think or care about their ex and how shes been! Am i right or what?
dazednconfuzed Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 You're absolutely right ... Women are catty! They delight in this sort of behavior! And I have to believe it's because she isn't happy that she still feels the need to "check up" on me.
Recommended Posts