smoochie Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 My bf and I broke up over the weekend and I trying to figure out should I delete him or not. He broke up with me and hasn't dropped me from FB. I believe if you end things with me, we do not need to see each other or keep in contact but don't want to seem petty by deleting him. I have not tried to contact him with the exception of an emotional FB post that was veiled towards him that night of the breakup but took it down the next morning. Its been a few days and today is so much better than the first one. Kinda surprised I'm not cutting my wrists but still do not have a good appetite. A friend said to call him today but my pride won't let me (it's been three days). He walked away, he knows how to walk back. But as of right now, I feel no need to open myself up to possible rejection or not answered text/call. Lol.....so back to my original question, do I delete him or not? Thanks.
january2011 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I say, "yes." Who cares if it seems petty? You're no longer together and you're protecting your heart and your sanity. You're moving on. You're not using FB to send him spiteful little missives - now that really would petty. 1
Lil1 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Delete! "I believe if you end things with me, we do not need to see each other or keep in contact" Yes! Stay true to yourself OP. He's the one that walked away.
Double D Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Definetly delete! See it as a start of moving on + starting NC! Wish u well!
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 delete/block. He is no longer in your life and your life is none of his business.
Pistol pete Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 My ex contacted me last night on fb after 2 weeks of nc, just to say she was unfriending me because her looking at my page all the time made her too upset. Since doing that, it gave me the shove I needed to delete her from my msn, and remove her number from my phone. Of course, it sucks.. but, now I no longer check to make sure she's online every 5 minutes. It gives you a kind of closure, not complete, obviously.. but it helps you to at least let go of a large chunk of it. I say, do it. 1
noodlecheese Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I would recommend that you delete. Exes are exes for a reason, and the best way to move on is to move forward with no hesitation and expectation from the past. By having his FB it means that you can return to his page and visit, which could become a compulsive act on your end if you are not over him. Deleting him is the best option for you. It won't feel good at first, but knowing that you won't be able to view his page will mean that your conscious will be at ease -- and it means that you can start focusing on yourself, and start your own healing.
geegirl Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 My bf and I broke up over the weekend and I trying to figure out should I delete him or not. He broke up with me and hasn't dropped me from FB. I believe if you end things with me, we do not need to see each other or keep in contact but don't want to seem petty by deleting him. Let's see how "petty" it is when you have the itch to check his FB one day and you find that he's moved on with another. Deleting isn't about pettiness. It's about removing yourself from reminders or triggers that can cause you to derail or stagnate. A break-up is a break-up, there is nothing petty about it. 2
barese1 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Everyone's advice is right. Delete away! It's not petty, it's about YOUR sanity and YOUR healing. When you aren't with someone you have to do all you can to heal those wounds. Having the option to see what they are doing all the time will only hurt. I had to delete my ex a couple of weeks ago, and its made it easier. Everytime I looked at her wall I just saw how much fun she was having and how the break up didn't effect her. The less you know the better, coz now you should be concentrating on yourself and no one else
DuchessKaye Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I say you should delete or even block him. Do not try to still have him in your friends list. That will only hurt you. It is time for you to forget him as best as you can. Sitting up there, looking at his happy faces on his recent updates and uploaded pictures will only make the pain worse. You don't want yourself to feel that.
Razzle Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I'm sure breakup's these days are much harder than they were 10 years ago with all this social networking going on. My rule was simple delete the person along with her friends and family I wanted nothing to do with them at all, facebook, msn, phone numbers the whole works. As said it is about you not them.
nanbullen Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Delete him. You'll never feel better after looking at his page, and one day he'll post a picture of his new girlfriend. He broke up with you. Who cares if he thinks you're petty? That's just an excuse you're using to not unfriend/block him.
nanbullen Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I'm sure breakup's these days are much harder than they were 10 years ago with all this social networking going on. My rule was simple delete the person along with her friends and family I wanted nothing to do with them at all, facebook, msn, phone numbers the whole works. As said it is about you not them. That is so true. I was just saying, break ups were soooo much easier to get through when you had no idea what your ex was doing.
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