zigg1 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 so i told this girl i have feelings for her and she said she does not feel the same way and she just thinks of me as a freind. This girl is the type that if she does not like u she will not talk to u ever again... Now she wont stop talking to me, like day and night texting every day. More than before we both work together and at work the other day i barely paid any attention to her and i hung out with the other girls at lunch and showed i can have a good time without her. She even came as far as following me and another girl through the store pretending to do work around us lol. she never goes on lunch with anybody but herself. But the same day she asked the most annoying guy to go with her and everyone who saw was puzzled and the ones that i told about my feelings for her told me shes playing games. lol So i don't get it, if i dont text her back for a few minutes she will keep texting me. She made it very very clear that she is not looking for a boyfriend or that she has feelings for me. i am puzzled. LOL. Ladies have u ever done this to a guy? I dont get it lol.
january2011 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 No, I've never done this to a guy. Firstly, I hate texting back and forth... I think that you have three options: 1) continue texting and allowing her to carry on confusing you; 2) call her out and ask her why she's texting you so much when she's told you that she's not interested - tell her that you're not interested in being 'just friends'; 3) ignore her and spend time investing in someone else where there's mutual interest. I suggest a combination of 2 and 3. 3
dasein Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 She's using your as an emotional cushion and attention supply. Blow her off. Once a woman says she isn't interested, fade out entirely and ignore any crumb throwing they do. Spend your time finding options who are interested in you. Remember, it's all for -her- benefit, not yours, that's lopsided and if you allow it, it's on you. 2
Author zigg1 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 that may be true, but i mean we are good freinds, so i dont know what to do. she comforts me and i comfort her, we both make each other smile. i dont get it lol. i guess i will stop texting back so much and see what happens. I just notice it bothers the **** outta her when im with other girls
dasein Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I just notice it bothers the **** outta her when im with other girls HINT big f-cking HINT HINT! Then GET with other girls and rub her nose in it. Sorry to say, but that's really one of the only ways to turn one around who told you she isn't interested but continues to throw out mixed signals. Show her you have options and maybe, small chance, maybe, she will decide to sh-t or get off the pot with you. Good luck.
TheFinalWord Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Hey bro, we know you are hoping this is a sign she will change her mind. Hate to break it to you, but it isn't. If someone says they're not interested in you that way, you have to bail unless you can actually hang around her and no longer feel that way for her. Otherwise you will be an orbiter pining away. Best way is to treat it like a break-up. Cut off all the contact. Just be straightforward with her. You may be her friend, but secretly if you hope she'll change your mind all you're doing is setting yourself up for perpetual heartache.
Author zigg1 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Hey bro, we know you are hoping this is a sign she will change her mind. Hate to break it to you, but it isn't. If someone says they're not interested in you that way, you have to bail unless you can actually hang around her and no longer feel that way for her. Otherwise you will be an orbiter pining away. Best way is to treat it like a break-up. Cut off all the contact. Just be straightforward with her. You may be her friend, but secretly if you hope she'll change your mind all you're doing is setting yourself up for perpetual heartache. true words, i agree, i honestly at this point realize i did not actually have feelings for her, i just was infatuated and jumped the gun. She does not want to have sex, penises disgust her, shes 18 im 21, a bit immature about things, not very bright. Crazy ass parents who follow her and abuse her. Big trust issues, acts awkward all the time. i don't know what i was thinking. I have been down this road before with another girl and she used me. I wont let it happen again. I just promised her i wont make things awkward between us and now shes just starting to get very close to me, closer than before. Well next week we have a get together at work, we are all going bowling. There is another girl at work that has interest in me. I will be hanging with her the whole time. I hope she gets the idea.
TheFinalWord Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 true words, i agree, i honestly at this point realize i did not actually have feelings for her, i just was infatuated and jumped the gun. She does not want to have sex, penises disgust her, shes 18 im 21, a bit immature about things, not very bright. Crazy ass parents who follow her and abuse her. Big trust issues, acts awkward all the time. i don't know what i was thinking. I have been down this road before with another girl and she used me. I wont let it happen again. I just promised her i wont make things awkward between us and now shes just starting to get very close to me, closer than before. Well next week we have a get together at work, we are all going bowling. There is another girl at work that has interest in me. I will be hanging with her the whole time. I hope she gets the idea. I think you have the right idea. At 18, she is actually kind of smart not to get in to deep with any guy. That's really young. But at the same time, don't get played. Good luck!
Author zigg1 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 I think you have the right idea. At 18, she is actually kind of smart not to get in to deep with any guy. That's really young. But at the same time, don't get played. Good luck! thanks, i wont, i dont even let her touch me anymore and she doesnt like it. but i dont mind if the other girl at work does. LOL im really good at playing games. the good thing about being a guy is that we can let women be up on us and we wont get judged in a bad way, but women cant do that with men... let the games begin
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