dark1san Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Granted it was only a first date, and it was a spur of the moment, neither of us had anything going on so moved our first date up a couple days. And she must've liked me even me not being dressed up. She was like we need to do this again soon and we said how bout thursday like we originally planned? So we have a second date thursday night. I want to tell her I really like her, but don't want to scare her off, should I wait until after our date thursday or just all and all out tell her?
pteromom Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Be honest, but be realistic. You really like what you know so far, but after one date, you don't know her yet... So just tell her that you are enjoying getting to know her and are having a great time with her. If she says "Me too", great. It's going ok so far.
dasein Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Don't tell her ANYTHING about feelings at this point. SHOW her by your light, funny, politely physically forward behavior that you like her. There is no need for any emotional declarations at all. Just keep taking her out, having fun, escalating physically. You can tell her what you feel about her when she is having an orgasm underneath you (or on top ), not until. Good luck. 1
SJC2008 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 (edited) Glad you had a great date! Don't scare her off by telling her you like her! Which leads to my question below the quote. Don't tell her ANYTHING about feelings at this point. SHOW her by your light, funny, politely physically forward behavior that you like her. There is no need for any emotional declarations at all. Just keep taking her out, having fun, escalating physically. You can tell her what you feel about her when she is having an orgasm underneath you (or on top ), not until. Good luck. I really started to like the last girl I dated by our 3rd date and was advised not to tell her. What is the whole "theory" on NOT telling a woman you like her or how you feel until things are serious?? Seems to be a rule if thumb, just curious. Edited May 30, 2012 by SJC2008 Changed something
bamp78 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Glad you had a great date! Tell her you had a good time and would like to take her out again. Don't scare her off by telling her you like her! Too much too soon scares both sexes IMO. I really started to like the last girl I dated by our 3rd date and was advised not to tell her. What is the whole "theory" on NOT telling a woman you like her or how you feel until things are serious?? Seems to be a rule if thumb, just curious. It's about being a challenge, not needy, having options etc. Mostly bs if the two of you like each other but most people can't handle talking about it early on. I personally don't bring it up and show interest in planning things with each other and putting effort into getting to know someone. That said i would err on not talking about anything serious and just having fun for a while cause that's what dating should be...fun.
dasein Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 That kind of talk sets up all kinds of undesirable loops in the female mind when expressed too early. 1. "Is this guy desperate? Is something wrong with him? Does he have no options?" 2. "Is this guy trying to pull a line on me? is this guy a player?" 3. "Is this guy just another talker? I want a man of action." 4. "Is this guy good enough for me? Is he going to turn into a puppy dog pushover who doesn't challenge me? Does this guy fall for every woman who gives him the time of day?" 5. "This guy knows little about me, yet already declaring emotion, does he have poor judgment? I don't feel real special here." 6. "I feel pressure. I don't like pressure. Must get away from pressure." And LS folks, this will be unprecedented, I learned this from a show tune. Don't EVER expect me to link to such again!
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