Ladies with boyfriends or married how tempted do you get by good looking Men

[PJKino]

Just curious about female sexuality..Lets say your boyfriend/husband has a good looking charming friend do you ever fantasize about him or have temptations and wonder to what it would be like to be with him or is it simply you ackowledge hes an attractive Man and thats where it ends?

[Nikki Sahagin]

All human beings fantasize.

 

If I see a man I found sexually attractive then I will probably automatically have a naughty thought or two, regardless of whether i'm attached or not, it doesn't mean i'd act on the thought or the temptation.

 

But yes temptation is everywhere...well in some cases, I don't think you men give us as much to ogle as the ladies give you

[threebyfate]

The latter. Once committed, I stay committed to someone who's also committed.

[Alma Mobley]

Just curious about female sexuality..Lets say your boyfriend/husband has a good looking charming friend do you ever fantasize about him or have temptations and wonder to what it would be like to be with him or is it simply you ackowledge hes an attractive Man and thats where it ends?

 

My husband has attractive friends. I see them as friends, though can see they are attractive. I don't lust or fantasize about them at night or anything like that. Maybe that happens, but it has not happened to me. I have this kind of "switch" whereas people who are off-limits (friends' husbands, my husband's friends, etc) is turned to the off button. I know others are different, but that is how it is for me.

[PJKino]

My husband has attractive friends. I see them as friends, though can see they are attractive. I don't lust or fantasize about them at night or anything like that. Maybe that happens, but it has not happened to me. I have this kind of "switch" whereas people who are off-limits (friends' husbands, my husband's friends, etc) is turned to the off button. I know others are different, but that is how it is for me.

 

So would u say strangers or maybe entertainers you would lust or fantasize about then?

[january2011]

I silently acknowledge that he's attractive and try to stay away from any situations that might make me think there's more to it.

 

I think that some people can compartmentalise well and go so far as to have fantasies about that other person. But for me, that would be crossing the line and I'd be allowing a third 'person' to come between my partner and me. The only third 'person' that's allowed to do that is the relationship itself and only if the other two partners agree.

[Alma Mobley]

So would u say strangers or maybe entertainers you would lust or fantasize about then?

 

Are you asking if I fantasize about other men in general, such as actors, musicians, etc??

[Content]

Obviously not every women is the same nor every man but as a whole ive noticed women are more likely to develop an emotional crush with men theyre around a lot as opposed to just well hes hot i want to bang him crush,women are "spark" and bond junkies

 

Ive seen it happen at work a lot or with their mans' friend

[Alma Mobley]

Obviously not every women is the same nor every man but as a whole ive noticed women are more likely to develop an emotional crush with men theyre around a lot as opposed to just well hes hot i want to bang him crush,women are "spark" and bond junkies

 

Ive seen it happen at work a lot or with their mans' friend

 

Well, I would guess that women are more likely to develop feelings (develop an emotional crush, as you put it) on men they're around a lot because.... they are around them a lot.

 

This is why work affairs are so common.

[PJKino]

Are you asking if I fantasize about other men in general, such as actors, musicians, etc??

 

yes........

[PJKino]

Obviously not every women is the same nor every man but as a whole ive noticed women are more likely to develop an emotional crush with men theyre around a lot as opposed to just well hes hot i want to bang him crush,women are "spark" and bond junkies

 

Ive seen it happen at work a lot or with their mans' friend

 

I dont buy it why do you think women have celebrity crushes? they dont know them peronally they just find them hot

[HVane]

Leaving aside the issue of you posting this just to get your rocks off...

 

No. I don't. We make love 2-3 times a day, so I don't have time to fantasize.

[Alma Mobley]

yes........

 

Probably no more than my husband does. He married me, but he didn't go blind. I know he sees and thinks about other women. I sometimes think about other men, but not to the agree that I have a "crush" or have more sexual/emotional feelings to these "fantasy" men than I do to my husband. AFAIK, he's done me the same courtesy.

[goldengirl11]

How about if two people were seeing each other (i.e no talk of exclusivity yet) and then they met/were introduced to someone they fancy. They'd probably get on with it right (especially the man I think - sorry to be sexist) as they'd probably think they weren't in a relationship yet anyway. Yes?

Edited May 29, 2012 by goldengirl11

[goldengirl11]

Probably no more than my husband does. He married me, but he didn't go blind. I know he sees and thinks about other women. I sometimes think about other men, but not to the agree that I have a "crush" or have more sexual/emotional feelings to these "fantasy" men than I do to my husband. AFAIK, he's done me the same courtesy.

 

I'm sorry to hear your situation re your husband Alma. Sounds like he doesn't appreciate you enough.

[KathyM]

I can appreciate an attractive man, but have no desire to fantasize about him. I have my own handsome man to fantasize about.

[kaylan]

In b4 "all women are slutty Sallys who date the beta, but sleep with the hot alpha on the side" lmao

 

Its coming...trust me xD

[CarrieT]

Life is like a menu; I am free to read what there is to eat but only get to make a single choice at a time for the entrée...

 

I can and look and enjoy what is out there, but the temptation of more than is good for me would only make me fat!

[pteromom]

I am not tempted by friends of his - they are almost like extended family, so it is ooky to think of them in a sexual way.

 

But other guys? Sure, I am tempted. Have never fallen, but definitely have been tempted.

[Silly_Girl]

Just curious about female sexuality..Lets say your boyfriend/husband has a good looking charming friend do you ever fantasize about him or have temptations and wonder to what it would be like to be with him or is it simply you ackowledge hes an attractive Man and thats where it ends?

 

Never fantasise. In my first main R I fancied one man other than my husband. In my second R I fancied one man other than my SO. In my current R there is no one I've ever fancied. That covers about 17yrs of my life.

 

I acknowledge that others are attractive/beautiful etc but it never goes beyond that. My commitment to my relationship precludes interest in others.

[Ruby Slippers]

When I'm in a relationship that is satisfying me sexually and emotionally, I never think about other men in a sexual way - not his friends, not strangers, not anybody. Monogamy comes very naturally and easily to me, and my desire for my man only increases in time, as we get closer. I don't get tired of a man when the novelty and newness wears off. The better I get to know him, the closer I feel and the more I want him.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I don't think fantasizing and being tempted to cheat are related, unless you are a cheater. Then, probably, you'll fantasize about cheating and then do it.