Questions for women who KNOW they are attractive to men

[kevin32]

You can be walking down the street (or in a store), and men would approach and ask for your name and number. Or you're at the club and they offer to buy you a drink. Pretty much wherever you are, men shower you with attention, even if you just met. And after years of experiences like these, you've come to realize that you're attractive to men, and you know it. I have 3 questions about this:

 

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks.

[Emilia]

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men? great!

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time? Talk to me like a normal human being perhaps?

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks. I look at people as individuals, not as 'men in general'. Everyone is different.

[TigerCub]

You can be walking down the street (or in a store), and men would approach and ask for your name and number. Or you're at the club and they offer to buy you a drink. Pretty much wherever you are, men shower you with attention, even if you just met. And after years of experiences like these, you've come to realize that you're attractive to men, and you know it. I have 3 questions about this:

 

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks.

 

Maybe I'm not as "attractive to men" as I thought.

I don't get asked for name & number often, but I get stopped and told that I'm pretty or that I look good by men I don't know.

 

I get a lot of Honk & Holla.

 

Anyways...

 

My answers:

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

I don't know how to answer this one. I know I'm attractive - its more of a "yeah I'm pretty" for me.

Being attractive to men I guess is flattering. When I go somewhere and it gets a lot of guys looking - Most of the time I don't even notice it and I'm told by whoever I'm with @ the time. So its nice, but its not everything. It doesn't define who I am.

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

I think all those men were the "average man". If someone is interested in taking me out - I'd expect nice friendly chit chat, a little charm, make me laugh and then I might be interested. I have a bf now - so I don't expect anything from any other man.

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you?

I've learned (and this took a LONG LONG TIME) - guys that try to be my friend (unless they are gay) are indeed interested in having more than a friendship. I always thought I could just be friends with a guy, but I think that unless we have been friends for a long time and NOTHING ever happened or was tried by the guy - then its not a friendship and most guys these days that want to go out for a "friendly coffee", or have lunch "as friends" or whatever - they have a different agenda.

[Alma Mobley]

You can be walking down the street (or in a store), and men would approach and ask for your name and number. Or you're at the club and they offer to buy you a drink. Pretty much wherever you are, men shower you with attention, even if you just met. And after years of experiences like these, you've come to realize that you're attractive to men, and you know it.

 

I thought I was attractive to men, but maybe I am not because I have never experienced the "men shower you with attention" wherever I am. I wish, but that never happened, so maybe my answers won't count? But, I am going to assume that men are attracted to me because they approach me every now and again, even though I have never been a supermodel-type.

 

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men? It feels nice to have someone find you attractive.

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time? I would expect him to act normal and strike up a relevant (to the situation) conversation when we meet.

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks. I am not sure what this means. I do not have disdain for men who are attracted to me. I have never been insulted by a man showing attraction to me, and that includes all the homeless men who have given me compliments over the years (I live in the city). I am flattered when a man is attracted to me and have never taken offense over it, even when I wasn't attracted to him. I've only taken offense at how that attraction is expressed (cat-calling, rude comments, harassment at work).

 

But, I love men who are open with their attraction (sans rudeness), never had a problem with it! Been a bit embarrassed by it? Sure. But never disdainful.

[darkmoon]

1/ i can look attractive and think great (or not look attractive because i don't want to be at risk if i'm out late at night) looking good is formulaic - wearing some hard-to-launder pretty dress or Tee and skirt, my good bra, my concealer to hide eyebags and circles, my mascara for eyelashes, my hair done (sometimes all a chore) otherwise it's just a black Tee and jeans

 

2/ men mostly smile, some stand there staring hoping to be noticed, very few approach to chat out of the blue

 

3/ always nice to be asked, i judge each case on its merits, i wear a ring to look like i have somebody tbh, but once my teeth are done i will be looking so will dress up

Edited May 29, 2012 by darkmoon

[dollface07]

Disclaimer: I am going based on physical attraction in my response if you want a deep synopsis on emotional attraction just let me know

 

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

it is hard sometimes b/c even if you are very smart some men will simply want to treat you as a trophy even if you develop/have genuine feelings for the guy it sometimes just doesnt matter all that much to a man who can be superficial and only interested in looks, prestige and status (this is why i try to date unassuming socially awkward nerds...its more genuine somehow). What it is like to be attractive to a man it's LOT of work b/c im not a natural beauty in my opinion here is the procedure:

 

Hair & nails:

 

Eyelash extending serum, eyelash curling, eyebrow tweezing/shaping/coloring, deep conditioning oil treatments, blunt cut, blow dry, using either a hair straightener/curlers depending on the look, mani/pedi: foot soak, callous removal, cuticle removal, nail bed shaping, french mani/pedi perfectly straight white tips...healthy looking non-pink nail bed color and of course sleeping in cotton gloves/socks with deep moisturizing over night lotion, sometime sleeping with deep conditioner or hair repair serum.

 

Face:

 

SPF 50, overnight eye creams, spot correcting serums, pore reducing serums, moisturizing lotions, concealer, foundation, setting powder, highlighters for under cheekbones, arches or eyebrows and above the lips and down the center of nose, contouring with blush/bronzer, eyeshadows (both matte and shimmer depending on the event), liquid eyeliners, not squinting, laughing or making any extreme facial movements to avoid early onset of crows feet or other wrinkles, acne medicine for the occasional spot...or popping a pimple of you are pressed for time and cant afford to have a bump on you chin/cheek!

 

body: using cellulite prevention cream on breasts and upper thighs, using tummy tightening lotion...going for airbrush spray tan for legs to match upper body. using a painful electronic process all over for hair removal underarms, arms, bikini, legs etc...lotions to exfoliate and smooth skin all over and make it glow

 

Shower: well this is a whole long process as well you get the idea i think by this point

 

Clothes: same long process weeks to select and find the perfect outfit trying it on over a course of days to decide if it really suits you or not and matching accessories, shoes, bags accordingly (as well as selecting cosmetic and make up colors to best accommodate the outfit's look--french manicure is just easier to match so much of the time)

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

the average man, i expect him to act cordial with me and give me his full attention no matter what--these are expectations that came from a lifetime of having these minimum standards met when interacting with them...im not desperate for attention im just used to getting it from men and getting death stares from women and being told that i look like a kardashian sister lol

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks.

 

I get annoyed sometimes for example if I call a plumber to fix something they will take their sweet time and try to chat me up instead of fixing a flood situation--or they will do a half ass job to have an excuse to come do a "re-service"...USPS workers are the same wasting my time to talk to me at the door way...UPS man the same accidentally needing for me to resign and with them having to "recheck" my packages all to me...uggh

 

If a man ignores me that is what sparks my interest. I will know that he really likes me and is a force to be reckoned with if he ignores me hahah...also if he is careful with complementing me, my outfit and looks it makes me feel that he knows i've heard it all before and am more interested in his actions speaking louder than his words.

 

oh i forgot to mention STARVING myself and exercising intensely just to maintain my weight

Edited May 29, 2012 by dollface07

[udolipixie]

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

Treated like an attractive thing rather than a human being, expected to placate his ego by engaging them and giving them attention when they want or I'm arrogant stuck up ice queen, and expected to take sexual harassment as a compliment, natural male nature or 'boys being boys'.

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

I expect him to be polite as it's a general societal expectation of others behavior in public.

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you?

That guys are visual creatures yet from my experiences seem to take gals are less visual to mean gals are blind and don't seem to notice their hypocrisy. Such as when they want a more attractive partner yet if rejected she's the stuck up one for wanting an equally attractive partner. Or when they expect their personality to be valued in exchanged for a more attractive gal otherwise she's shallow as she can't see past appearances. Ironically to me a gal in such a situation is avoiding getting the short end as he gets a more attractive partner with the personality to look overlook something he wouldn't and in fact pursued her based on.

[manup]

You can be walking down the street (or in a store), and men would approach and ask for your name and number. Or you're at the club and they offer to buy you a drink. Pretty much wherever you are, men shower you with attention, even if you just met. And after years of experiences like these, you've come to realize that you're attractive to men, and you know it. I have 3 questions about this:

 

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you? Thanks.

 

Female advice is meaningless, try asking a guy who is successful with attractive women.

[LittlePrince]

4. How does it feel when a man doesn't support your belief in your attractiveness by flocking to you and/or ignores your existence?

[BurningDream]

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

Other than maintaining a healthy lifestyle which profoundly enhances a human's natural looks. It doesn't improve your chances I don't think. Just because you attract more men, doesn't mean you like any of them. Very few of them are hot, few of those are interesting...etc.

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

Most of them seem intimidated and never talk to me, but some are very direct and almost too pushy...that's annoying. I'd really like it if they just talked to me, down to earth...can be nervous, awkward outgoing I don't care which.

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you?

 

I can't have guy friends because they always have a crush on me for some reason. I get hit on by teenagers and old men alike. Most think I look way younger than I am, I'm 30 but people have said I look 16-23. Most say about 20 though. I'm afraid men my age think I am too young :-( I feel lonely.

[wordrock]

And after years of experiences like these, you've come to realize that you're attractive to men, and you know it.

 

You really think it takes them years to figure it out? Come on guy, they're not men!

[udolipixie]

4. How does it feel when a man doesn't support your belief in your attractiveness by flocking to you and/or ignores your existence?

I feel nothing as my belief in my attractiveness isn't reliant on others nor do I care if guys ignore my existence if they find my unattractive as I tend do the same for guys I find unattractive. I generally expect guys to be visual creatures that highly value attractiveness if they aren't flocking to me or ignoring me I'm simply not the visual they want.

[wordrock]

I feel nothing as my belief in my attractiveness isn't reliant on others nor do I care if guys ignore my existence if they find my unattractive as I tend do the same for guys I find unattractive. I generally expect guys to be visual creatures that highly value attractiveness if they aren't flocking to me or ignoring me I'm simply not the visual they want.

 

This is how I take it when a woman passes up on me, but overall not merely physical attractiveness. In fact, I don't really like women whose comments tend to only drift towards my looks. Obviously we've already established we find one another attractive... we wouldn't be talking otherwise! In my experience it's a sign they're not worth pursuing date wise as they're typically only interested in sex. May as well forgo dating and just go to a bar and go home.

 

I don't ever tell a beautiful woman I barely know that she's gorgeous. She already knows and she already hears it all the time from total strangers. It's only important if we've established a connection. Then when she hears it, it has real meaning instead of just an uninspired pickup line from some passerby.

[udolipixie]

I don't ever tell a beautiful woman I barely know that she's gorgeous. She already knows and she already hears it all the time from total strangers. It's only important if we've established a connection. Then when she hears it, it has real meaning instead of just an uninspired pickup line from some passerby.

Bit curious as to why for you it's important and have meaning after a connection?

I'm different for me it doesn't make a difference in value or meaning being told I'm attractive. Most likely he wouldn't be here if I wasn't so the words hold the same value as a pickup line from a passerby it's the person that may have different value.

Edited May 30, 2012 by udolipixie

[FrustratedStandards]

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

Honestly, it feels great even though we complain that we can't find a counterpart. I never get insecure when I see another beautiful woman in the room (I imagine that women who don't feel they are beautiful react negatively to her).

 

On the flip side, it sucks because you can't have friends or be in good company without men flirting with you. Most women don't like you simply for this reason, when truly you aren't a threat to them. It becomes uncomfortable when you have to avoid co-workers or certain men simply because you aren't interested, and they are. Things get awkward and you don't want to lead them on.

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

I don't expect for him to behave in anyway. He may behave as he wish. If he wants to get my attention however, he needs to be respectful, and he needs to APPROACH. The approaching part seems to be the problem most of the time.

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you?

 

What do you mean what do I think of men in general? What I think of men has nothing to do with how attracted to me they are. Men are men, and nothing can change that lol

[my body is a cage]

About to be radically honest here, please don't judge. Here goes nothing:

1. Can you describe what's it like to be attractive to men?

 

I feel like I can sleep with anyone I want to at any time I want to, but honestly that's about it. That is not a guarantee I can find true love, or that sleeping with someone will ever lead anywhere. On the contrary - sometimes I feel like men overlook my personality and are only concerned with my body, which actually prevents things from progressing.

 

Sometime I use this "power" as a boost, I guess. To be perfectly honest. Sometimes I want attention and or validation so I flirt, and I know I will get what I want in the moment. But afterwards I will feel more empty.

 

Other times, I feel totally uncomfortable. I feel threatened. I will often be trying to do my own thing and want to be left alone, but will be harassed by random men either catcalling me or asking me for my number. On two different occasions in the past month I have been hailing a taxi exhausted just wanting to get home no makeup and regular cars have driven up to me saying, "we're a taxi! get in here!" as a joke. And I'm like, seriously? And yeah, that is kind of funny, but my point is that it often makes me more suspicious/ skeptical of men.

 

At the end of the day, though, knowing that I am perceived as very attractive does not make me feel better about myself in any capacity. It is not who I am, it has nothing to do with my inner merits. I want someone who wants me for me.

 

 

2. How do you now expect the average man to behave when he notices you for the first time?

 

I guess I expect him to flirt with me. If he doesn't flirt with me/ hit on me, I get kind of confused/ almost offended. I'm sorry if this sounds conceited. But if a guy seems uninterested, I definitely go more out of my way to show interest.

 

Ultimately, though, a guy who talks to me like a normal human being wins major points. Ie, a guy who doesn't hit on me but just tries to relate. I want to be taken seriously, I want someone who gets to know me and is interested in who I am.

 

I have some guy friends I would never consider romantically who nonetheless often make comments about my appearance and it drives me crazy. It makes me feel objectified. I have had moments with them when I tell them about something weird I did/ that happened to me and they look at me and say, "wow. you are weird. you are very real to me right now." and I say, "I wasn't real to you before?" and he says "no. the way I think pretty girls don't have problems. but you are actually WEIRD." thanks.

 

 

 

3. What do you think of men in general as it relates to them being attracted to you?

 

Men are fun, I like men. I have VERY specific taste, and I guess I'm kind of rigid about it. However, I do go for exotic experiences too; I try to think of life as an ongoing adventure. I guess I'm on the search for something deep, something real.

[kaylan]

lmao @ this thread.

 

This is just something else dudes do that gas up chicks heads and lets them remember that they are on a pedestal.

Not to mention that in this thread, a few women complain about being seens only for their looks...but then yet they say things that show that they embrace only being valued for their looks.

 

Contradictory it is =P

 

Do proceed though. I am quite amused =D

 

P.S. - I think some women here need to know that many guys dont need to find you attractive in order to have sex with you. I have had friends who will sleep with a girl, even if he doesnt find her attractive, just because he thinks "sometimes puzzy is puzzy". These are guys I dont wing anymore because I find that crap to be lame. So understand that sometimes guys get it up just so they can bust a nut. It doesnt always reflect on how he feels about you at all.

Edited May 30, 2012 by kaylan

[my body is a cage]

 

P.S. - I think some women here need to know that many guys dont need to find you attractive in order to have sex with you. I have had friends who will sleep with a girl, even if he doesnt find her attractive, just because he thinks "sometimes puzzy is puzzy". These are guys I dont wing anymore because I find that crap to be lame. So understand that sometimes guys get it up just so they can bust a nut. It doesnt always reflect on how he feels about you at all.

 

Oh believe me, I know that. Guys need to know that not all girls think sex = feelings and sometimes girls just want to have sex too.

 

In fact, that is why being considered attractive can be very confusing, at least for me. What does it even count for if a lot of guys would have sex with anyone anyway?

[udolipixie]

P.S. - I think some women here need to know that many guys dont need to find you attractive in order to have sex with you. I have had friends who will sleep with a girl, even if he doesnt find her attractive, just because he thinks "sometimes puzzy is puzzy". These are guys I dont wing anymore because I find that crap to be lame. So understand that sometimes guys get it up just so they can bust a nut. It doesnt always reflect on how he feels about you at all.

 

Seems the only reason to think that is if you think some gals here don't already know many guys can use a gal's body like a masturbation tool to get off or that they're are basing their attractiveness on how many guys had sex with them rather than their looks. I highly doubt that some gals posting think their physical atractiveness isn't based on their physical attributes.

[udolipixie]

In fact, that is why being considered attractive can be very confusing, at least for me. What does it even count for if a lot of guys would have sex with anyone anyway?

Perhaps it counts because likely for guys as they're visual having sex with an attractive person is better.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Pffft!

 

This thread is beyond useless without any photos of any of the women.

[kaylan]

Seems the only reason to think that is if you think some gals here don't already know many guys can use a gal's body like a masturbation tool to get off or that they're are basing their attractiveness on how many guys had sex with them rather than their looks. I highly doubt that some gals posting think their physical atractiveness isn't based on their physical attributes.

Youd be surprised

[udolipixie]

Youd be surprised

 

I'd be amused that you know enough of the gals posting to think they judge their physical attractiveness by how many guys want to have sex with them.

 

So where are the posts by gals here stating, suggesting, or implying they judge their attractiveness by guys sleeping or wanting to sleep with them?

[FrustratedStandards]

Oh please. If this was directed at men, Kaylan would be the first to post and any posts like his he would refute insistently.

 

It would be amusing if we could watch him argue with himself. It would blow up out of proportion to the point where we wouldn't know what the debate was about to begin with

[zengirl]

Personally, I'm amused that anyone thinks the ONLY thing that makes a woman attractive to men are her looks. Even with strangers. Women have and use charisma too. There are plenty of people with magnetism that don't look like supermodels.

 

At any rate, I don't see the point on the survey or how to answer any of the questions except #1, as they just seem odd. As for #1, MOST people have experienced being attractive to someone. Being attractive to MORE people feels fairly mixed -- tedious when it attracts those you don't want, especially if they get upset with you for feeling that way, and an ego-boost at times, or a help if it's someone you'd really like. And, of course, I'm fairly sure every woman, no matter how attractive, has found someone who rejected her or didn't find her attractive. It doesn't really matter if 99 people find you attractive if the one person you like loses interest, etc, etc, does it? The whole idea seems to place emphasis on completely unimportant things.