wmrjw82 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 So me and this girl broke up about 2 weeks ago. Well, she broke up with me telling me she thinks her feelings for me are gone. So i'm like... okay... a week later she starts contacting me via txt everyday. Basically, I never ask her questions just respond to her messages and be courtious. She sends me pics of her child, says random things to me. Nothing of the sort sayings he wants to get back together though. Well, last night I had a few for the holiday weekend and when I received her txt complementing me on my facial hair (she has been facebook stalking me) I skipped over the games. Basically telling her if she isn't interested in me she needs to stop contacting me. She responds with "Why! Can't we be friends?", I said "nope, I have friends..." (I told her this because I still have feelings for her and I dont want to be played) She says she doesn't know how she feels and that we got deep really quick which scared her. She seemed to get mad over this and said "fine", then I replied with "okie dokie" then she goes... "i'm so confused"... I never replied. I actually feel pretty good about the situation though. I feel like, okay if she doesn't like me atleast I have put a stop to these games and "i'll keep you on the side" kind of txts and if she does she will continue to contact me. Either way, i'm over the initial breakup so it doesn't matter either way. I would like to start over with her but only if she can give me 100% (she wasn't quite over an ex before) Thoughts? Think I did the right thing here?
Author wmrjw82 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 60 views and no responses? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated....
HVane Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I think you did well! As a woman, let me just offer my thoughts -- you're her back burner guy, she is waiting to see what #1 guy does, and if he doesn't want her, she wants you. So, yeah, don't be that guy. Go forward! Be confident and find someone who REALLY likes you!
Author wmrjw82 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 I think you did well! As a woman, let me just offer my thoughts -- you're her back burner guy, she is waiting to see what #1 guy does, and if he doesn't want her, she wants you. So, yeah, don't be that guy. Go forward! Be confident and find someone who REALLY likes you! Yea, thanks for the feedback. I'm not sure if i'm the backburner guy or not. See the story goes, she was pregnant and with this guy, well she ended up cheating on him and getting pregnant by the other guy. When she found out the baby wasn't his, she started missing her ex like crazy (they actually broke up back in January)... the relationship between us was fine before this as she had just felt like he walked out on her and his child. But when she found out it wasn't his and was actually the guys baby who she screwed around with she started blaming herself for the demise of the their relationship. Then at that point I was placed on the backburner. Another twist of the story is this guy who she misses is actually in jail until October for a dui and hit n run. (real winner right...)... oh yea, he's also in a new relationship and is in love and has moved on, etc. Anyways, I think she still has some feelings for the guy but she also knows deep down it will never work because he will never accept her baby (hes stated this). I know this all sounds like a crazy mess, which it is, and partially glad it ended a few weeks ago. She dumped me but can't seem to let me go. I think she knows she has feelings for me but doesn't want to give into them yet. In the meantime, I think its healthy for me to just let her contact me. I'm living my own life and am fine without her, but if she can let the past go I feel there is a future between us.
HVane Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 OK, pretend I'm your mama and I'm about to slap you. She was pregnant with one guy (not you), she is pining over another guy who is in jail (also not you) -- honey, really? I don't even know you and I'm pretty sure you can do better. There ain't no p*ssy that pretty in the world. AIM HIGHER. 6
Eddie Edirol Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 You did the right thing, but she wont stop contacting you, I'll wager that. She isnt getting the emotional connection from whoever she is trying with, so she keeps calling on you. So good job setting her straight, and acting like it doesnt bother you. Let her feel the burn.
bamp78 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Yea, thanks for the feedback. I'm not sure if i'm the backburner guy or not. See the story goes, she was pregnant and with this guy, well she ended up cheating on him and getting pregnant by the other guy. When she found out the baby wasn't his, she started missing her ex like crazy (they actually broke up back in January)... the relationship between us was fine before this as she had just felt like he walked out on her and his child. But when she found out it wasn't his and was actually the guys baby who she screwed around with she started blaming herself for the demise of the their relationship. Then at that point I was placed on the backburner. Another twist of the story is this guy who she misses is actually in jail until October for a dui and hit n run. (real winner right...)... oh yea, he's also in a new relationship and is in love and has moved on, etc. Anyways, I think she still has some feelings for the guy but she also knows deep down it will never work because he will never accept her baby (hes stated this). I know this all sounds like a crazy mess, which it is, and partially glad it ended a few weeks ago. She dumped me but can't seem to let me go. I think she knows she has feelings for me but doesn't want to give into them yet. In the meantime, I think its healthy for me to just let her contact me. I'm living my own life and am fine without her, but if she can let the past go I feel there is a future between us. Huh what were you even doing with her? She sounds like a disaster and if she is dating low lifes what does that make her? Consider yourself lucky and as someone else pointed out aim higher cause she sounds like a loser. If she cheated before she will do it again you should consider yourself lucky that you got out relatively unscathed.
Balzac Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 RUN into your future and never include this woman or her child. Be thankful it ended as quickly and painlessly as it did. Be glad she's not already pregnant by you. What a lucky escape.
SmileFace Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Run!!!!!! (Faster) You did the right thing. Don't her lead you on. Plus her past present and future doesn't seem promising.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 You did a good job. This is what you do to emotional baggage that's dragging you down you stop them at the door and close it on them. By the way I'm totally stealing this 'can we be friends?' ' no, I have friends...'. 2
mortensorchid Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 You are doing the right thing. She is initiating the contact, not you. You seem like you just want to move on, she is regretting the decission of having broken it off. Why? Who knows and who cares? She's a nutcase. Either keep ignoring the texts or change your number if she gets really bad.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Yes you did. The quicker you run away from this trainwreck the better.
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