barriob Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Thanks for everything. I need time to recover and heal myself. I need to find myself again and realize my self worth. Any ideas??
geegirl Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 (edited) Thanks for everything. I need time to recover and heal myself. I need to find myself again and realize my self worth. Any ideas?? Therapy. You need to find someone that can help with the root of your internal issues that have led you to where you are today. There is a reason why you've spent a year accepting rejection and humiliation because of your need to want to be loved and accepted. There's more to this than just a break-up. A therapist will help you through the process of connecting the dots and helping you understand why you do the things you do and that in turn will help you find coping skills to best manage your emotional conflicts within your daily life. You will never be able to function as a healthy partner in any relationship if you are this emotionally weak and dependent, for reasons most likely only a therapist can help uncover. Block him from email. Delete his number. Change your number, better yet. And do this because you want to heal and move on. Eliminate any form of contact so that he does not derail you in your efforts to rebuild yourself again. I have a feeling when and if he contacts, you will go back to square one. Best to avoid the possibility. You have become an extension of him so now you need to reverse that and find Barrio again. This means that you need to begin focusing on you and no one else. He is the past and you are now your future. What does Barrio like to do? What has she left by the wayside that now needs cultivating again? Does she like to volunteer? How about enrolling in a gym and starting a workout plan? Any classes you want to take? Talents that need developing? Maybe finding activities on www.meetup.com and in turn meeting new people who have similar interests and possibly making new friends? What are your goals? How about getting to the library and getting some books on developing self-esteem or anything that is of self-help in nature? Can you write positive self-affirmations about YOU and read them to yourself daily as a reminder of what you see within yourself? What do you find wonderful about you? Your therapist will also be able to help you find ways to regain yourself. Everything that you let go about yourself because of this man, you need to get it back again. He's left a void in your life. You placed all the power in his hands. You were/are nothing without him. I have a strong feeling you will be back in a few weeks with the same old story and at that point I am really not sure what it is that can help you. If you can't help yourself, no one can. Maybe the only way you will learn is when you're completely and utterly depleted because if after a year you are still waiting for acceptance, I either think you are a troll or you are in serious need of mental help. Edited May 29, 2012 by geegirl
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