Going to just be friends with ex, stopping the no contact thing. Should I?

[IluvAlex33]

I tried the no contact thing for a while with my ex, it was just to hard. So i've decided to be friends with him. I mean i love him so much, and i know it might seem akward to him,but its better to be friends with the one i love than to not have him at all. Honestly i don't believe anything can get us back together,but i do believe it was meant to be,but i just can't stand another minute without him. Is this the right thing? I mean who knows he might come back to me.........hopefully.

[amanda25]

No contact with him, and you couldn't deal with it, how are you going to deal with being his "friend" and seeing him, or possibly seeing him with another girl if he were to move on? Its your choice, but think about it!! Good Luck

[Baubles]

I'm on my 4th break-up w/ boyfriend of 2 years (no going back this time - we're now in no contact per my request).

 

after every break-up we did the friend thing...talking, having dinner, etc...eventually we got back- but probably for the wrong reasons- I guess he was bored and lonely- but...unless you can handle the weekends when he suddenly doesn't call or want to get together and you try to figure out if he's w/ someone- and that doesn't bother you- then you cannot do it.

 

It breaks my heart every day not seeing and talking to him - but there was no future. In hindsight, I wonder if I had listened to people on the board and had no contact after the first break-up if he would have developed more respect for me and my feelings and not gotten back until he really really wanted it.

 

There's nothing worse either than being friends after a break-up and end up kissing, etc...only for him to say he still cares for you but you're still broken up. Yeh, it's hard to have no contact. I miss him lots on the weekends- but part of me thinks it's because I don't have a replacement boyfriend- there's someone out there who will replace him and take your mind off him.

 

Try for the no contact- or at least set a goal of one month- I regret I had never been able to do it until now- and it's only been a week.

[IluvAlex33]

thank you for your post i shall take it into consideration.

[Starnette83]

I suggest the no contact thing to continue..i went with no contact with my bf for 6 days..it was hard, and i almost gave in..but didnt...eventually he called me..and i didnt pick up til he left me a message..anyways we got back together and now he tells me that me not calling him or coming after him really made him miss me..and i think he has more respect for me now then before when i used to give in and call him after we broke up or fought...

i know its hard but u gotta not give up!!

 

plus i decided the no contact cuz i couldnt bare talking to him and him telling me he was gonna go out with guys and girls and **** like that...