dassme Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 Hello guys! Just recently, my GF and I broke up cause she had a problem with our age difference. She's older than me but not by too much ( I'm 30 and she's 39). Anyway she said it has come to a point where it became uncomfortable. She felt she was getting mentally older and didn't want to go backwards in the relationship. I know we would get looks here and there, a few comments from her friends, family or whom ever but I thought if you love someone, why should age matter? Im not too bad with the break up but it still hurts. Basically, I'm asking anyone out there who has been in this situation to give me some insight! Thank-you!
amanda25 Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 I don't think age matters, unless like it was a minor...Then, ya its wrong..I've always dated older guys, not because of their age, but because of the person that they were..I feel if ya love someone, age should be NO factor...If she is worried about it now, then she probably didn't love you in the first place... Good Luck
suzeze Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 Age shouldn't matter, there are many more important things to worry about. I was told, age was just a number. Communication is by far the most important thing in a relationship, followed by trust and respect.
Olivia_19742004 Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 I wouldn't necessarily say that age as a number matters but age is usually indicative of the mental state or mental maturity of a person. I'm not claiming that you may be immature for her but goals and lifestyles do change depending on which age bracket you're in. I think it's idealistic in today's society to think that all it takes is love in a relationship and everything should work out wonderfully. As you age your expectations of life develop differently and what may be important to a thirty year old may not be important to a thirty-nine year old. Each of us has a specific set of needs in life in order for us to feel contentment and happiness and no matter how much love you have if you're dreams aren't being fulfilled because of a difference of lifestyle then I think it's plausible to find that the relationship isn't conducive to ones personal goals. It's possible that the two of you are on different paths in life and the first indication of this would be the age difference.
abbyroadme Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Originally posted by suzeze Age shouldn't matter, there are many more important things to worry about. I was told, age was just a number. Communication is by far the most important thing in a relationship, followed by trust and respect. I agree with you 100%!!! My Grandparents had 10-11 years difference between the two of them, they married along time and had 6 kids together. As long as you communicate and in love. That is all that matters.
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