What makes a guy want to settle down?

[Sugarkane]

I was watching this on a tv show the other night. It just seems when people reach about 30 they freak out and get married at the same time. Especially with guys. I do know of a couple of guys who settle down early 20s. That's pretty odd. Don't they feel like they missed out on stuff. I wonder what makes people think this person is " the one".

[aiyam]

I think when they feel that this is the person that they can really be their own comfortable self with, no pretentions, the one that they think they could be spending everyday and cannot be living without. The one that they can and want to share their dreams with. But the reality of it happening will depemds on the timing of this feeling, i believe. Because marrying is not that simple. You consider the events happening in your life and the stability of different aspects in your life.

[ScreamingTrees]

For me personally, I believe that to a certain degree, people are generally alike. If I find one person who is compatible with me physically and mentally, why would I feel like I'm missing out? There'd be nothing out there that I wasn't already getting from someone who I'd want to start a family with and share my life with. I don't know how the other person would feel, can't read minds, but you figure that like-minded people often get together.

 

Sexually, I'm sure that if the passion is there, I know I wouldn't be missing out on anything. I think it'd be better to have intense sex with the same person every night rather than casually screwing a random girl or guy every night, hoping that you don't catch anything.. In both scenarios, the pairs are getting the same thing even if the partner changes in one scenario, so the difference basically lies in each scenario's mindset.

 

There are people who'd rather have "variety".. and then there are the others. Neither lifestyle is better than the other. The former is likelier to be a health risk.