otie Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 So I met this guy about two months ago by accident. I wasn't expecting to meet anyone but he just came up to me and started chatting. The first night I met him we hit it off so I invited him to a friends' party and the night ended with him dropping me off home at about 5am. I made the first move by kissing him and then he asked me out on a date the following Saturday. We starting dating right away and by the three week mark, he'd asked me to be his girlfriend. I was excited because I really liked him but I ignored some of the things he told me, like he'd just moved out from living with a girlfriend/ex only four months ago. I figured four months was plenty of time to get over it and it was all ok. So there were three things that bothered me and here they are. -When we were together, he would often bring up stories of things he did with people he used to date. Not just one person, but a different person each time. He didn't seem to have many friends so i figured he was the kind of guy who just dated and that was his entire social life. I told him I didn't like it and he just said something like 'it was part of my experience' or something. -He would always come to my house. He sometimes made up excuses when I asked him if I could go to his house, but mostly it was just 'easier' to come to mine. Granted, he lives in a really unsafe area and he has a car whereas I dont, but I told him so many times that I was bothered by the fact I hadn't been to his house. -Two out of three times I invited him over, he would decline. Often he would say 'maybe' the day before and then text me closer to the time with some weak excuse. Sometimes he wouldn't say why. I would see him probably a couple of times a week which honestly is enough for me in a normal relationship. But I had a weird feeling about the fact that he was comfortable turning my invitation down. So I guess the reason he had me going was that he was continually saying nice things and talking to me in a way that had me believing he was genuine. He had some weird habits, like he refused to tell me his age even though I already knew from Facebook. He would make huge promises and not follow through--he as always talking about the places he wanted to take me but never once did it happen. I wouldn't have cared if he didn't make those promises at all. Anyway, so I invited him over on Saturday night and he had other plans. I invited him over Sunday night and he was busy doing chores. So I sent him a message on facebook saying I was finished with him, because of my suspicions. I felt bad about that and tried calling him later that night and he didn't answer. So the next day I texted him saying that I meant what I'd said but I knew the facebook breakup thing was not okay, and that I was sorry about that. No response. I haven't actually heard from him since the last time he declined an offer to come over to my house. Weird, but kind of relieving. Anyway, I'm interested to hear your thoughts about this. Was I girlfriend number two or something here? What could he have been up to? Did I do the wrong thing with the facebook breakup (it was a private message of course, and a lot of our communication had been on facbeook. He would send me long messages when he couldn't talk on the phone, which was all the time). It's driving me nuts. If I actually knew any of his friends I'd just have asked them.
Balzac Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Why would you want to know any of his friends? Be smart and forget about this guy. 1
Alexanda Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I agree you should forget that guy. Those were big red flags. Youre better off without him.
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