sweetgirl22 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Does my uni lecturer fancy me?! or am i more like a daughter figure?HELP? Hello, cutting it short i am 22 he is about 45ish and only arrived at my university for over a year. We do have a good working relationship, when i feel down or pressured about uni i can call him but i don't always. Once when i was crying he told me to come to his office, he put his hand around my ear/side of my face. was that as a daughter or more? The other day he needed some information on 2 girls who were playing up, he asked my uni friend to tell me he needs to talk to me. Jokingly i said what do i get in return, a A? he looked down shy whilst smiling, slowly looked up made eye contact and said a reference with a grin on his face. He told me to come to his office late to pick out those girls. Then i saw him when he was leaving, he kept the door 2inches wide and was staring at me smiling for about 1minute, but i just didn't look back. am i looking too deep into this? we are both asian so maybe he see's me daughter type i don't know
d'Arthez Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Really hard to say what is going on exactly, but obviously he has more than a passing interest in you. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, avoid getting into 1 on 1 situations with him. 1
Author sweetgirl22 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 Really hard to say what is going on exactly, but obviously he has more than a passing interest in you. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, avoid getting into 1 on 1 situations with him. I feel so confused. normally he responds in a hour to me. i emailed him yesterday basically to find a time to meet to discuss those two girls, identify them. no response. none all day and he accesses his email 24.7 via his phone so he's basically blanked me. i feel like a fool maybe i took it the wrong way
d'Arthez Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 You don't know if something has come up in real life, or what is exactly going on until you actually see him again / he responds to his email. He may be playing games to increase your interest in him (sick, but it happens), or he may have even ended up in hospital with a broken leg. Tread lightly. 1
denise_xo Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 DO NOT get romantically involved with your university lecturer. He can have his academic career ruined and you will lose your standing in the department. 1
HVane Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Trust me, honey -- I've worked in academia for 30 years. This guy is not interested in you, he's just interested in scoring. He'll break your heart and move on with a smile and a nod. Don't do it. 1
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