Junkshakemail Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Hey guys, Me and my gf had just broken up yesterday and we had been dating for a year. Two weeks back we had a long chat regarding not thinking about the future too much (our old problem) and to see where the relationship goes.. Why we broke up: I live by my self and she lives with her mum who is traditional, so last firday she came over to my house at 1 Am when her mum was away but unfortunately her uncle so happends to be on the same subway saw her and told her mum. We have always had problems since she was not able to stay over, spend time properly since she has to go home any ways so she told me about the problem with her mum yesterday. She tried to cover it up by telling her mum that she had gone to her friends house but her mum figured it that she is seeing some one, her mum confronted her and asked her who the guy was. She did'nt say any thing, she called me and told me that she cant have a hidden relationship any more (since she has been during this since the starting) but also is also confused if she should tell her mum about me so we can be together. I told her it would be too quick and it would just put the relationship into high gear (since we just spoke about not thinking about the future for now) So we decided that it will be best for us to go our seperate ways since I felt she didnt have to struggle to be in a relationship while keeping it hidden. I really like her but I was also struggling to find my feeling for her, since some times I feel we hardly spend enough time together for a relationship and* since both of our lives have becoming busier. Do you guys think I was wrong and I could meet her mum and not have broken up with her. Even if we decided to keep it hidden, she wont be able meet me often because of her mum and I dont know if I should meet her mum now since we both are not sure of the relationship. Any help is appreciate, Thank you
Author Junkshakemail Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Thanks for the reply Don't u think it's early to meet her mum even though we are not sure of the relationship
Balzac Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 How old is this young woman? I cannot imagine a successful relationship with intense parental control. Are you significantly older?
Author Junkshakemail Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 She is 22 and I am 23. That's exactly how I felt at first I want to be with some one who is independent. But I guess she grew on me. At first I didn't mind but now I find it really annoying but also I understand that it's her culture I'm so confused.
Balzac Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Education complete? Is her living at home a cultural thing? I think you're less confused than you think you are. You find yourself attracted to her but are struggling to see a path to allow the relationship to develop. I'm surmising that you've been sexually intimate though you did not reveal such.
Author Junkshakemail Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Education complete? Is her living at home a cultural thing? I think you're less confused than you think you are. You find yourself attracted to her but are struggling to see a path to allow the relationship to develop. I'm surmising that you've been sexually intimate though you did not reveal such. Yes living with her parents is a cultural thing. May be ur right and u have put it in a right way we have been sexually active yes I am very much attracted to her and may be I don't see the relationship path than a mere sexual relationship But now the though of not being with her ( non sexual way ) is making me sad for some reason.
Author Junkshakemail Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 I feel like I have made a mistake and iching to call her but thinking about all the problems makes me not want to..
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