DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Hello all ! If you've read my last thread, you'd know my current situation with my boyfriend. If you haven't here's a little insight ... Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months on and off. He's cheated in the past (several times actually). In early April, he enrolled into military school and will be gone until September. We have no way of contact t besides letters through the mail. In recent weeks, I've been "hanging out " so to speak, with another guy whom I'm starting to develop feelings for. **** UPDATE **** I came home last night and logged into my Facebook account with a message. The message was from a girl that my boyfriend has cheated with before. Actually the first girl he cheated on me with. I've had confrontations with this girl before. She told me that my boyfriend is writing her letters as well as other girls saying exactly what he's been telling me. I told her I wouldn't believe her unitl I had ocular proof. She had taken pictures of the letters and the envelops they came in. Low and behold, there it was in his hand writing with his address and signature on it. If you recall from my previous post, he's said things like " I love you more than anything." "I want to marry you" "I'm sorry for everything I've done to you." "I'll be the man you want me to be when I come home." Simply speaking, he's told me and all the other girls the same sweet nothings. I'm completely done with his foolishness. I appreciate everyone who gave their opinion in my last thread and told me to break up with that jerkoff. I can now enjoy the rest of my summer with out worrying about him. 2
jennisfora Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 sounds like a good choice, this guy has no respect for women and no problem stringing them along. good for you in moving on! he isn't going to change anytime soon, if ever. 1
Author DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I know. Ironically, I'm actually kind of happy. He made my decision a whole lot easier. 1
Sebastian76 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 What a jerk! Even though you feel happy and relieved to have ended it, you will likely still feel sad at times. You will probably also blame yourself for having these feelings when you know what he is like. Don't punish yourself, because what you feel sad about is really the fact that somebody you loved treated you like dirt. It hurts when people step all over your feelings and uses you - no matter how much of a monster they are. And it is alright to get sad when people treat you like that. Just so that you dont end up confusing things. Best of luck, Seb 2
esteem-jam Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Wow, this is so low. I think this could be good material for talk show. You say your part, he says his part. Then other girls and "evidence" is brought in. The camera zooms onto his face : what you have to say??? =))) There is something positive in this mess- it will surely make you move on. 1
Author DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 Not only does he have to answer to 3 angry women when he comes home but he also has to answer to his mother. I'm not sure if she's aware of her son's actions but I"m sure when she finds out she will be very disappointed. When he cheated and lied before, she yelled at him and explained (and I quote) "Finding a girl like her is very hard to find. You have an amazing girlfriend and you're throwing her away to collect trash. I wouldn't blame her if she left your sorry a**." I'm sure she'll hear about this. He usually sends messages through his mom during their weekly phone calls. He'd tell her "Tell Dae'Jha I said I love and miss her." I'm not even sure she is aware of the other girls ! However, he's made his bed and now he has to lie in it ALONE.
Radu Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 This is something out of Jerry Springer. Look up a quote from Einstein ... the definition of stupidity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results. I hope you learn from this.
EmergenC Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I can understand totally and you're doing completely the right thing by moving on from this clown. And best of all? You have black and white proof staring you in the eyes. Nothing makes a breakup easier than having clear of day evidence in front of you! Enjoy your summer! 1
Author DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 I have definitely learned from this terrible experience and yes I agree, this is great talk show material.
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