krissy1989f Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Hi. First off I'm a 23 year old that is pretty set in life and i have everything figured out thus far...i'm a RN, starting back at school to get my bachelors and planning on traveling soon....i feel like everything is going how it should except my love life....i cant seem to ever get it right! and I feel like its usually my fault...i've had my "wild years" where i didnt care if a guy wanted a relationship with me and i believe that came from low self esteem/self worth I have recently started to take care of....to make a long story short...my last "real" relationship was with a guy who was not good for me...into drugs...mentally/physically abusive and now hes made some wonderful life changes and is living a healthy life with a new beautiful girl...and they are happy...that all ended when i got fed up and hooked up with someone else once he moved away....months went by I talked to other guys who i was just settling for...the most recent guy I talked to for 6 months...we liked each other but he never wanted to commit...he was extremely kind and "loyal" meaning he was only hooking up with me which i know means nothing if he was a man who didnt want to commit to me ever...but he seemed to care when we were together...but we would go days without talking...its like we just hung out and hooked up...but we were only sleeping with one another...but nothing more...he was having his cake and eating it too...and i was settling...it was awful i know...once again i got fed up with settling and when it was new years eve and he didnt even try to see me and only made plans to see me the next day...i in my drunken oblivion slept with someone else that nite...i am an honest/loyal person and regretted it immensely...i told him about it and he was was understandably upset....we stopped hanging out...and then of course he came back a couple months later..still wanting nothing....i finally said he was done for good...hes now talking to someone else...and that hurts me pretty bad because i am not over the situation yet...that pretty much sums up the last few years of my love life....clearly its all unhealthy...and im just ready to have something i deserve and have one time where i dont feel like i keep screwing things up...since all of this i have stopped drinking and i've made many healthy life changes....when will my time come?
Professor X Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Hi. First off I'm a 23 year old that is pretty set in life and i have everything figured out thus far...i'm a RN, starting back at school to get my bachelors and planning on traveling soon....i feel like everything is going how it should except my love life....i cant seem to ever get it right! and I feel like its usually my fault...i've had my "wild years" where i didnt care if a guy wanted a relationship with me and i believe that came from low self esteem/self worth I have recently started to take care of....to make a long story short...my last "real" relationship was with a guy who was not good for me...into drugs...mentally/physically abusive and now hes made some wonderful life changes and is living a healthy life with a new beautiful girl...and they are happy...that all ended when i got fed up and hooked up with someone else once he moved away....months went by I talked to other guys who i was just settling for...the most recent guy I talked to for 6 months...we liked each other but he never wanted to commit...he was extremely kind and "loyal" meaning he was only hooking up with me which i know means nothing if he was a man who didnt want to commit to me ever...but he seemed to care when we were together...but we would go days without talking...its like we just hung out and hooked up...but we were only sleeping with one another...but nothing more...he was having his cake and eating it too...and i was settling...it was awful i know...once again i got fed up with settling and when it was new years eve and he didnt even try to see me and only made plans to see me the next day...i in my drunken oblivion slept with someone else that nite...i am an honest/loyal person and regretted it immensely...i told him about it and he was was understandably upset....we stopped hanging out...and then of course he came back a couple months later..still wanting nothing....i finally said he was done for good...hes now talking to someone else...and that hurts me pretty bad because i am not over the situation yet...that pretty much sums up the last few years of my love life....clearly its all unhealthy...and im just ready to have something i deserve and have one time where i dont feel like i keep screwing things up...since all of this i have stopped drinking and i've made many healthy life changes....when will my time come? First of, good call with the drinking, I was about to suggest you can start your change by not drinking anymore, but you beat me to it About when you're time will come... Who knows? But you're changing now, right? Working on yourself. I say give it some time before you start thinking about RS, cause you don't wanna repeat past mistakes, yes? Also, you might wanna rethink about your people picking skills, because you seem to keep picking on those that want just to hook up, while you want commitment. Start noticing the red flag more, and listen to your gut - it's usually right.
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