Women, question about a particular physical "flaw" on a guy.

[USMCHokie]

^Given all that you said, you basically contradicted your earlier statement about skinny jeans not being fitted, no? Either way, people generally use the word "fitted" to describe clothing that tapers to ones figure. Shirts dont have the variety of cuts pants do, so with jeans Ive heard people consider anything smaller than regular ole straight cut jeans to be fitted.

 

Anyways, this is me in Hollister skinnies. http://i49.tinypic.com/6izddw.jpg

Id assume your initial reaction is that of someone who assumes all skinny jeans are super tight like the ones hipsters or scene kids wear. Skinnies come in a few different cuts and arent all super tight.

 

No, I didn't. I said fitted jeans aren't the same as skinny jeans...the order of the words makes a huge difference... And yes, I associate the term "skinny jeans" with girls and guys who want to look like girls.

[Radu]

Oh yeah...quick pic so you have an idea about my size....since I tend to weigh more than guys my height. Simply stating stats doesnt always give people a good idea of your body type. http://i46.tinypic.com/2hhhe2r.jpg I do wish I wasnt so darn slim...damn you ectomorph genetics xD

 

I guess Im just trying to compare womens thoughts to mens thoughts about certain physical things. Especially since I know girls deal with the plight of stretch marks much more often and seem to get them much worse than dudes.

 

Ha, you have a douchebag earring.

 

They don't matter afaik, i have a ton of these on my body.

Between 18 and 26 i put on about 140 pounds and then lost them. I have these stretch marks on my shoulders, belly, legs, hands ... you name it.

I'm white but they are still visible because these are very white and when i get a tan they are even more visible.

 

Rule of thumb on stuff like this is if you 'see' them, she will 'see' them [means they will get into focus].

 

PS: Your gf's stretchmarks remind me of stripes ... like those of a big cat.

[kaylan]

No, I didn't. I said fitted jeans aren't the same as skinny jeans...the order of the words makes a huge difference... And yes, I associate the term "skinny jeans" with girls and guys who want to look like girls.

Skinny jeans are a type of fitted jeans so yes you were wrong.

[kaylan]

No, I didn't. I said fitted jeans aren't the same as skinny jeans...the order of the words makes a huge difference... And yes, I associate the term "skinny jeans" with girls and guys who want to look like girls.

Btw, you are arguing semantics now as you backpedal imo.

 

And its cool that you close-mindedly associate skinny jeans with only women...especially considering men have been wearing them ever since jeans have been around. They constantly go in and out of style. Hell, the hardest dudes you could know in the south wore them before they came back into style. Im talking cowboy type dudes.

 

But think what you want.

[kaylan]

Ha, you have a douchebag earring.

 

They don't matter afaik, i have a ton of these on my body.

Between 18 and 26 i put on about 140 pounds and then lost them. I have these stretch marks on my shoulders, belly, legs, hands ... you name it.

I'm white but they are still visible because these are very white and when i get a tan they are even more visible.

 

Rule of thumb on stuff like this is if you 'see' them, she will 'see' them [means they will get into focus].

 

PS: Your gf's stretchmarks remind me of stripes ... like those of a big cat.

Actually Im wearing a 2 gauge tunnel in my stretched ear lobe. I dont wear shiny gaudy ear jewelry. Its a simple metal tunnel that had a lot of flash bounce off of it in the photo. =P

you really need to find something REAL to worry about.......shallow is the word that springs to mind.

Did you not read my OP in full? I clearly stated Im not worried about it at all and am simply making conversation. I clearly stated that I dont worry about it because Im not shallow like in my younger days. Maybe if you took the time to read the entire OP instead of jumping at the chance to flam someone than you wouldnt look like a dum dum =)

[phineas]

I tried skinny jeans on for the hell of it.

I couldn't get my calves into a size 32 & a 34 was falling off me. LOL!

 

I can't wear boxers with slim fits either.

[Els]

Kaylan, did anything happen recently to prod all these insecurities?

 

Chill, dude. The right girl won't care.

[january2011]

If I love the guy, physical flaws and being slightly overweight do not bother me (charts are guidelines anyway, in my opinion).

 

The way I see it is that this is the body that contains the man I love.

 

If he was grossly overweight, then I'd support and encourage him to eat better and exercise as I'd want him to stick around for a long time and not pass early due to poor lifestyle habits.

[Ruby Slippers]

you really need to find something REAL to worry about.......shallow is the word that springs to mind.

Seriously, dude! You're worse than a chick!

 

No woman worth a moment of your time is going to care about this crap.

 

Jeez, first-world problems. Get some real problems, man.

[Badsingularity]

Dude. Absolutely nothing to worry about.

[WhiteChocolate]

Kaylan you look totally FINE.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I'd be more worried about that crappy beer your drinking Kaylan. *wink

 

I think stretch marks can be kind of sexy because they make a guy appear more vulnerable. I don't want to be with some poreless, porcelain, perfect person. I don't want to be with a photoshopped image. I want to be with a person. And I hope that most men would want the same instead of picking women apart for their bodies as well because he wants her to be more doll then human.

[mesmerized]

Thanks for reminding me my biggest insecurity. * goes to cover her body and never show it to men ever again!*

[ThaWholigan]

Thanks for reminding me my biggest insecurity. * goes to cover her body and never show it to men ever again!*

Please. Stretch marks are sexy on a woman .

[phineas]

Kaylan, did anything happen recently to prod all these insecurities?

 

Chill, dude. The right girl won't care.

 

I don't see it as insecurities.

 

If someone does a project on their house do you consider it being insecure if they ask everyone what they think?

 

He lifts, he's building his body.

society id so over weight it's hard to tell if your average, above average or godly so you ask people what THEY think.

[mesmerized]

Please. Stretch marks are sexy on a woman .

 

Thanks hon. But most guys probably dont ithink that way.

[ThaWholigan]

Thanks hon. But most guys probably dont ithink that way.

Lots of girls have stretch marks. I don't understand why it's a big deal. Even I have stretch marks all along my biceps and shoulders. Only my darkness manages to cover them up .

 

Any guy who gets at a girl about stretch marks probably hasn't seen a lot of normal girls . Even I know this.

 

Kaylan, I doubt girls will even notice stretch marks on a guy. It's cool .

[BetheButterfly]

 

Mine are faint and you only make them out if you truly look for them in good lighting. Hell I can barely make out the butt ones at times. The calf ones I see better since my skins a little lighter there. So what say you womenz? This isnt something Im self conscious about at all...and I actually like that Im not perfect but can still feel attractive about myself. Means Im not as shallow as I used to be and that Im making the most out of what I have. Tbh I just wanted to share and see what girls thought since this is a question I usually see women ask online.

 

I don't see what the big deal is all about?

 

I love exploring my husband's body, and even though I've not seen lines like the one's you describe, I could care less if he has them or not, because to me, his body is PERFECT just the way he is.

 

Right now, his perfect body is sleeping. (he's so adorable when he sleeps!) and I'm not sleepy sigh. But, I am in love with every inch of him and any "flaws" just add character, like the scars he has on his legs and forehead... I don't even see them as flaws, but rather as characteristics that make him unique!

[threebyfate]

Do not care one bit. I honestly don't know one woman who would care about a few stretch marks.

[BewitchedandBothered]

Im 5'9 and 185 lbs. Im about a size 32 waist. Ive always been a slim guy, but weigh a bit more than dudes my height because of the gym.

 

Anyways, I just discovered this morning after working out that I have a few stretch marks at the top of my calf muscles on the back side of my leg. Who knew? I apparently missed these for years seeing as my last growth spurt was in my late teens. And Im still pretty slim so they arent new.

 

I guess thats just another set to go along with the few on my butt lmao. Yup, this brother got hit with that backside growth spurt back in the day xD. Ive always been told by girls that I have a big ass, or a "girl butt" haha.

But hell, because of my skin tone, I didnt even notice the ones on my butt until a couple years ago when I decided to examine.

 

I thought to examine because my ex has some on her butt that came from a growth spurt. Shes petite, about 5'2, 102 lbs, and a size zero...but had a bubble butt. So I decided to check myself and low and behold. Its apparent I couldnt avoid these since Ive always been a slim guy and growth spurts are part of biology and all. Though a tiny part me wishes I had control over that haha...but Id rather have my junk in the trunk () and regular sized legs, instead of a flat ass and chicken legs.

 

Anyways, I know some guys arent too keen on stretch marks depending on the area, visibility, and the amount of them...so I thought Id ask girls the same question lol. My ex's werent bad...noticeable but only a few on both sides of her butt near her hips. At first, seeing as I was a lot more shallow and immature back then, it did bother me a tad lol. But I ended up loving them and thought they were cute and a testament to her bubble booty.

 

Mine are faint and you only make them out if you truly look for them in good lighting. Hell I can barely make out the butt ones at times. The calf ones I see better since my skins a little lighter there. So what say you womenz? This isnt something Im self conscious about at all...and I actually like that Im not perfect but can still feel attractive about myself. Means Im not as shallow as I used to be and that Im making the most out of what I have. Tbh I just wanted to share and see what girls thought since this is a question I usually see women ask online.

That kind of thing can be sexy, actually:) If I am attracted to a guy's personality, chances are I will find those little things you mentioned kind of sexy. If I love his body, I accept all of the 'flaws'---you might think it's a flaw, a lady who appreciates you might think otherwise:) it is just part of what makes you, you:)

[johan]

Have you looked into skin grafts?

 

I doubt a woman would notice unless you pointed them out to her. It's even less likely she would care so much that it would make any difference to her.

 

Think of it this way: by the time she gets around to noticing this kind of thing, you will already have done and said plenty of stupid things around her. If she's stuck around through all that, by the time she spots the stretch marks she's already in the bag.

Edited May 29, 2012 by johan

[HHC]

No issues with stretch marks in blokes, especially in areas of muscle growth

[xoxoDaniellexoxo]

I could care less lol! I have some too since I got hit with the boob and butt growth spurt that didn't stop for awhile lol! I honestly don't expect anyone to be perfect, and if a guy was bugged by mine it would be a turn off, not my fault I grew :-)

[kaylan]

I tried skinny jeans on for the hell of it.

I couldn't get my calves into a size 32 & a 34 was falling off me. LOL!

 

I can't wear boxers with slim fits either.

Trolol. I usually rock boxer breifs in any sort of slim fitting pants. Bunching is not comfortable at all lmao.

Kaylan, did anything happen recently to prod all these insecurities?

 

Chill, dude. The right girl won't care.

Lol are people missing the part where I said I laughed about and actually enjoy my physical flaws? Hell they arent visible to anyone unless I ask them to look for it. Plus they are in hidden areas.

 

I simply asked the question to start an amusing convo. And I was curious how womens opinions compared to men on this since guys sometimes talk about this and straight up clown on some girls who have them in bad spots. From convos Ive had we tend to be forgiving of a few marks on a girls butt, or thighs...as long as its not a lot or doesnt have super color contrast. When it comes to those on the breasts or stomach dudes are straight up brutal with the comments at times.

 

Yes ,I read the full post,i nearly nodded off reading it,but read it I did.I stand by what I said ......if youre worried about stuff like that youre too shallow.....still.

And if you read the post word for word, you would have read the part where I said Im not bothered by it. Hell, Im in good enough shape that something someone cant even see wont bother me at all =P. Call me shallow if you wish...but shallow is just a word used by average folks who hate on people who like looking good.

Edited May 29, 2012 by kaylan

[kaylan]

Seriously, dude! You're worse than a chick!

No woman worth a moment of your time is going to care about this crap.

Jeez, first-world problems. Get some real problems, man.

Wow people really fail at reading OPs fully. I clearly said this doesnt bother me in the slightest.

I'd be more worried about that crappy beer your drinking Kaylan. *wink

 

I think stretch marks can be kind of sexy because they make a guy appear more vulnerable. I don't want to be with some poreless, porcelain, perfect person. I don't want to be with a photoshopped image. I want to be with a person. And I hope that most men would want the same instead of picking women apart for their bodies as well because he wants her to be more doll then human.

Woah woah...dont be hating on the Jeremiah Weed beverage lol. Its not beer, its delicious alcoholic sweet tea =).

 

And your right about the vulnerability thing. I tend to be drawn to someone who isnt perfect. I tend to like things that make someone unique. Like is someone said Sarah Jessia Parker

 

was ugly with a weird nose, id say I found her nose to be different and cute. Or if someone says Angelina Jolie's lips are too big, Id see them as luscious and unique. Neither women have typical thin lips, tiny nose hollywood looks.

 

Please. Stretch marks are sexy on a woman .

I wouldnt say they are inherently sexy. Id say they can be sexy depending on placement, contrast with skin tone, and the amount of them. Growth spurt stretch marks tend to be minor and in areas that are cute...like thighs and butt. Stretch marks from weight gain tend to be larger, have more contrast, and tend to be in a variety of places.

 

It really depends. I say everything in moderation. Just being honest. Some people have moles and birthmarks in certain spots that can be cute...but if they were like everywhere, that could be offputting. Then again, arent freckles just like numerous tiny birth marks? And Ive been super attracted to ginger and other freckled chicks lately. I dunno, its weird...just seeing a girls body covered in something new to me is just a turn on. It prolly has to do with them being rare and unique, but I love the look.

 

Anyways like I said, I always found the stretch marks on my ex's butt to be cute. There were little things about her that shed obsess over that I just adored about her. Plus she was fine to begin with =P. Noones perfect though...well not until they are airbrushed =P

Edited May 29, 2012 by kaylan