He left his wife, now I'm not sure

May 28, 2012

You all are really scaring me. It's so public right now, our affair. At work, among friends and family, and we have support for our relationship. I don't know if he'll still cheat. Isn't it possible for him to have just been a cheater in that particular relationship? He was with her since he was 20, maybe he just got serious too young? And needed to experience other things and now has found what he was looking for`?

AGAIN, you are getting him by default Rosie. He would have remained married with you on the side for as long as you would have allowed it . . . along with any other OW he could juggle.

May 28, 2012

If she's in her 40's, she can still get pregnant. But that's besides the point.

I suppose you're right, although she won't get pregnant by him, as he wouldn't touch her if she paid him. And she doesn't want him to touch her. They're both done.

May 28, 2012

We don't aim to scare you, we aim to knock some sense into your young head. Who cares if everybody knows about it? That doesn't mean you have to pledge undying love to this guy. This is your life, your quality of life we are speaking about. Yes, it's possible he's found what he wants and won't cheat in the future. But think about YOU. Do you want to be a sexy, energetic 45 year old woman with a 60 year old husband? C'mon now. Try and think of your future.

Well, he's a very sexy, hot 40 year old and very young looking. He works out a lot now (I've really got him jogging and biking and such) and takes much better care of himself than when he was with her.

I know it doesn't matter what people think but this affair has become very public and there is pressure to make it work because a family was broken up as a result of it. I can see my future with him and the age doesn't matter. Loads of people have big age differences and it works.

May 28, 2012

He's very open with me about his female friends. Because his wife found out about other cheating she read a lot into innocent freindships on FB and in emails. Yes, he was going to hook up with a former affair partner but he and I were only EA at that point, not physical, and he wasn't sure I was going to leave my boyfriend and I wasn't sure he was going to leave his wife, so it doesn't really count, if you know what I mean.

You're in denial. He probably already has profiles set up on various websites. A "very hot" 40 year old divorced man is going to be on the prowl.

When he cheats on you, he'll have no remorse and will be able to "justify" it. Be prepared to never be able to decline sex because of the kids or because you're tired, never go without giving him attention, never be able to complain about how he didn't do something he was supposed to do, or anything else that's going to bother you once you've been with him for a while. Don't gain even five pounds!! Because he's going to find ANY reason to blame you for cheating.

May 28, 2012

He's very open with me about his female friends. Because his wife found out about other cheating she read a lot into innocent freindships on FB and in emails. Yes, he was going to hook up with a former affair partner but he and I were only EA at that point, not physical, and he wasn't sure I was going to leave my boyfriend and I wasn't sure he was going to leave his wife, so it doesn't really count, if you know what I mean.

I am just confused as hell. You are all making a lot of sense but how do I just say no? How do I stop loving him? How do I walk away, knowing it will rip a hole in my heart and his?

HUGE RED FLAG right here - on all the research on cheating men, they always say that a man with "a lot of woman friends" is a prime characteristic of a cheater. This is where emotional affairs begin, she's "just a good friend". But think about it. The "good friend" is usually privy to all his emotional and intimate thoughts, right? That's where the "really good friend" part comes in. THAT is the slippery slope into a physical affair, very common. And who would want a man that has a lot of female friends? When I look at the husbands/fathers who are my friends, the ones I admire, they would never be out with a "really good female friend". Why? Because they are with their kids and spouse. And also, because they know where the appropriate emotional boundaries are, they don't spend time with other females alone, pretending they are "friends". I'm telling you to beware.

May 28, 2012

AGAIN, you are getting him by default Rosie. He would have remained married with you on the side for as long as you would have allowed it . . . along with any other OW he could juggle.

I don't think so. We were talking about easing out of our relationships in a respectable way with as little hurt as possible. When she found out that changed everything and it became quite ugly and messy. But we were definitely talking about a future together. I don't think there are any OW in the picture anymore. He's with me all the time and if he's not we're texting constantly or playing games online (particularly when he's with his kids) so I don't know where he'd even find the time.

He's even considering a job overseas and we've talked about me going along. His ex and kids would go as well but live separately. That's the problem for me, really, because that means he will have the kids a lot and we'd probably set up a home together if we made this move. It's a lot of pressure to move and set up a home and also have the kids involved. That scares me more than the thougth of him cheating, which I really don't think would happen.

May 28, 2012

I suppose you're right, although she won't get pregnant by him, as he wouldn't touch her if she paid him. And she doesn't want him to touch her. They're both done.

I've read these very same lines from OW on a half dozen cheaters boards. Don't count on his wife being overweight for too much longer.

May 28, 2012

He's with me all the time and if he's not we're texting constantly or playing games online (particularly when he's with his kids) so I don't know where he'd even find the time.

Talk is just that . . . talk.

In any case, my husband was with me all the time too. Never went out, never came home late, never used his cell phone . . . and he still cheated. There are dozens of BS like me who could say the same thing as you, "He doesn't have the time."

Oh yes they do!

Please don't be so naive.

May 28, 2012

He's very open with me about his female friends. Because his wife found out about other cheating she read a lot into innocent freindships on FB and in emails. Yes, he was going to hook up with a former affair partner but he and I were only EA at that point, not physical, and he wasn't sure I was going to leave my boyfriend and I wasn't sure he was going to leave his wife, so it doesn't really count, if you know what I mean.

I am just confused as hell. You are all making a lot of sense but how do I just say no? How do I stop loving him? How do I walk away, knowing it will rip a hole in my heart and his?

I can see why this guy finds you so attractive. You don't hold him accountable for anything. It's not his fault he cheated on his wife. She made him do it because she was overweight and unhappy. It's not his fault that he hooked up with another woman after he was involved with you. He had to do it because you hadn't left your bf yet. Poor guy has all these people making him do things. I guess you two will be blissfully happy together provided you never gain weight or experience a moment of depression or unhappiness. If you become sick or if you have a baby and experience post partum depression, or lose your job, get injured, or any of the many things that life might throw at you then this poor man will be forced to cheat again.

May 28, 2012

Rosie, this is what I see you're not grasping. You keep going round, can a SERIAL cheater change? Emphasis on that. The answer is a big fat simple NO unless they figure out why it's their pattern to cheat. Conflict avoiders (which you've described he is) are the biggest group of cheaters, unless they figure out healthier ways of dealing with unhappiness they will ALWAYS resort to cheating to cope.

Could have he been unhappy? Sure, of course but he didn't have to cheat Rosie, that's what you're missing. Honorable people try to work things out or if they can't they LEAVE. They don't cheat and whine about how unfair life is.

It may take him 2 to 5 years to resume the pattern, but it will definately resume. Why? How can I an internet stranger be so damn sure? Because he's not taking ANY responsiblity for the breakdown. It was all her, she let herself go, she was a nagging shrew....etc.

Guess, what? For every beautiful girl, there's a guy that's sick of flucking her. Fact with serial cheaters. It's in their makeup to cheat, that's all they know that's their comfort zone. It has nothing to do with how much you work out and how hot you look and if you can still wear a bikini at 45. It's the broken character of the cheat.

As for the kids. It's quite possible they'll never accept you. I have seen in happen. Just bc you and some others are accepting and get over things like this, doesn't mean all would. Depends on how they were brought up. Some want nothing to do with someone who would willingly step in and hurt someone else for their gain and they'll hold up their principles. It's a risk I have no idea why you would take for a known serial cheater. It would be one thing if he was a one time cheat with you and sorry, yeah I'd still have my doubts of it working bc they are better coping tools to have than cheating. But a SERIAL cheat??? Rosie, let that sink and absorb. You should be scared. Because there's not only red flags flying on this sinking ship, there's red bunting all around the rails.

May 28, 2012

He's even considering a job overseas and we've talked about me going along. His ex and kids would go as well but live separately.

Well now, this is interesting. Can you elaborate further?

You'd have to be crazy to move across the world for this guy. And don't be surprised if it ultimately ends up being him, his wife and kids just making the move.

Please keep in mind that you are disposable, especially since his children don't want anything to do with you. If your MM is considering moving overseas, I don't think this is going to go down like you think it's going to go down. In fact, I don't think they'll even get divorced. The overseas job could wind up being that "new beginning" that often happens after a Dday.

Even if it goes down like you plan, can you imagine you moving across the world for this guy, the wife slimming down and looking good and he's cheating on you with his wife/ex-wife . . . and you're in a foreign country?

Edited May 28, 2012 by Alice2012

May 28, 2012

Rosie, this is what I see you're not grasping. You keep going round, can a SERIAL cheater change? Emphasis on that. The answer is a big fat simple NO unless they figure out why it's their pattern to cheat. Conflict avoiders (which you've described he is) are the biggest group of cheaters, unless they figure out healthier ways of dealing with unhappiness they will ALWAYS resort to cheating to cope.

Could have he been unhappy? Sure, of course but he didn't have to cheat Rosie, that's what you're missing. Honorable people try to work things out or if they can't they LEAVE. They don't cheat and whine about how unfair life is.

It may take him 2 to 5 years to resume the pattern, but it will definately resume. Why? How can I an internet stranger be so damn sure? Because he's not taking ANY responsiblity for the breakdown. It was all her, she let herself go, she was a nagging shrew....etc.

Guess, what? For every beautiful girl, there's a guy that's sick of flucking her. Fact with serial cheaters. It's in their makeup to cheat, that's all they know that's their comfort zone. It has nothing to do with how much you work out and how hot you look and if you can still wear a bikini at 45. It's the broken character of the cheat.

As for the kids. It's quite possible they'll never accept you. I have seen in happen. Just bc you and some others are accepting and get over things like this, doesn't mean all would. Depends on how they were brought up. Some want nothing to do with someone who would willingly step in and hurt someone else for their gain and they'll hold up their principles. It's a risk I have no idea why you would take for a known serial cheater. It would be one thing if he was a one time cheat with you and sorry, yeah I'd still have my doubts of it working bc they are better coping tools to have than cheating. But a SERIAL cheat??? Rosie, let that sink and absorb. You should be scared. Because there's not only red flags flying on this sinking ship, there's red bunting all around the rails.

I'm sitting here crying because he's emailing her right now and arguing about the divorce settlement. She's complaining that she gave up her career to support his and expects him to support her for as long as she needs it. Money is extremely tight and I just don't know if I can take this.

Maybe he is a serial cheat but how do I let go? How do I stop loving him? He makes me feel like the most special girl in the world and I love him with all my heart. How do i get the strength to walk away? And how do I know that that's the right thing to do ? He does everything right. He's met my mother, I've met his parents, we've met some freinds, we're bringing each other into each other's lives. How do I know that this isn't real and it's going to crash down? It feels real and right and great.

The kids may well never accept me but they will grow up and e off on their own and he will never let them down. And we'll maybe have kids of our own and hopefully that will bring his first kids around.

I don't know what to do. I really love this man.

May 28, 2012

But couldn't he simply have been unhappy with her so was looking for comfort elsewhere? He says it was like living with a roommate, she was always nagging at him, didn't give him a lot of love or affection, particularly after the kids came along, put on a lot of weight, was super critical of him...it just ran out of steam, he says.

I want to trust him and he's given me no reason to not trust him. I'm waiting for him to file for divorce and that should only take six months to complete.

I'm just unsure where we're heading from here, especially with the kids really hating me. Will they get over it eventually?

I think people like to think this....but come on....his wife has known him A LOT longer than you have. Him being a serial cheater isn't about his unhappiness with his wife. I am sure at some point he love her...do you want to live a life where you have to be worried that if he gets a bit unhappy he is going to run off an cheat? No marriage is going to be roses and romance year after year. It sounds to me like he is a man who doesn't take responsibility for his actions and will toss blame ANYWHERE he can.

He's given you no reason not to trust him? I think he has....

I really would listen to his wife. It's so easy to feel like your A love is special and you know this man so well, but truly, if you've known him only for some months, you are still getting this person who is on their best behavior to woo you most likely. Your knowledge of him is very minuscule compared to his wife whom he has been with for years and years...there is no fooling her. She seems to be nice to you, and seems to actually be relieved to get rid of him...I'd pay attention to that as well.

In any case, I agree with sky. You're 25.... I don't think it's worth it frankly to go through this for this 40 year old cheater whose kids hate you. It's all too much for me personally and at 25 I wouldn't be complicating my life like that when there are SO many red flags and drama as is. I'm sure if you let him go, you'd be able to move on and find love elsewhere. He is not your only chance and most likely not the best option.

May 28, 2012

Well now, this is interesting. Can you elaborate further?

You'd have to be crazy to move across the world for this guy. And don't be surprised if it ultimately ends up being him, his wife and kids just making the move.

Please keep in mind that you are disposable, especially since his children don't want anything to do with you. If your MM is considering moving overseas, I don't think this is going to go down like you think it's going to go down. In fact, I don't think they'll even get divorced. The overseas job could wind up being that "new beginning" that often happens after a Dday.

Even if it goes down like you plan, can you imagine you moving across the world for this guy, the wife slimming down and looking good and he's cheating on you with his wife/ex-wife . . . and you're in a foreign country?

They've lived overseas a few times. This is why the wife gave up her career, so he could pursue his. She is kind of bitter about that now and says she has nothing left. She did not like being home all the time and that was part of the issue in their marriage.

He is quite successful and gets headhunted a lot and right now there are possibilities of going overseas for work. His family would move as well but live separately so he can still see his kids. It would also work well for his wife, work-wise, for varoius reasons and she is pushing for this to happen.

I just wonder where I'll fit into this. I can get a job if we move as I have great skllls and qualifications so that's not a worry, and he's told me that if it happens i need to make sure I'm doing it for my own reasons, not just to be with him.

May 28, 2012

I've met his parents, we've met some freinds, we're bringing each other into each other's lives. How do I know that this isn't real and it's going to crash down?

A man with character and integrity would never introduce a mistress to his parents and friends. Only a narcissist would do something like this.

I'm sorry you're hurting, but I would not be flattered at all by it. In fact, you should get therapy to figure why you would be flattered by any of this.

Edited May 28, 2012 by Alice2012

May 28, 2012

I think people like to think this....but come on....his wife has known him A LOT longer than you have. Him being a serial cheater isn't about his unhappiness with his wife. I am sure at some point he love her...do you want to live a life where you have to be worried that if he gets a bit unhappy he is going to run off an cheat? No marriage is going to be roses and romance year after year. It sounds to me like he is a man who doesn't take responsibility for his actions and will toss blame ANYWHERE he can.

He's given you no reason not to trust him? I think he has....

I really would listen to his wife. It's so easy to feel like your A love is special and you know this man so well, but truly, if you've known him only for some months, you are still getting this person who is on their best behavior to woo you most likely. Your knowledge of him is very minuscule compared to his wife whom he has been with for years and years...there is no fooling her. She seems to be nice to you, and seems to actually be relieved to get rid of him...I'd pay attention to that as well.

In any case, I agree with sky. You're 25.... I don't think it's worth it frankly to go through this for this 40 year old cheater whose kids hate you. It's all too much for me personally and at 25 I wouldn't be complicating my life like that when there are SO many red flags and drama as is. I'm sure if you let him go, you'd be able to move on and find love elsewhere. He is not your only chance and most likely not the best option.

I think his wife has her own agenda. She doesn't want him to end up with me because it would mean he actually found someone better and left her.

You all are making a lot of sense but again, how do I let go? How do i end it with someone i love?

May 28, 2012

A man with character and integrity would never introduce a mistress to his parents and friends. Only a narcissist would do something like this.

I'm sorry you're hurting, but I would not be flattered at all by it. In fact, you should get therapy to figure why you would be flattered by any of this.

I'm not a mistress anymore. They've split and it's only a matter of filing and getting the divorce done. We're openly together and most people are aware.

This is the one thing that gives me hope, that he openly is with me, unafraid to say to the world that I am the woman he loves.

May 28, 2012

I just wonder where I'll fit into this. I can get a job if we move as I have great skllls and qualifications so that's not a worry, and he's told me that if it happens i need to make sure I'm doing it for my own reasons, not just to be with him.

Make sure you're on birth control for the remainder of your relationship, because it appears then you'll be following the same footsteps as his wife did over a decade ago.

May 28, 2012

Him having affairs bothers me, no doubt, but he really was unhappy with his wife. It's how we got to talking: I wasn't happy with my bf and he wasn't happy with his wife and we realized we made each other very happy. We have a lot of fun together, he is very open with me, has shut his wife down completely, and he's been honest about his flings.

His wife still throws them in his face, even though it's over between them and was before I came along.

It's his kids that worry me. I don't have any intention of being their stepmother but his wife keeps saying that he'll hve the kids 50% of the time and if I live with him then I'll be their stepmother 50% of the time. I'm not sure that's how it works. I will be there more to support him as a father but I don't see myself as their future stepmother in the sense of being a parental figure.

I am just looking for advice. I am in deep, I am madly in love, he's the most charming, funny man I've ever met and he's like a little boy in love around me. I want it to work but need advice on how to proceed.

Rosie...it sounds like you being madly inlove isn't built on anything substantial. It's funny because just yesterday I was reading a book about relationships and they conducted a study where they asked people what they liked about their partner. Basically, the people that gave answers like you did: funny, handsome, charming....all those relationships did not last, as what they liked about the person was superficial. It sounds as though you were both "unhappy" with your partners....what does this mean? Are you one who expects your partner to make you happy? Some people always blame their unhappinness on other people or expect their happiness to come from their partner, when that cannot be the case. A partner can contribute to your happiness but shouldn't be responsible for it. It seems as though you both were "unhappy" and sought solace in each other.....then what amounts is a relationship that isn't built on deep love, respect, integrity, transparency, support etc...but simply "feel good" emotions because he is funny, charming and like a little boy in love?

But I agree with sky though, perhaps at 25, this is something you must live and learn experientially, as at this point you are hell bent on believing he is just unhappy with the wife, it's her fault, but he found you, his soulmate and savior who will make it better.

May 28, 2012

I'm not a mistress anymore. They've split and it's only a matter of filing and getting the divorce done. We're openly together and most people are aware.

This is the one thing that gives me hope, that he openly is with me, unafraid to say to the world that I am the woman he loves.

You are indeed still a mistress. Again, I would not be hopeful and confident in the fact that he's paraded around a "younger model" to family and friends. It's a huge red flag - one of many you fail to notice.

Edited May 28, 2012 by Alice2012

May 28, 2012

Hey Rosie, you can't win. If he goes slow or is reticent it's because he's ashamed of you, or uncertain, or plans to return to his wife. If he's open and honest he's a shallow show-off...

I understand your concern about the affairs, and I can see where you're saying that perhaps he's happy now and his behaviour will change. And you might be right. But it sounds as though he's been avoiding conflict and I think it's very important you and he have some couples counselling to ensure you have healthy mechanisms to deal with issues as they may arise, and for you to be able to air your justifiable concerns in a very controlled and constructive atmosphere.

Edited May 28, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

May 28, 2012

I think his wife has her own agenda. She doesn't want him to end up with me because it would mean he actually found someone better and left her.

You all are making a lot of sense but again, how do I let go? How do i end it with someone i love?

She MAY have her own agenda....but also, she still knows him more than you do.

In any case this is a mess through and through and it's hard to sort out the truth.

How long have you known him? If you want to let go, you have to break up with him, go No Contact and focus on yourself. Leaving any attachment is hard, but people do it all the time. The way this is going, it seems like it will be easier for you to move on now than it would be if all our predictions come to pass in the future.

At least take some time apart and have him sort through his kids and divorce by himself. That is my suggestion. Even if you don't want to break it off now...don't stand there in the middle of his family drama and marriage dissolution. Don't you also think it a sign that the only reason he is divorcing is because his wife is the one to kick him out? What if she didn't find out and didn't kick him out? He'd probably still be there...but right now he has no choice, so it makes even more sense why he would cling to you. But anyway, if you want to have the best chance of seeing the truth, give him space to end things and sort his life out. There is no reason why you should be shoved on his kids so quickly. I'd be angry too. Give him space and when things cool down, if you are actually "in love" and "meant to be", then once things calm down you can date out in the open and take things slow versus what is going on now...which seems to be one big hodge podge and a lot of things that are happening by default and circumstance and not because people are thinking clearly.

When you're defending your love you say it's not about sex but you also work out together, play computer games, have dinner, go out on weekends and he likes you more than his wife because you are fun. I'm sorry but this is not deep love. Fun and deep love are not one and the same and it seems indeed like this relationship is about superficial feel good fun times. You can play computer games, go to the gym, laugh, have sex and have fun with ANYONE....you don't need to do it with a 40 year old cheater whose kids hate you. But I do understand how you guys ended up together....he seems to be a grown man trapped at 19 and you're young an also seem like what you look for in a man is more about fun things versus deeper things, so it works out. But at some point that may all change.

Edited May 28, 2012 by MissBee

May 28, 2012

Rosie,

I don't think I've ever seen a thread on here where there was so much of the same advice offered.

Google, can serial cheaters change? If you find one instance of yes, let us know!

He hates his wife because he hates himself. He is only happy when his greatness is mirrored from someone else's opinion of him.

His wife said you can have him. She knows good and well if it's not you it will be some other poor soul. You could marry this man and try to prove her wrong tomorrow but it's YOU who will pay. And speaking of paying, find a good job because while he is still supporting her and her kids you will have to make up the difference to support the two of you!

The man you are dating and the man she is divorcing ARE THE SAME MAN! That is the most important thing to remember. Another person or relationship will ot change who he is.

25 with no commitments should be the time of your life, instead you want to take on this cowards baggage???

If you are sooooo strong then do yourself a favor and walk now before you are dependent on him in another country. He'll find someone else tomorrow, because He HAS to have someone, otherwise he is nothing!

May 28, 2012

OP,

have you ever thought that, at one time, he told his wife the same things he is now telling you? that at one time, he loved her enough to marry her, she loved him enough to give up her whole life for him? To me, that hardly sounds like the picture that he paints of her as a dunk who screams at him.

try looking at it this way...try looking at her as a human being who probably is no where as bad as he'd have you believe. Does she deserve to be cheated on? I'm asking because if he cheated on her, some he professed to love and who is just your average person, not so bad, what does that tell you about his future behavior?

I know you feel that you are defending him by giving more details, but the more details you give about him, the worse he seems. He's either texting you all the time or online playing games when his kids are around? What kind of dad is that? Why is he spending his precious time with them playing games online? Why is he not doing things with them? Perhaps that's part of the reason they are upset. He wants to drag his wife and kids overseas just so he can further his career? His kids are at an age where they have friends and their socil life is so important, but he wants to drag them (and their mom) to a place where they don't know anyone, they are apart from friends and family, just for his own selfish ends? If he's such a valuable employee that gets headhunted all the time, the surely he can find something better nearby where he can see his kids and not have to move. But he;s being selfish and only thinking of himself...and if he's that way about his children, the one area where he should put them first, and he can't, what does that tell you about him?

you have so much of your life left to live and love and be happy...given all the negatives about this guy ( family issues, past history, possibility he's a serrial cheater), is he worth all the pain?

i know that it may be frightening to think of your life without him in it...the immediate pain may seem so intense...but isn't that immediate pain ( think of getting a bad tooth pulled...hurts, but over relative quickly) easier to endure than a chronic pain (living with a toothache for the est of your life)?

if you were advising a friend in your exact situation, what advice would you give?

May 28, 2012

Rosie...it sounds like you being madly inlove isn't built on anything substantial. It's funny because just yesterday I was reading a book about relationships and they conducted a study where they asked people what they liked about their partner. Basically, the people that gave answers like you did: funny, handsome, charming....all those relationships did not last, as what they liked about the person was superficial. It sounds as though you were both "unhappy" with your partners....what does this mean? Are you one who expects your partner to make you happy? Some people always blame their unhappinness on other people or expect their happiness to come from their partner, when that cannot be the case. A partner can contribute to your happiness but shouldn't be responsible for it. It seems as though you both were "unhappy" and sought solace in each other.....then what amounts is a relationship that isn't built on deep love, respect, integrity, transparency, support etc...but simply "feel good" emotions because he is funny, charming and like a little boy in love?

But I agree with sky though, perhaps at 25, this is something you must live and learn experientially, as at this point you are hell bent on believing he is just unhappy with the wife, it's her fault, but he found you, his soulmate and savior who will make it better.

Well, we do give each other support. That's one of the things he loves about me, that I'm very supportive of him during this difficult time. And he was really supportive of me when I was trying to decide whether or not to leave my bf. We were there for each other.

I've said why he was unhappy but why was I unhappy? For four years my bf was great but the last six months of our relationship all he wanted to do was lay on the couch and watch tv. I wanted to travel and do things and have fun and with my MM we do those things. We do watch tv together and do normal home stuff but we also plan fun things together and that's what I was missing and I think that's what he was missing, just the fun and excitement of having someone to do fun things with. Life can't be all boring and taking care of the home and never doing anything fun. Plus, his wife drank, which meant he drank and they drank too much and this caused arguments. He doesn't drink nearly as much now and has lost a lot of weight because of this.

I don't expect him to make me happy as I'm a happy person in general but he brings me more happiness and I bring it to him. I do make him happy and let him feel fun and carefree and like he means something to someone. His wife made him feel like nothing.

I just wish I knew how this would turn out in the end. I wish I had a crystal ball so I could know what to do.

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