hurting1982 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 It's been over a month now since I was dumped by the one guy I've truly loved. I've been going out with friends, trying to stay busy and possitive but everytime I think I've decided what to do something happens to drag me back down. My 2 friends came out with me saturday for a night out. The night was going amazing....lots of laughing and joking going on and then in walked my ex's best friend. We spoke but it was a bit uncomfortable, we didn't really bring up my ex apart from him telling me that he wasn't well so wasn't out with him. Another guy then came over and introduced himself and said he'd heard all about me. Turns out it was the guy who my ex is now house sharing with. He said how my ex has been saying to him how amazing I am and how nice I was to him and all that sort of stuff....I was gutted! If I'm not good enough to be with why is he thinking this about me? Well the night went on.....and I we eventually left and headed to mine.in the taxi I started to uncontrolably shake and my one friend had to try calm me down. When we eventually got home I started to have a really severe panic attack and started shaking again. This went on for an hour and took Both of my friends to try calm me down. My head wasn't right and hasn't been since. I really am worried that was breaking point and had a break down. All I kept hearing was his house mate saying all these things he'd said about me, and it's the sane now. I can't rationalise my thinking and I'm all over the place. If I'm not good enough to be with, why is he being so nice about me? And why does he want to keep in touch?
raebee Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 maybe your ex boyfriend has a lot of deep seeded issues that he was trying to save you from . when someone breaks up with you , you should really see it as an opportunity to find someone better . breaking up with someone is very hard so , trust he put lots of time and thought into it before doing it and probably has a couple great reasons of why he didnt want to be with you . everything isnt about you ! <-- idont say this to be mean , isay this because its the truth . its possible that he just wanted to gaurd you from things he knew he would do if he kept the relationship . delete his number , dont go places he frequents , delete from all social media and just let yourself heal . as far as having panic attacks , smoke weed , LOL , but forreal . if you dont like smoking , pick up some excersise that will help as well .
alexandria35 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Your ex may not want to be tied down to a full time relationship but he can still see that you have wonderful qualities. Not everyone you date will be interested in a committed long term relationship. Unfortunately most people are not honest about this up front. Even the commitmentphobes will come on like gangbusters when they are infatuated, only to find themselves feeling claustrophobic once they are in a relationship. Take what your ex said about you as a testament to all of your positive qualities and use it to boost your self confidence. I'm sure he wouldn't have said so many nice things about you if they weren't true. Exercise is an excellent way to deal with anxiety and panic attacks. It burns off lots of adrenaline and it's good for you. Smoking weed is iffy. I would never smoke during a period of high anxiety because it would only intensify it (for me). I've had some of my worst panic attacks while high on weed...lol.
Author hurting1982 Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 That's just it. We'd talked about our future together so he isn't afraid of relationships. The whole thing just went stale and took each other for granted so it fizzled out. What really hurts is that I'm almost certain he's found someone new already. I feel like my heart is being ripped out. I've had to go on beta blockers and anti depressants to try calm me down. I just feel absolutely crushed.
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