Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Handy guys are hot, but it's not a dealbreaker, it's just helpful in life. A dealbreaker for me is lack of integrity, honesty, loyalty, kindness, and affection. Those are the innate qualities I search for now. And I know I must foster them within myself in order to be worthy of someone else with these qualities. And so I do the best I can, to grow these qualities within myself. Never easy, no one is perfect. But very worthwhile. Cheers! I totally agree with this 100%. I think it's hot when a guy knows how to do stuff around the house BUT it's not a dealbreaker. And I love what Forever Learning had to say as for the rest. I couldn't have said it better but it describes exactly how I feel as well.
supergirl1213 Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 no, not at all. It would be nice if you could do those things but I wouldn't expect you to know how to do everything just bc you are a man. But on the flipside, I shouldn't be expected to be a good cook or cleaning lady! 1
Imported Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 But on the flipside, I shouldn't be expected to be a good cook or cleaning lady! I love women that can cook and truely enjoys it. It absolutely is a huge plus in my book. I've only had three real relationships and all of them were great at cooking and being feminine in the traditional sense. Yes, they also did my laundry for me and even cleaned my house (I didn't ask). I of course worked on their cars, gardened with them, lots of grunt jobs and so on. I don't purposely go after only women that are like that, but I think deep down if they are not, I will somehow find some kinda problem and drop them sooner than later. Not looking for girls that are like guys. Also I have no problem cooking and cleaning as well. Not like I expect them to baby me.
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Nope! My daddy taught me how to change my oil, jump a car, change wiper blades, refil cooling agent, change and inflate a tire, use power tools, build grills and what not, ect. Honestly though my dad wasn't really super handy when it came to house problems I usually solved them lol, even as a teen I was the one that put together the grill, desks and kitchen table. My dad was more intrested in keeping stuff tidy lol
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I love women that can cook and truely enjoys it. It absolutely is a huge plus in my book. I've only had three real relationships and all of them were great at cooking and being feminine in the traditional sense. Yes, they also did my laundry for me and even cleaned my house (I didn't ask). I of course worked on their cars, gardened with them, lots of grunt jobs and so on. I don't purposely go after only women that are like that, but I think deep down if they are not, I will somehow find some kinda problem and drop them sooner than later. Not looking for girls that are like guys. Also I have no problem cooking and cleaning as well. Not like I expect them to baby me. Love cooking and baking, like vacuming and swifering, but picking stuff up isn't as great lol. I kinda garden but only herbs and veggies since I am allergic to bees. :-( I actually prefer to cook since it is calming to me, and decorating cakes is another thing I LOVE! But I also can do "boyish" type chores since I hate asking others to do stuff for me.
zengirl Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Hubby is handy, and it's something that I definitely think appeals to me. But I would never have considered it a dealbreaker if someone was not UNLESS he was also just a schlub about it, who relied on me to fix everything, and never put in effort to get things fixed. If the effort you put in is paying someone to fix things, then fine, and especially good if you take over some other area of the household (cooking, cleaning, etc) but I do think it's helpful if at least ONE person in a R is handy and I'm a giant klutz. So, I often wound up dating handy men who complemented me in that way. That said, I don't know any men who really fix their own car these days. It was much easier to do so a decade ago before computers were in every car, etc. Nowadays, it's pretty hard to do. Even some men I know who could fix cars in the 90s can't today. So, going by the 'car' thing makes no sense to me.
Els Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I love women that can cook and truely enjoys it. It absolutely is a huge plus in my book. I've only had three real relationships and all of them were great at cooking and being feminine in the traditional sense. Yes, they also did my laundry for me and even cleaned my house (I didn't ask). I of course worked on their cars, gardened with them, lots of grunt jobs and so on. I don't purposely go after only women that are like that, but I think deep down if they are not, I will somehow find some kinda problem and drop them sooner than later. Not looking for girls that are like guys. Also I have no problem cooking and cleaning as well. Not like I expect them to baby me. That's you, but the person you quoted specifically mentioned that she doesn't expect the guy to do any traditional 'guy jobs' like fixing cars etc, so she doesn't expect them to expect her to do the traditional 'girl jobs'. Sounds fair to me IMO.
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