KikiSW Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I hope this isn't too complicated, I just needed to vent. My boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me 2 months ago and I still can't stop thinking about him! I have been in previous relationships that lasted way longer, but when they ended it didn't hurt me as bad as this recent one. I can't really pin point what made him different from the other guys. He and I were COMPLETE OPPOSITE of each other. He had a lot of baggage which is mainly the reason he broke up with me. He wasn't my type and I didn't like him at first, but he was so nice and sweet to me that I couldn't resist. He did anything for me...I just got this feeling that he really cared about me more than any other guy has. He texted me a month ago and told me he saw me out with my friends one night, but he didn't want to speak to me because me and him aren't together anymore. I told him I wish he would have said something because I missed him, and then he said he only saw me as a friend. After all we have been through in those 3 months I can't believe he now sees me as a friend. Why did he even text me and tell me he saw me if he wasn't going to speak? We haven't spoken since then but yet he's still on my mind. I miss being with him and now I feel lonely and like I have no one to talk to. All of my other relationships were meaningless, but I thought this one was different. Most of my friends are in relationships and I'm that lonely single girl. Do I miss having a special relationship, or do I miss him? I don't know. However I'm 21, I just recently graduated and just got a job 8 hours away and I'll be moving next month...so I don't even know why I still care. Maybe I'm afraid I won't meet any new guys...I don't really have much luck with relationships. I want to call/text him so bad, but I'm afraid he won't want to talk to me...or he has a new girlfriend. I feel crazy because we were only together for 3 months! I mean...if he really cared he would call me?
Author KikiSW Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Are you generally the dumper or dumpee...? Dumper. That was the first time I've ever been dumped
USMCHokie Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Dumper. That was the first time I've ever been dumped Yea, that pretty much explains it. Welcome to the club. And to answer your question, it's a combination of missing him, missing a relationship, and a bruised ego from being dumped. Everyone's different in what hurts the most.
Svet74 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I just read my own story lol I feel ya girl. how long were you guys together?
Author KikiSW Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Yea, that pretty much explains it. Welcome to the club. And to answer your question, it's a combination of missing him, missing a relationship, and a bruised ego from being dumped. Everyone's different in what hurts the most. Hhmm I never looked at it like that. I guess I better just suck it up and move on. Thanks
Author KikiSW Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I just read my own story lol I feel ya girl. how long were you guys together? Glad I'm not alone lol 3 months
Exit Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Heh it's so true that it's an entirely different experience depending on which side of the breakup you're on. I have a female friend who was always the dumper, even broke off an engagement at one point, and just recently she got dumped in a relationship that was less than a year and she hardly knows what to do with herself and is having a really hard time. It really hurts your ego and it is harder to let go when you weren't the one wanting to let it go in the first place. I, on the other hand, am hardly ever the dumper, and I'm sure sometimes you can dump someone and still miss them, but simply because it was your choice and you knew it was coming, it's probably a hell of a lot easier to get over. Welcome to this side of the tracks, it's not fun...
Author KikiSW Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Well I can't help but think we had something I never had in any other relationship, but I guess he didn't feel that way. It just hurts....
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