usedtobehappy Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 My husband and I have been married 6 years, together much longer. We have had a lot of trouble the last few years with not connecting. We rarely have sex, and I feel like he takes his life frustrations out on me. We have had many, many discussions about our sex life, he wants sex more often and I would like to be happier with our relationship. He is very moody and angry most of the time. I used to love sex, and still have some drive, but can't bring myself to initiate sex when I am feeling it because I usually don't "like" him as a result of some current attitude he has. I used to be a very happy individual but his relentless complaining about everyone and everything around him has made me feel trapped, resentful and like a former shell of myself. I try not to allow him to affect me, but my emotions are very much a reflection of his. He claims he's happier when we have sex, but to be frank we have had sex and he will have a melt down about something a few hours later. I am very frustrated that he never touches me in an affectionate manner unless he wants some and when he does touch me it is never anything romantic, purely sexual. Of course he knows how I feel, but the only response I get is "well you don't do that for me" and "I always initiate sex, it would be nice if you would initiate". We are both aware of what the other wants and needs but somehow can't make it work beyond a stretch of a few weeks of significant effort. Inevitably, we fall back into the same patterns. I would like hear any comments or suggestions. Sometimes I really believe that men are from mars women are from venus...too bad we have to live on the same planet.
MuscleCarFan Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Have you tried marriage counseling for both of you or at least by yourself?
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