caricky Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Hello! I am 29 years old. Back in Jan I asked for advice on a situation I was in. Basicaly I had feelings for a 17 now 18 year old female and was hesitating on wether to take a chance with this girl because of the age gap. I did wait till March when she had turned 18 and then started to talk on a much more personal level to her. During our conversations I did find out a lot about her life and her opinions on certain matters, I managed to gain the knowledge that to her age doesn't matter, her parents had a 12 year age difference. I took this as my que that it was worth taking a chance. I then asked the girl out, the answer I received was " I think your a good guy, a really good friend, but it could never be anything more". Fair enough, I thought, at least I took the chance. you dont get if you dont ask. My problem has been since that I've found it "really" difficult to be her friend, I still have the same feelings about her even though 3 months have passed and every time I see her I want more, to me she is absolutely beautiful, I like her in every way. I cant imagine finding anybody else who matches up to what she is. I do, because I like her so much want to get over these feelings, which by the way are the strongest I have ever felt, and want to respect her decision. I just dont know where to go from here, at this moment I cant imagine the feelings going. Can anyone offer me advice or words of encouragement on where to go. Regards.
packersgirl Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 Wow. Well, the best advice I can give you is give it time. I know that right now its tough to be her friend, but maybe thats what she needs right now. Not to mention she may feel uncomfortable with you being 11 years older than she is. Just because her parents have a 12 year age difference doesn't mean that she wants that as well. Though, I will say that parental dating habits do get passed down to their children (both my grandma and mom dated/married younger men, and wouldn't you know it, naturally I look towards younger men). I really think you should try your best to stick by her side as a friend. If you really like this girl, then you will do your best to be there for her, as a friend or boyfriend, it wouldn't really matter. Most girls want a guy who'll be their best friend above all things. Good luck with everything!
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