cloud81 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone! I don't know where to start but I'll try not to make the post too long. So, in short: I am guy, 30, and while the rest of my life goes pretty well, I can't get a date to save my life. Yeah I know: you have probably read many threads where guys start their "pity party" but they won't take any advice or want to work on improving themselves. In my case, however, I worked a whole lot on myself for the last 4 years and I improved in many areas. My personal and social life have improved, but regarding women nothing of this ever seems to work. I meet a lot of women and have no problem talking to them or making friends, but I still seem to spark no attraction at all in any girl I meet. I have gone through hundreds of rejections these years (too many for it to be just "bad luck") and I find myself completely stuck at this, and for no known reason! Now, I am beginning to realize that I won't be able to fix this alone but honestly, I have no idea who I can go to for help. A psychologist might do the trick if I was shy or socially ackward, but that's not the case. And they require too much time/money to just "try". There are also these "PUA bootcamps", but are expensive, far from my home and I don't really believe in all those methods like memorizing routines and such. I have also tried telling my problem to some friends I trust (3 female and 1 male), but they either dismiss the problem or can't identify what is wrong. Any ideas here? Edited May 27, 2012 by cloud81
Balzac Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Urban dweller? You've never had a date in the past 24 months? Your friends offer nothing?
Author cloud81 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Yes I live in a city. Not very large, but I never had trouble to meet new people. About dates... well depends what you consider a date. There have been many times when I would go out with a female friend, but it was always a "just friends" context. As for real dates, just a couple of them in the last 4 years. My friends have introduced me to women as well, but they never showed any real interest in me. Some would even flirt back, but only in a joking manner: they would give me excuses when I asked them out.
Balzac Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 How do you follow up? It sounds like you are "dating" girls that really aren't your type. It's really difficult to give you appropriate feedback absent additional info. What age group are you targeting? Education level? You know to some degree it's a numbers game for men.
Author cloud81 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Balzac, I did not provide more detail because I was not trying to get answers directly from the forum. I think it would be impossible for the people here to guess what is wrong without knowing me personally. That's why my thread was more focused in knowing who to ask for help. I mean ask in person, to someone who can actually look and talk to me.
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