Sid6.7 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 When you spend all of your money, you become broke When you become broke you end up playing a ukulele naked in the streets for money When people see you naked with a ukulele it can be embarrassing When you are in embarrassed you try to find therapy When you seek therapy you find yourself on LS looking for therapy and financial advice Don't find yourself on LS looking for therapy and financial advice.
Els Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I don't agree with this. I think people need a balance of work and play or else they become miserable but it is not the responsibility of another person to fund this lifestyle. If people also realized you don't need to spend a small fortune to have fun they would also be much happier. Yep, agreed. If you are frugal and spend wisely, even a full-time minimum wage job is enough to pay the bills. Heck, even grad students manage to support themselves, and they get paid less than most full-time minimum wage earners. The discrepancy usually arises when both partners prioritize different things - one wants a comfortable/lavish lifestyle and is willing to work to get it while another prefers a simple lifestyle doing what he/she has passion for. In that case, it isn't one partner being 'selfish', it's up to them to work out the incompatibilities. Personally, I have great respect for people who do something that they're passionate for, even if it means a simpler lifestyle. Some of them are men, as well, and their families are very supportive of that. That isn't to say that SAHPs aren't valuable, either. Simply, partner roles are each family's decision.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 The discrepancy usually arises when both partners prioritize different things - one wants a comfortable/lavish lifestyle and is willing to work to get it while another prefers a simple lifestyle doing what he/she has passion for. The discrepancy often happens when one person wants to pursue an interesting but low paying job, while expecting their spouse to be the family's breadwinner working a boring but well-paying job. That's what I call being selfish.
Laveli Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Ex asked me "if we do marry will I be able to stay home, like my mom and just raise the kids?"
Els Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I don't know too many people who do the above. Most of the people I know who pursue their passions understand that they must scale down to a simpler lifestyle that THEY themselves can afford because of it. Even if they don't contribute equally to bills, they compensate by doing a SAHP's job in addition to their 'hobby'.
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