freetolove Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men, how much do you care about a women's financial situation? It's a new era, I'm a splitting point in my career. I've been successful in the past and my options are now to WORK hard(er), move up => lots of $$, stability, perks etc OR go into human services (my original professional) that I loved but PAY was horrible. Most people would say go for what you love but I've been broke/poor before and it feels horrible not being able to provide basics needs. The high paying job doesn't feel all the great any more. For men, how much do you care about a female's financial success?
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 This is going to vary widely for individuals (as with everything), but the bf says that he's all good as long as I do something and am happy with it. He doesn't need/want a woman to pay his bills. 2
irin Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 im not a man, but always puzzled on how men view women and money, - if dont make enough and they do, you might be a golddiger, - if you make more them them, they are intimidated by it - or sometimes in marriages where the man is the main provider they seems to think they can get away with anything, because they are the breadwinner... so confusing. 3
Fondue Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It is important to me. Or rather, it is important that they are SMART financially. As in, be able to spend their money wisely. If you're spending your money on hair products and shoes, but then complain about your financial situation, I can't help but find you to be an idiot. If you make enough money to allow yourself these luxuries, then I'm totally cool with it . 1
carhill Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 For men, how much do you care about a female's financial success? I'm more interested in what she does with what she has, financially. This is reflective of socialization where the family financial manager did a lot with very little. That person happened to be a woman and a great example. Those choices ensured her a secure life long after her husband died. IME, discovering such nuances takes place over a long time during the 'get to know' process. People generally seek to project a positive and attractive image to a potential mate so the realities of their financial style are revealed over time. 1
threebyfate Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 What you'll find is that there's no "all" category for what men want. Worry less about what men want and work towards financial freedom so anything's possible. 1
kaylan Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 (edited) Men, how much do you care about a women's financial situation? It's a new era, I'm a splitting point in my career. I've been successful in the past and my options are now to WORK hard(er), move up => lots of $$, stability, perks etc OR go into human services (my original professional) that I loved but PAY was horrible. Most people would say go for what you love but I've been broke/poor before and it feels horrible not being able to provide basics needs. The high paying job doesn't feel all the great any more. For men, how much do you care about a female's financial success? I say do what you love. Thats my goal. But my goal isnt to be poor. I want to do what I love but at least make a decent wage where I can live comfortably. I wouldnt want to live like a bum though lol. Id take a job I love making decent cash, over a job I dislike but was making lots of cash. If a woman can provide for herself, contribute to the household, and doesnt expect me to pay for most things just because Im a man, then she sounds like a solid gal to me. It sounds though that you would be taking a job where you struggle all the time, so I advise against that. Id say go back to school in the field you love, so you can at least make a liveable and decent wage with a higher degree. Most human services professions require a Masters to make any decent cash dont they? Anyways, I wouldnt want to end up married a woman whos barely making ends meet. That means everything would fall squarely on my shoulders once we have a family...and thats hard to do in this day and age. I want to be able to do what I love as well and not be expected to be some workhorse who makes a lot of money but hates his job. I think men and women should be afforded that choice, but usually women get to go that route more than men due to societal pressures and expectations. And as I said, I dont want a woman who expects me to take care of her. I was raised to desire a woman who can take care of herself and doesnt have grand expectations. This is going to vary widely for individuals (as with everything), but the bf says that he's all good as long as I do something and am happy with it. He doesn't need/want a woman to pay his bills. If she can take care of herself comfortably, most of us are ok. Men arent worried about a woman paying his bills. We are worried about her paying her own bills and contributing to the household or family bills.What you'll find is that there's no "all" category for what men want. Worry less about what men want and work towards financial freedom so anything's possible. This. While having a job you love is a great idea, you cant live poor. You need financial freedom, even if your goal is to live to work, and not to work to live.im not a man, but always puzzled on how men view women and money, - if dont make enough and they do, you might be a golddiger, - if you make more them them, they are intimidated by it - or sometimes in marriages where the man is the main provider they seems to think they can get away with anything, because they are the breadwinner... so confusing. Im not intimidated by a womans money, and many men arent. The problem lies in how many women with money, view men who make less than them. A good amount of these women still try to date up, and when they happen to date guys who make less, they may do, say, or internalize certain feelings about him that would put him down. Because apparently, even in 2012, for many people, the man HAS to make the most money and spend it on his woman in order to be truly masculine. Its silly that some men and women buy into that. Im looking for a partner though, and her being loaded wouldnt bother me. I wouldnt mind being pampered myself Edited May 27, 2012 by kaylan
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men arent worried about a woman paying his bills. We are worried about her paying her own bills and contributing to the household or family bills. This is a fair point, but the bf just thinks differently about it, from how you do. As I said, every individual differs.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It's true. I'm intimidated by a woman who makes more money than I do. Whenever I meet a woman who makes more money than me I break out in spots and go into violent convulsions. Oh, it's happening right now! I just spotted my next door neighbor. She's a medical doctor and she makes more in a month than I make in almost a year. She's walking past my window right now. Just seeing her makes me go into convulsions. I can bbbbbarely type on my kkkkkeybooooard. Ohhhhhhhhh! Get real. I think it's stupid to say that men are intimidated by women who make more money than them. If men were intimidated by women with wealth, we wouldn't allow women to hold positions of power and acquire wealth.
Negative Nancy Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 If men were intimidated by women with wealth, we wouldn't allow women to hold positions of power and acquire wealth. as if you have any say in that
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 as if you have any say in that I'll have more say in it than a stay-at-home mom.
mesmerized Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It's true. I'm intimidated by a woman who makes more money than I do. Whenever I meet a woman who makes more money than me I break out in spots and go into violent convulsions. Oh, it's happening right now! I just spotted my next door neighbor. She's a medical doctor and she makes more in a month than I make in almost a year. She's walking past my window right now. Just seeing her makes me go into convulsions. I can bbbbbarely type on my kkkkkeybooooard. Ohhhhhhhhh! Get real. I think it's stupid to say that men are intimidated by women who make more money than them. If men were intimidated by women with wealth, we wouldn't allow women to hold positions of power and acquire wealth. Men love a woman with money ! My friend has a high status job and makes good money, men pay more attention to her as soon as she says what she does. Men are golddiggers nowadays lol 4
Sid6.7 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It's true. I'm intimidated by a woman who makes more money than I do. Whenever I meet a woman who makes more money than me I break out in spots and go into violent convulsions. Oh, it's happening right now! I just spotted my next door neighbor. She's a medical doctor and she makes more in a month than I make in almost a year. She's walking past my window right now. Just seeing her makes me go into convulsions. I can bbbbbarely type on my kkkkkeybooooard. Ohhhhhhhhh! Get real. I think it's stupid to say that men are intimidated by women who make more money than them. If men were intimidated by women with wealth, we wouldn't allow women to hold positions of power and acquire wealth. Heh, fair point. Ever noticed that independently wealthy women are not exactly, lookers. What I mean is, women that have earned their money themselves from the ground up are not attractive women. I noticed in money magazine a while back the list of 2012's top ten female billionaire's. None of which are hot by any stretch of the imagination. I can't recall the last time I saw a super hot chick driving a luxury high end car and thought to myself; Wow! She must be some kind of high end executive. The reason being is hot women don't have to double down while in school on their studies, instead they are out on the town having a great time being adulated by Men while the fuglies are studying hard, because it's really their only option. Hot women on the other hand have suckers that will pay for them. I really don't think a man should be intimidated by the wealth of a female. I'm not, they are my peers and nothing more.
kaylan Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men love a woman with money ! My friend has a high status job and makes good money, men pay more attention to her as soon as she says what she does. Men are golddiggers nowadays lol Duh....why do you think Im working out so hard? Attractive women with cash need some chocolate arm candy =P 1
Sid6.7 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Duh....why do you think Im working out so hard? Attractive women with cash need some chocolate arm candy =P I agree although, the girls that have real cash, I mean real wealth are going to be the fat and fuglies. Unless you like coyote arm I don't know that I can go that route.
Woggle Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 All that matters to me is that she has her own and doesn't mooch off of me. We can share but she needs to contribute her part as well. Male gold diggers are as bad as the female ones. How can a person leech off of somebody and still look at themselves in the mirror?
lino Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 So long as she doesn't pile up a huge debt on rubbish, it's all good. Status, big salaries and job titles don't make a person and therefore aren't important to me.
utterer of lies Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men, how much do you care about a women's financial situation? It's a new era, I'm a splitting point in my career. I've been successful in the past and my options are now to WORK hard(er), move up => lots of $$, stability, perks etc OR go into human services (my original professional) that I loved but PAY was horrible. Most people would say go for what you love but I've been broke/poor before and it feels horrible not being able to provide basics needs. The high paying job doesn't feel all the great any more. For men, how much do you care about a female's financial success? Go for work harder. Financial independence will make so many decisions easier for you. More options are better.
Sid6.7 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 How can a person leech off of somebody and still look at themselves in the mirror? I know you were speaking in terms of a male. But let's speculate, shall we? Let's have some fun. Nicole Smith Kourtney Kardashian Elin Woods The girls next door (playboy) Shawn Southwick Ivana Trump Oksana Grigorieva Kobe's (ex)wife Vanessa Sarah furgeson Heather Mills Ron Givens Victoria Beckam Pia Zadora (on let's not forget her) Pamela Churchill Hayward Harriman Johnny Carson's ex - Don't remember her name Linda Eastman (although she did have money just wanted more) Chelsea Handler Kathy Griffin Kate Middleton And anyone married to the Kennedy's And these are just the people in the spotlight. All I can think of, other than Federline. He played his cards right.
sb129 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Victoria Beckham had money of her own- she was a member of one of the biggest girl bands in the UKs music history. She still makes her own money. 1
sb129 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Oh and a quick Internet search confirms that Chelsea handler and kathy griffin have well paying careers of their own too so not sure where you're going with that?
Sid6.7 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Oh and a quick Internet search confirms that Chelsea handler and kathy griffin have well paying careers of their own too so not sure where you're going with that? I was just shooting from the hip, thanks for the correction. I guess what they had wasn't enough, they wanted his money too.
musemaj11 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Yeah, when it comes to the Beckhams, David is the beauty and Victoria is the money actually. Anyway, one thing I find puzzling is that women just like men dont like it when they are judged by how much money they have. But ironically they do that to men all the time. I say lets all be male gold diggers so women can taste their own medicine. 1
Woggle Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Some of those women make their own money and are not gold diggers at all.
Woggle Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Yeah, when it comes to the Beckhams, David is the beauty and Victoria is the money actually. Anyway, one thing I find puzzling is that women just like men dont like it when they are judged by how much money they have. But ironically they do that to men all the time. I say lets all be male gold diggers so women can taste their own medicine. Two wrongs don't make a right. I hate it when women use this logic to justify cheating and other things so I won't do it to them. A woman who has earned her own money instead of leeching off of a man should not be punished for the actions of others. I do think that alimony reform will only get taken seriously when more and more women start having to pay their exes just because a marriage didn't work out. 1
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