Ellekay Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Hey everyone So There's this guy I've been seeing (as a friend) for about a week, he added me on Facebook and we've been talking everyday, he's so sweet, so nice to me, and I thought he was interested in me, because he kinda flirts with me sometimes. And yesterday we went out to the beach everything was going well, we were talking about his ex (because I used to know her very well when they were dating), and he starts telling me that he knew she was cheating on him, and I was like oh yeah with your friend R****, and apparantley he never knew this so I had to explain him everything, and ever since all he does is talk to me about her, in a mean way but still, he went on for a whole day about her, he called her 3 times to clear everything up, and I just got on the phone with him and we talked for 2 hours and all we did was talk about her, the thing is it's really hard for me to hear stuff like this even though he keeps dissing her, I want to talk about other stuff too, and I asked him : Would you consider getting back with her ? And he was like : I don't know, I don't think so. And then he says that he hated her personnality but he still liked her, he says that relationship meant nothing to him but I can see in his eyes that he's really hurt. So my question is, do I stil have a chance or is he stille hung up on his ex ? Because I really like him...HELP
d'Arthez Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 He is not over his ex yet. If you get involved now, chances are you have to keep on dealing with his baggage. Better to wait, or find someone else you like. Mind you, don't beat yourself up about telling him with whom his ex cheated. If you had started the relationship and he would have discovered you knew, the relationship would be under very severe stress.
KathyM Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 He's still hung up on his ex. I would suggest you tell him you're going to let him be for awhile to heal from his prior relationship, because it's obvious he's not over it yet.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 You'll just be a rebound Ellekay, whatever he does with you and what he feels with you will be associated with his feelings for her, because he isn't over her. Sure he might kiss you, sleep with you, say a bunch of crap he doesn't really mean that will put you in the clouds...but it will be short lived, so unless you're not ok with that proposition then go for...although I'd find that surprising. Hoping that things will change, or he's going to transfer those emotions to you that he has for you, or that he's getting over her while getting to know you is the oldest trick in the book, on yourself. You sound young, I guess you're allowed to play yourself for a fool to an extent...just take it from the wise and be careful what you invest, you're not going to get what you want out of this and even If you think you do it'll be all for the wrong reasons...let it go If you'd rather not be hurt in the end.
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