Sugarkane Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I was talking to my older cousin recently. He mentioned that his friend broke up with his long term gf. It was out of the blue and she took it badly. Really similar to my breakup. Yet my cousin still remained friends with her abd didn't take sides no matter what, unlike what happened to me. So to the people that insulted me for asking why did everyone take my exes side. See it is possible not to be a two faced jerk who takes sides.
d'Arthez Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Really not sure what you are asking here. It seems like a statement, without any question involved.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I wonder why they couldn't be more like my cousin. I guess it's easier just to be a Ahole sheep and follow the pack, with someone who just uses people
d'Arthez Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 They don't look at the "facts" (which are often highly coloured when they are provided by just 1 party), but rather make the decisions on an emotional basis. People are usually tied to their loyalties, and as a consequence struggle to look at things from a distanced perspective.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 My cousin could though. Although most people aren't like him.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I hope they all get GIGS, since they married young. That's weird in this day and age
d'Arthez Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Sadly most people are not like that. It sounds like your cousin leads (or at least prefers to lead) a relatively drama free life. There is a lot of value in that, even though it may come at a cost to him (I assume his friend is not too pleased). People in general take the path of least resistance. Your cousin is definitely an exception to the rule. I am sorry to hear that did not happen to you, when you had drama in your life. Breakups are messy things.
g450 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Yeah that's just the way it is sometimes. In my case my XW made it easy because she completely alianated not only my family but her own as well. Even some of her old friends told me "she changed" and "I dont know her anymore". The entire time this was happening my XW made a bunch of new online friends from her HS daze. And of course there were all her little bitter single divorced middle aged girlfriends she hung out with on the weekends. It's just like that old saying. Birds of a feather flock together.
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