freetolove Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I went on a few dates with a guy that initially I had a lot of attraction to but afterwards realized that we aren't really a good match (hard to explain, it's just a gut feeling) either way, he seems really interested and I feel bad for just telling him I'm busy. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he seems like a cool guy, what are some ways to let him go easily without putting him through the agony of lots of texts, calls etc I don't want to waste his time (or mine). Please give specific examples. e.g. hel calls, I pick up. makes small talk then, "I don't think we'll work out long term?" Would that be rude since we didn't even talk about long term?
veggirl Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 When he asks you out you say "No thank you, I'm sorry but I'm not interested. Good luck" don't just ignore / flake. It's been 3 dates. He is a big boy, he will be okay. 1
USMCHokie Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I never understand people's "concern" for others in situations like this. If you are never going to see him again, how will "letting him down easy" in any way change the dynamic of your social situation with him...? Dating has its ugly side as well...just tell him you're not interested and then everyone can move on. Better to have ended it now rather than a year from now...
ScienceGal Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Just be honest and direct. Tell him you don't feel you share the kind of connection you're looking for and you wish him the best. And they don't respond if he tries to question or plead with you because it will just create unnecessary dialogue. He'll be fine, don't worry.
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